How to Deal With Being 'Ghosted' | Dating Advice

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Malcolm “MJ” Harris helps you live your best life emotionally, romantically, and financially - and he makes you laugh alot! MJ is an internationally recognized lifestyle and business influencer who has been featured by Oprah, USA Today and Black Enterprise. He has a global reach of over 20 million people each month - across social media and TV. In addition to this, he is the CEO and founder of National Care Financial Group, which is one of America’s largest African-American owned financial services firms. MJ’s rise began when he started creating empowering and aspirational digital content about lessons learned from his path of achieving success after overcoming a childhood surrounded by abuse and addiction. Through his videos, online courses, and live events, he created a loyal global fanbase and quickly became a powerhouse in the self-improvement industry.

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[curtistinemiller]

Ghosting 👻 is not about you its about the immaturity of the other person
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[SM-jurj]

I was just ghosted by a guy that was planning a future with me and it hurts like hell but I’m a strong woman and I WILL get through this. It’s honestly his loss 🤷🏽‍♀️ No man is worth my sanity✌🏽💋

Update: 10/12/2023 This comment was made over 3yrs ago and I found the most amazing man that cherishes and loves me for me. To all of the women that have been ghosted, it gets better I promise!! Just keep your standards extremely high and you will find the right man for you! All love❤️

[LawNerdSoph]

Just been ghosted by a guy that I really thought I could have something with. Guess he just wasnt on my high level 🤷🏾‍♀️💋

[Naketta]

My only problem is they ghosted me but I can’t stop thinking bout them and everything remind me of them 🙄

[camaelyonzm.]

Never take back a ghoster. When a man really wants to be with you he is like a tick you can't pick off. He can't go a day without hearing your voice and would call and listen to you breathe on the phone while he at work. When he not that into you or someone else is more interesting, you are a time filler, an after thought, someone to hit up when he bored, so days of not talking to you feels like nothing to him. You will be strung along then eventually dumped for good.

[nataliechege]

Funny how this man ghosted me even after he talked about how immature it is for a man to lead a woman on to the point of attachment, only to ghost them. But it's fine, I'm healing now. Thank you so much for this video!♥️

[Attenoj]

I just got contacted today by a guy who recently ghosted me. His Birthday is in 9 days so I guess he doesn't want to spend it alone. Anywho, he won't be spending it with me either!✌

[nyirahnunn]

Mostly they had somebody else. I ghost people when I feel like I’m an option or they playing games

[sheila]

My bf ghosted me after 3 years! No official breakup, he suddenly bacame too busy. Right after that I met an incredible guy. Give to the needy, not the greedy!

[ForbiddenTemptation]

When someone ghosts or ignores you, it's clearly disrespect. They're showing disrespect for the time and effort that you had put into getting to know them... I like the analogy of the cup. People who don't want a relationship with you, might come back when their cup is empty, and when you fill it up, they'll disappear again. This is because they need to feel that someone is still there waiting for them, that someone still desires them. It feeds their ego, it makes them feel better. And this game can continue for as long as YOU allow it to. What I'd do is not respond as often, let them message me all they want, let the message sit there unopened for hours or days, never reply fast and never respond to stupid comments, questions or temper tantrums. I'd make myself unavailable most of the time... If you speak clearly of what you want and they don't reciprocate the same effort, make use of that BLOCK button. If they really want you, they'll find a way to contact you again somehow and show they want to be with you.

[sialee]

I wouldn’t waste my time to text them. They ghosting me, is their cowardly way of letting me know that they are gone. No need to validate that. Just ghost them back! Block & delete ASAP👌

[MojeZycieWSkrocie]

Alright hear me out, if you've already accepted the situation, there is really no reason to let them know that. Just match their energy, ghost them back and move on with your life. If they reach out, say in a couple of months, if you're already in a new relationship, shove it up their face (best feeling ever). If you weren't, then let them know that you no longer interested. Either way you win.

[humblek]

I needed this!! Being ghosted after 2 years. Consistent calls and texts, trips, planning our future together. Even talked about marriage 2 weeks ago. He's older than me so I was soaking everything he said up bc he was so wise and well put together. He owns his own company and swears he's always busy smh. I haven't heard from him in a week and it hurts but I blocked him today. I'm moving on 💪!!

[shinebrightlikeadiamond]

I love when people ghost me. Especially if i never really wanted them. They did me a favor. I swear no hard feelings. Happy is shit

[coreypatrick]

I really appreciate this. Just got a text from someone who ghosted me about three four months ago and this confirmed that I did the right thing by deleting their information AGAIN. Bastard. Next.

[Anthony-yhur]

Second time this year coming to this video for comfort :( dating should be fun and exciting, instead it's been anxiety-inducing and ultimately disappointing

[nyyankeesbaby]

Thank u sir! I got ghosted by my boyfriend of 2 yrs. His communication was giving immaturity. It hurts so bad right now but I needed to hear this.

[mariaxoxox]

I hate it cause we had such amazing chemistry and he actually got my humor, he was the one who reached out first and all that so he’s confusing me. Probs just a playa but thanks for the video, made me feel better

[LilJazJaz]

Honestly hearing so many stories from beautiful people that have been ghosted on as well makes me feel a little better. My self worth has just taken a big shot.

[DukeFavre]

It's not you. Move on. There are tons of people in the world. Don't get upset. MOVE ON. You have so much love to give. NEVER GIVE UP ON YOU.