How to Be a REAL Friend

There is a difference between being polite, and being genuinely friendly. In this video we will discuss how every Christian should act towards each other.

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[True_Judah]

I am a terrible friend. I will do almost anything for those I care about, but I feel afraid of being close to people. I realize how detrimental it is to isolate oneself, even as an introvert. Also on the flip side, when I get to know people it’s almost like they’re predisposed to unlike me. I’m stuck between this weird dynamic of suffering from being alone and desiring friendship. No matter what, God is great.

[nancymeehan]

After my sister died, I broke down sobbing at church. People looked at me like I was crazy and walked he other way,

[ianandersen]

Here's another key issue that helps me as an introvert: Take it one person at a time, and continue to engage with that person. Once you know you have a firm friendship with them, and you are talking/meeting with them regularly successfully, keep up the conversations, and consider expanding your role in the Body of Christ. Just don't get carried away. Be patient. Many times in life, smaller is better.

[cristianpopescu]

Most people have no interrest. Even in the Church. Thats the reality.I have accepted it .

[lewisedwards]

As a Christian in my late 20’s, every “friendship” I have with fellow church members feels like we’re coworkers penciling each other in so we can “check off the box” of “socializing”. It never feels like anyone actually want to be close friends and talk about anything deep or personal- sharing each other’s struggles and successes. I’m *incredibly* lonely and frustrated. Like I’m just too late because I met them as an adult and they’re already got all the relationships they want.

[peterthomas]

Step no 6 for people struggling with pride: recognise that all of the they and thems in this video also apply to you. Let people love you, be willing to share your struggles and needs, be willing to be corrected, and other people might be feeling discouraged by your imperfections too. Spoken from someone who’s learnt the long and hard way and still learning

[razena]

Honestly, I have been thinking about the best way I can be a friend to others, especially towards my friends who are non believers and that don't have the same values. Thank you so much and God bless!

[justapseudonym]

My husband is not necessarily nice or smooth talking, but he's definitely kind while I'm the opposite. It was very eye opening when we first became friends because I'd been a people pleaser all my life

[isaiahvoss]

I believe every Christian tries to be a good friend. I've had Christian friendships almost all the time where they were only showing their church face but they don't promote unity. The enemy has divided people in my life but i'm still friends with those people until this day. I know I haven't either shown unity but I have to show love the way Jesus did to his disciples as well as garnish the fruit of the spirit. This is something I need to work on is to be more positive and humble. Church is a gathering to worship like a family or like a flock of sheep.

[MichaelGabela-kf]

I used to want friends and I would pray to God everyday for them, but in truth I never looked at the people who were right there....I used to run away from peoples imperfections, claiming they are just not holy enough.I used to avoid people by just judging them.When they try to talk to me I put on my church face, I could not really make any friends in school because I always wanted to see their imperfection and tell them to pray.Not knowing how much pain I caused them. I finished Last year in highschool being called the holy one..I used to take pride in it but now I see it was just fueling ny pride and also pushing a lot of people who genuinely just wanted to be my friends away thinking they were not holy enough..Lord forgive me.

Pls remember to love people despite their background, look beyond their imperfections and love them.I now see that the friends I was praying for to come were the ones I was pushing away all along.Be humble and love like Jesus.Do not seek your own RIGHTEOUSNESS..but just love.

Lord forgive us for judging and I pray who ever reads this will learn from their mistakes just like I did .

Amen..

[NoName-ubto]

Thank you for saying that church is more than a social group and that when other people are hurting, we need to hurt with them. I've been to a lot of churches over the years where people try to force you smile and act like you're happy when you're not. Some also only acknowledge certain kinds of struggles like sickness and death, but won't pray for people who are not members, people going through divorces, losing jobs, losing homes or other life struggles. Weeping with those who weep means praying for everything.

[WearyBear]

I absolutely agreed with this video. The church is supposed to be a fellowship of community, not a show or a chat room. This is the exact reason why I'm hanging on to church by my fingernails. I feel ridiculous showing up to what is a travesty to the New Testament. All the videos I watch tell me to not give up on church, but what if church gave up on me? What if I need authentic, but that no longer exists?

[jayeckson]

I needed to hear this. A few days ago I was hurt very badly by a family member who spent years telling me how much they love me and consider me "one of their own" (adult children.) I have been so shocked, confused, angry, and honestly, distraught, that it's been hard to eat or sleep. All I want to do is sit this person down and wave my arms around and ask them how on earth they don't see what they did was wrong. But this person in other situations has simply gotten defensive and made up ways to justify any actions that seem selfish to others. They have not spoken personally to me at all since the incident, but are pretending they aren't avoiding me by posting normal upbeat everyday things in the family group chat as if nothing else happened. I already know I shouldn't approach them in anger, which is why I have taken time to process and pray. And I do still love this person. Now I am doing my best to figure out how to approach them in an honest but sincerely loving way that will not further damage but hopefully heal and grow our relationship.

[salve]

You don’t know how badly I am struggling now. But this video.. wow. Thank God. Grace.

[Coryphaeus.]

We are more than friends, we are family we are brother and sister in christ even thou we dont have same blood or same parents but still we are family brother and sister in christ and that is unity.God bless you my brother and sister in Christ around the world.

[OtamaLuke]

Where has this channel been my whole life? Thank you for not just good advice, but biblical ones. I think one thing thats crucial is to always pray for you friend. It may already be a given, but orayer is powerful!

[-mssrry-]

I had a bad falling out with some friends, and we haven't spoken in months. I don't want to try and rekindle the friendships, but I was thinking about them today and watched this video. I remembered how many things I did wrong, as well as what they did, and I'm trying to keep that in mind. Sometimes we don't know the lessons God will give to us after a painful time in life, but He is going to help you through it :)

[yeralinthesalcedo]

Some of my friends are not really good friends sometimes, I know that they sometimes look up to me when I am negative. But some of them GOSSIP me. They INFECTED me with their unclean whispers. They sometimes HURT me EMOTIONALLY, and one kid he is Catholic, BUT he swears, isn't swearing a sin? I got infected and swear a little. God forgive my friends and family, for I am a child infected with unclean lips. Help them believe in you, for one of them is an atheist. The rest are just filled with profane and gossip. Forgive my family for they profane and blaspheme, forgive all of us, Lord, forgive me, God, for I swear a little and is cowardly, for I sometimes commit sloth, I didn't repent will enough, you are good, Lord, forgive us, Lord, forgive all of us, in Jesus's name I pray, AMEN! thank you guys for this message, God bless you so much!

[t.v.]

Thank you for adding Efesians, for sometimes, we blame people not knowing that it is the evil forces that are influencing them. Therefore, let's be merciful and humble just like Jesus was even to the worst of sinners. And let's try to love one another peacefully and hopefully while still keeping our guard up because the evil one is constantly throwing fiery darts at us. God bless 🙏🏼

[cryptic-jack]

Thank you for this video and thank you holy spirit. Just a few minutes ago, I was thinking about my friend who doesn't want to fully embrace our Lord Jesus. I will keep pn praying for him.