Crush Your Scarcity Mindset With This...

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If you're like most of the women I coach, you're looking at attraction the wrong way.

You're asking a question that is forcing you to make compromises and that leads guys to lose their respect for you.

I see so many women who are hung up on "one guy", and if that's you, you need to see this video...

[LilBoo]

See how "Stop obsessing and get a life" can be put in a polite and eloquent manner?
I love you for it, Matt!

[isaachwjoseph]

Another way to overcome scarcity mindset is by practicing gratitude. When we focus on what we don’t have, it leads to negative thinking and feelings of inadequacy. Instead, try to focus on what you do have. Make a list of things you are grateful for—no matter how small—and refer to it when you are feeling scarce. Gratitude will help shift your focus from lack to abundance.

[MrBigcuts]

Funny how this advice exactly applies to men as well as women.  We are more alike than we are different.

[MyDesertlover]

Wow that sh** is for REAL!!  This message is like a shot to the heart - direct hit. Thanks for not sugar-coating it.  I so needed to hear this right now.

[tallcool]

I just had an Epiphany!!!. it's NOT about 'Getting The Guy'...it's about...'Getting YOURSELF'... 'then'.. getting-the-guy, if u shud b so inclined to do so.

[yourchoice]

I know you probably wont read this but still: I want to say THANK YOU from the deepest of my heart. This video you made alone speaks so much truth. So tired of holding myself down, wondering and trying to understand whats happening. Instead: I NEED to do MY thing, developing MYself and be open to all that love thats out there in the world. Rather than being strung along by ONE person alone, making me feel like I have to accomplish something I don't understand or to wait for him to give me attention - that I should give myself! why do we make ourselves slaves to one person to get approval and affection? Because we want to be loved.. But there is so much love out there - and I guess if I am wondering about them and their love towards me - why would I stay in that dark and self-destructive position? Better to lift up my head and straighten my back. And love myself! And open up for all that love out there in the world!!

[emoreland]

OK, so you wanted to hear our story. I'll make it short and sweet. Yes, I was focused on just "one guy" once, but at least at the time, I was still "hooking up" with and meeting new guys, but I mainly had my eyes on this "one guy". The "one guy" who would "booty call" me all the time. It always seemed like the guys that I was attracted to and wanted a relationship with didn't want one from me, and the guys that were attracted and wanted a relationship from me, I didn't want the same from them. Then, one day it hit. It truly was love at first sight. The guy of my dreams. He had dark eyes, dark complexion, had an advanced degree, liked working out and travelling (same as me). We eventually married and traveled the world together!!! We have been married 19 years and have 2 girls now ages 17 and 14. It's been an adventurous life together and here is to many more to come!! It was all about making myself the person that I wanted to become.

[yenmc]

I had to re-visit this video to remind my self that doing things for that "someone" so he will like me in return is a big NO NO! Thanks Matt! You rock! Be blessed!

[jaishreedhupam]

There is one thing all we need happiness..N in pursuit of it ...we sometimes run after the wrong things...or people.. N no matter how bad the situation is ...we need to focus on ourself..to heal the broken heart..to stay strong mentally, to believe there's better things ahead and move on . Matthew .. ur words r magic.

[Darla_Dallas]

"Just no more of this one guy" yes sir! Mr. Matthew That's so me that your talking about... thanks got it so true preach it bro

[nixqris]

true...i thought about that one guy too much... didn't realize it's my mistake that i miss out all other great people around me, in my life, in my small circle of life and even outside of my small town life... i need to look out more, learn more, experience the vast things in life, appreciate more and in the same time I'm meeting more men who can become friends with me who appreciate and respect me and even attracted to me. I don't forget the guy I like but I realize I too should appreciate me, (God loves me), my time, my interest and my life. whether that guy begin to take interest in me or not, the best thing I should be feeling is that I matter, especially to my family and friends who loves me. tq matt

[zakiaihinnna]

You are the best in your field . You are changing my dating life in the best way . Thank you

[coredadventure]

You got it going on Matthew ! You're a natural born speaker with a great head on your shoulders. Just brilliant ! Thank you for everything !!

[pritinthecity]

It's crazy how PERFECT the timing of this post is. On point and greatly needed 👌

[benderbotx]

This is great advice, but it's so hard to apply when you're already in the situation. When you've invested so much thought into a certain person, it seems like everyone else becomes totally unattractive and you only care about getting that one person.

[scorpzero]

The girls youve crushed on didnt like you? They're regretting it now! You're handsome guy with an amazing personality. Thanks for the videos Matt! :)

[delaenausesknife]

I felt devastated because my friend lead me on and kept me in the friendzone for 5 years. This is exactly what I needed to hear. I obsessed and tried to impress them when, they never wanted to date me. I realize my mistake and I want to be attractive in every aspect of my life. I will respect myself instead of people pleasing. thank you matt!

[greeeneyes]

this does not only apply to being attractive as a partner, it also helps with finding friends or being surrounded by people you like in general!

[Li-hntr]

that makes so much sense when in the movies, the charming guys always fall in love with this main girl who is not the most flirty, kind of corky and anti-social, cuz they always have something special to tell and they stick to it, when other girls try to squeeze their way into the crowd she sits by herself and try to be a better person by every second. Love this video! wise words. I wish i had seen this long ago.

[taoool]

Focus on my own little things, be myself, don't need to fawn other guys!