So...THIS is the Reason Why WE'RE Still Single...

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I have wanted to make this video for a LOOONG time. As someone who has frequently been single in her life, I've heard it all, "You want too much!," "You don't want enough!", "You're Not Manifesting!", "You're not trying hard enough!". Blah. Blah. I'm sick of it.

So I decided to make a video to look into the reasons WE (that's right, single you and me) are still uncoupled. I invite you to check them out, and in the comments below, add more of your own! Let's keep this a safe space, no judgement allowed. Only understanding, and hopefully enough positive thinking and compassion to help guide us all during this time in our lives.

Thanks for watching!

[hellostephco]

Hello! I should have said this at the beginning of this video, but I made this because people are often told what's wrong with them and are very aware of their shortcomings and how they add to their single status. You can read ANY magazine or talk to ANY parent who is angry you still haven't gotten married to hear that, I wanted to provide some counter recognition. Glad to see people are liking it! Part 2 coming soon based on your comments :)

[miriamhavard]

I didn't marry until my late 40's. We're both quite happy with each we've been married 10 years now. 💗🌺

[newchapterasmr]

For me it’s definitely social. Making friends as an adult is incredibly difficult

[DarthFurie]

With my Millennial friends, I think another reason many are single is because people work a lot more and a lot harder nowadays just to survive, and are too tired/burned out at the end of the day to really be *present* in a way that makes room for genuine, lasting relationships. People are prioritizing work now more than ever out of sheer necessity. So many of my friends work 50, 60+ hours a week and have room for little else when it really comes down to it

[shayt]

I am almost 24 and never been in a relationship, never been on a date, never had a talking stage, never got my first kiss, hugged/held hands romantically and never been asked out. I did tried dating apps (24-72h) and was overwhelmed so I deleted them. I am very introverted, shy with social anxiety. Plus, a lot of people focus so much on sex and that’s not something I’m willing to put on the table. I want to wait. I thought it would get better graduating college but here we are graduated college three years ago and work full time and still nothing. I just feel like I’m invisible wherever I go. All my friends are in committed relationship or actively going on dates. I always heard guys saying there’s no way a woman’s dm empty. Mine are empty af 💀

[anonymous_br]

It’s ok to be single. Relationships are coo but they require a lot of maintenance and sometimes come with a lot of stress🤷🏽

[anpatman]

Being demisexual and datind is a nightmare. Men want to jump right into bed after a couple of dates. Why is sex a 'confirmation' of relationships? I m not saying i want to date for months or years before having sex, nor i am saving it for marriage, but like give me time

[Aja-Christian]

If singlehood was glamorized the same way marriage and parenthood are, I think more people would unapologetically opt out of the latter two. Nothing wrong with dating, marriage, etc, but I feel like a lot of people want those things because that's what they've been conditioned to do.

Yeah it gets lonely sometimes and I wish sometimes that I had someone special, but life doesn't have less meaning just because you're single. Plus lots of people out here are miserably "boo'ed up". You just have to pick your struggle I guess 😅

[Indiegirl]

Reasons why people are still single: Relationships don't have the same value as they used to. Expectations have changed significantly. Desires are different.

[kylia]

I’m the always single friend. I have friends in relationships and realized that 99% of them settle for anything just to say they have someone. As the single friend I hear all the BS from cheating, bm/bd drama, physical fights, drug/alcohol abuse, one person carrying all the financial responsibilities, etc. I can’t allow myself to fall in the same position because I don’t believe love is suppose to be humiliating and painful. I’ve accepted that I might end up alone and am thinking about other ways to feel fulfilled at this point.

[taishahw]

I don't think anyone should except an invitation to a vacation from someone they are not interested in at least dating and enjoying and lots of good conversations. It's dangerous. Not everyone would be as passive in response to obvious rejection. This definitely doesn't make you a Pick Me. It just makes you smart and empathetic.

[anonuniversal]

As a guy who's about to turn 30 and had never sniffed a relationship, I just want to say thanks for your relatable content and your refreshing honesty.

I am definitely a mix of reason 2 and 4. I was raised really conservative Christian and was forbidden to date unless it was for marriage. So I definitely was never socialized for romantic relationships.

Then at 25 my parents turned to me and said, "when are you going to bring a girl home". I burst out laughing. You guys told me to never date and now all of a sudden you expect me to be getting married? I don't know how to flirt or be charming in any way because I didn't need to. Now I'm just supposed to figure it out as an adult and it's def not going well lol

Anyway, you are a breath of fresh air in the YouTube scene and I hope your romantic life takes a turn for the better!

[sonderexpeditions]

If you grew up with religious strict parents (esp immigrants) who didn't allow you to date in high school you get used to being single. It's the default mode 😊 I'm not mad though, relationships look like a lot of work. 🤷🏾‍♀️

[soblessed]

My son who is in his twenties, told me him and his friends have no intentions of settling down or being in an exclusive relationship until they are in their forties. BM think they are the prize, and they are playing the field. Girl, step out of your circle and explore other options.

[Adele]

I flipped out on a man I really liked for what actually just turned out to be a miscommunication, and he left me alone after that, even though I apologized. I think it’s of the utmost importance to deal with your past, because you never know when something will trigger you and cause you to ruin something that could’ve been good.

[BabyDoll-buce]

A lot of people are still single because there's no love in a lot of relationships nowadays. A lot of people are only about themselves so the good people are leaving them to be with who they love most...themselves😄 You've got to find someone like you who will love you in return to be happy and leave the narcissists with their right/left hand and toys.

[PeanutButtaCookie]

Being single is ok, but i havent been hugged or kissed, or had sex in five years. Sometimes i just wanna be held. Its hard because i really crave the closeness of another person. I miss holding hands and other simple things like that when i was in a relationship. Im touch starved its emotionally painful.

[rubycubez]

Great video! I'm 41. I realize the dating pool drastically shrinks when a woman approaches 40. I'm not a traditional beauty. I didn't have men in droves flying to me when I was younger. Being older and not traditionally pretty is like a double whammy.

[MyotoXyloto]

i wish i had your channel a few years ago, when i was really beating myself up for my lack of romantic success. i'm still young, but almost everything you talk about resonates so deeply with me. you're my new favorite creator no doubt, keep it up!

[teemay]

I’m married and being married has been a goal in my day and I wish it wasn’t. I feel like the older women before me set me up to get ate up by wolves. I wasn’t warned, I thought I was going to be like Cinderella and the Prince and boy I was wrong. Ladies, when you get married, you are marrying the good part, and you also marry the flaws too. Enjoy your singleness. I would much rather if marriage involves you go home and I go home. It’s work y’all. Putting up with a man everyday isn’t easy.