WHY IS EVERYONE AFRAID OF DOUBLE TEXTING?

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[just]

I can’t be the only one who actually likes things to be broken up into multiple texts as it can make information more organized and it helps parse the information

[poposterous]

Its not that the communications were overbearing, the dude got ghosted. The lack of response is weirder.

[xhosagibran]

If no one communicates to you that you’re “annoying”, “texting too much”, “frustrating” etc and expects you to get a hint then they’re the problem.

[Stardust-khjm]

I find it disgusting how that boy was shamed for texting cute, emotional things to his lover. If I received messages like that, I'd be more than flattered.

What is wrong with people?

[Shlooomth]

If you’re socially conscious enough to even wonder if you’re harassing someone, 90% you’re not. The fact that you’re even thinking about it means that you’re not, because you’d know it for sure if you really were. I say this from experience. Social anxiety is hell.

[audioish]

Never get tired of Vaush aggressively loving his community.

[joelslater]

As a cis gendered straight male who is open with his feelings, I appreciate Vaush for calling this out! I have had so many people get awkward because I sent them 2 texts. It's ridiculous!

[Lotofrageking]

Chat once again realizing that they have to develop social skills to have a good social life.

[GrimoireGauss]

I love these "GO TALK TO PEOPLE, MAKE FRIENDS" segments. I've become way more confident in social interactions thanks to vaush's advice

[carterpochynok]

Genuine human connection shouldn't be as hard as it's become. We don't need a line this fine between "attracted" and "desperate". We also need to stop this ghosting BS. You need to acknowledge people. Rejection is a valid form of acknowledgement.

[josephurbanich]

We live in a society where acting secure and detached is what the insecure do, and being vulnerable is what really shows courage.

[BrandyBrans]

This is possibly the best and most valuable segment I’ve ever seen from Vaush.

[Whatevadantewante]

My younger brother asked me one time when he started dating a bunch, "how do you know when to text them?" And I responded, "do you like them? And do you want to talk to them more?" Point is, if you like someone and want to talk to them, then talk to them.

[Lasercatss]

Preach Vaush. I have NEVER been onboard with those social games, and I’ve always been upfront with my feelings. Pretending not to like someone because of ‘dating games’ is psychotic.

[richardpreston]

I once went on a tinder date and she'd let me know she wasn't interested in seeing me again before I got home. Hurt like hell, but she was upfront and polite about it, and I remember her because I still appreciate her honesty.

Anyway, thanks for this - genuinely helped put a few things into perspective.

[michaelsantangelo]

As a cis gender, straight guy, I know that often, showing any emotional investment or enthusiasm gets you labeled "needy." As a person with degrees in psychology and mental health, I say all people have needs. That's why they get into relationships....to fulfil their needs.

[Usagi]

I didn’t realize double texting was a social fopaux. I just thought it was a style/communication choice. My husband double texts pretty much every time. I just thought that his method of communication

[loveisqi.]

As a woman- thank you for saying this!! I find this kind of attitude across all kinds of relationships which makes even making friends super fucking difficult!

[ShadeofIce]

As a straight white male and someone who can't shut up over text, I fully support this message. And I wish more people did.

[dariusradu]

I have not met a single socially healthy and competent person that would be bothered by being texted multiple times. People who find this weird are very insecure people who overthink every little interaction they have with other people and they themselves are terrified of being cringe so they project onto others. I talk from experience, I used to worry about the same shit, until a very good friend who's very socially aware talked me out of it and made me realize I was just shooting myself in the foot every time. It's completely normal to text multiple times. It matters WHAT you say, not how many messages you sent. You can be creepy with only one message, as you can be with multiple. That's the part that matters more.