What to do when you get angry with yourself...

Do you turn all the anger inward instead of toward the people who hurt you? Especially in childhood trauma, expressing anger was not a safe option. Dealing or trying to manage that anger can be confusing and painful...

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[loritamannorita]

I never thought of where all this anger towards myself was coming from. I can get triggered and go on a rant of my failures until I being myself to tears and feel worthless and suicidal. I knew it wasn't logical, but it still happened. I do have a lot of pent up anger towards my abusers. Things I wish I could have said or done to them but couldn't bc it would have been dangerous. Thank you for this insight and the love and rainbows. I really enjoy your videos. I feel less alone in my journey to healing.

[paulasynjohnson]

I am (almost) constantly replaying past events in my head, reenacting what I should have done differently or as an interview telling a friend what went on. My thoughts are always calm at first but get intensely angry. Negative rumination gone mad. A bad recent experience at the Drs, a classmate steeling my lego at aged 7, my school teacher making me carry her hot cup of coffee day after day so eventually my coordination would improve enough so I would stop burning my hands (eversion therapy she called it), and 18months of hell being stalked by a woman with bipolar on my allotment. They're all in there along with countless other traumatic events. And maybe if I wasn't so meek and mild and stood up for myself I wouldn't have gone through any of them.

[jencgold]

Thank you so much. Your videos are really inspiring. ❤️❤️🤗🤗 Letting go of anger is great. But the grief is overwhelming.

[mmasechabafrancescaseopa]

Thank you for this video. I just recently noticed that I do have a lot of anger that was supposed to be directed to those who abused me, but I’m directing the anger towards myself. This is where self harming came into play. I wasn’t fully conscious about how the anger was manifesting, however, my psychiatrist made me aware of this. I got help and I’m gradually tapering off of poor coping mechanisms. Anger and guilt are really important topics that a lot of people with CPTSD should address, because they keep resurfacing in one form or another if they are unaddressed. Thank you for all that you do

[lc]

Nail on head you hit Tanja. I have been working on shifting the anger outward toward my abusers for quite some time and for myself, it has been a struggle; but I have made a lot of progress and that makes the struggle worthwhile. Thanks for the encouragement.

[THEELDER]

I was abused by my Father for years, as were my siblings.

I have directed anger at him on a couple of occasions now, but I also know I have to forgive him and move on.
I told him I forgive but I can NEVER forget!

I made sure when my own son was born he had the exact opposite childhood to mine.

I am a very empathetic person, because I know how it feels to grow up with no confidence or self worth.

Thanks Tanja, you are a wise and beautiful person. Thank you for your advice and videos. xx

[Yamshkey]

Thank you for your videos!! I've been in therapy for 5+ for (non-complex) ptsd and have made huge progress. I've found your videos really helpful and educational. I appreciate your positivity, thank you!

[mybestmeaesthetics]

I am so sad now after hearing your talk. The extended betrayal trauma that I experienced is unbelievable and very painful. I had difficulty putting all the pieces together and being able to write my story. It was hard to receive feedback from others that they didn't believe. None of my therapists explain how to redirect my anger toward them. I am still suffering.

[PS-hlml]

Hi I had a friend who committed suicide and I developed trauma and anxiety about having negative emotions towards him. And now I feel anxiety and depression from having anger towards him.. how to I heal from that?

[alanajones]

I'm so glad I just found your channel. How do we begin to direct that anger outwards, instead of inwards unhealthily?

[ttt]

In everything I do, when I try to improve at said thing I always hit a point where I stop improving and stop having fun and turn inward on myself. I don’t think I have high standards for myself, I just get so frustrated when I feel like I’m losing valuable time on something the shouldn’t be taking SO MUCH DAMN TIME. I blame myself and think I’m wrong for even trying if I’m not gonna get better and just waste the day away. This is amplified when the thing I’m doing is super important too. I’ve never been a good test taker, because the homework always pisses me off so much. So school was a struggle to say the least, but now in my everyday life I have to deal with this overwhelming anger whenever I try something new. Every time I

[Francisc_]

I often get mad at myself for messing things up. I think the anger is valid just not always too helpful in the moment