Authenticity vs Just Being an A**hole - Teal Swan

Living by and speaking your own truth is not just an important spiritual practice, it is an important life practice. The problem is that it can give people the license to say whatever they want, regardless of the impact on others, all in the name of moral honesty. In this episode, Teal explains that brutal honesty is not to be taken lightly and explains how we can go about expressing our opinions in ways that benefit instead of harm each other.

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Teal Swan is a New Thought Leader and a Bestselling Author who is an expert in human development and relationships. She has over a decade of experience working with people of all walks of life with a mission to reduce human suffering.

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[calidabrisadeverano]

"Do you want a brutal world? If so, be brutally honest. Do you want a tender world? If so, be tenderly honest. " I love this :)

[ELMKTF]

"If a voice, whether internally or externally, is not speaking in a loving way then it's not for your benefit." Wow.

[illbetomorrow]

All the haters calling her amateurish and implying that what she says is "bullshit" are in deep denial within themselves. People in denial, will always reject the truth.

[Krysen]

Im absolutely stunned. Not one person in this world has given me such insight like Teal has. I never understood how unhappy, or how much crippling sadness I was experiencing in my life. Im 20 and feel like this should be the height of life. Lately its felt like the end of it. I feel like my life's been given more meaning. Passion has always been part of my spirit, I try to express it like no other now!

[GrahamMilkdrop]

4:42   "Judgement is how the ego navigates it's way through this world." Excellent. .

[zeph]

"When goodness is lost,
there is morality"
~ Lao Tzu

[kiwibrit]

There is a difference between an honesty that comes from our ego and an honesty that comes from the compassionate love of universal energy that is our true authentic selves.

Thank you Teal ❤

[nickackermanchannel]

The book shadows before dawn has been a gift of tender honesty, love your work Teal!

[sunstarsmoon]

If there were more of 'being in anothers shoes' a lot more compassion would happen. Great message Teal!

[nonelost]

At 8:14, Teal says "Whatever it is that you are trying to defend (ex: your religious beliefs), is in fact what you need to be vulnerable and authentic about". TRANSLATION: Thou shalt not have any sacred cows (i.e. religious convictions, read IDOLS). For if the sacred cow be true, it will prevail in the end, without any need to be defended by one's ego. But if the sacred cow be false, it cannot ever win, and no amount of one's egotistical defense advocacy can change that. (see Acts 5:34-39; Rom 3:3, 4)
And yes, btw, that includes my Bible based beliefs as well. I am preaching this to myself just as much as I am to the world, for I surely have my own sacred cows, as surely does everybody else.

[HealingandHypnosisTracks]

I agree, we're all just driven by emotions. Emotions are energies, and we're all just energies and vibration.

[alex-ander-]

9:45 "Pretend to be themselves in their shoes, not ourselves in their shoes."

Thank you Teal.

[starwillow]

One thing I've found if at all possible, especially if it's someone you know pretty well, but that doesn't have to be the case either, is this. Critique, if at all possible with two positives and one negative, so to speak, in any order. It does usually seem to be more therapeutic to do so with two positive observations and then the negative. Starting with positives will, more often than not, open up someone and take them out of the defensive mode. It lets them know you value and perceive what they do or say that promotes a feeling of wellness, at least to you. You can still be authentic, of course, but yeah, I agree tender guidance is much more constructive and more easily accepted compared to brutal honesty. Building up twice and taking down once still ends in encouragement and at the same time allowing yourself to be authentic and stating your position, opinion or observations. Your guidance is beautiful as always Teal.

[theenergyexchange]

amen! we DO "need to care for each others' hearts!" we need to cherish each other!

[forest-wildflower]

"One of the best ways to figure out how to express authentically is to ask yourself, what is the opposite of being defense in this scenario? Whatever you are trying to defend is in fact the vulnerability that you need to be authentic about."
thank you <3

[GabeWells]

After going through my recent divorce, this is really something that hit home. It helped me understand myself, my anger toward my wife's affair, how I have reacted to the situation, and I have treated her since then.

[BlissinaBlink]

Whoever is finding all the images that relate to the script and editing into the video-- I assume it's a small group doing this--well great job guys! The videos always have so much impact with the work going into that.

[elisalu]

Perfect timing! My husband ‘s uncle passed away and we live out of state. His parents did not even invite him to the funeral; he’ was quite upset about it. I wanted to say something to them to let them know how he feels - b/c I know he won’t - this video helped me to see it’s none of my business and not to get involved. Especially since I realized that it triggers my own abandonment issues.

[healingwell]

"if a voice that you are hearing is not delivering a message in a loving way regardless of that voice being inside you or external to you then that voice is not speaking for your specific benefit!"

[davidumansky]

This is one of the best explanations for what I have been feeling and dealing with in my past relationship. I was always made to feel that I was too sensitive about how she delivered her message and the words used. To a point that I started to dislike my own sensitivity. I know realize that I was simply moving away from my authentic self by trying to bury my sensitivity because I was made to believe it was the cause for many of our conflict. When in fact her brutal honesty was simply more about her, then safeguarding my heart and the relationship.