“I wouldnt yell at my wife so why would i yell at my child” is so true. People often view basic respect towards children as spoiling them when it’s just the norm with adults. You wouldnt hit or yell at another adult so why would you do it to a child that is also just a humanbeing?
Sara-uqkm
I wonder if in Rupert’s mind, ‘being deaf’ translates into speaking sign language, and that’s what he’s expressing, though he obviously understands that you can’t hear.
AndersWatches
"It's and ambulance, huh? Thank you, deaf child." Made me laugh so hard. Toddlers are hilarious
carameldare
Toddlers are so damn smart when you communicate with them. I helped a 2 year old through their disappointment that the Aquarium was closed. ...then I had my own disappointment to manage (I really wanted to take them that day). Toddler (now done being sad and onto the next thing) just said to me, "Well, we can always go another day."
Awe. ❤
-and we did go another day and it was wonderful.
treefrog
Rupert proclaiming he's deaf reminded me of one of my friend's kids. He's around Rupert's age. We were swimming and he couldn't reach one of his toys, so his mom handed it to him. He then proudly said, "I did that all by myself!" It was hilarious.
LaurenAnne
It's so touching for me hearing you talk about how you are helping Rupert to recognize and process his emotions. I'm 29 years old and never learned this and was giving the feeling that my frustration and rage was a bad thing and never learned how to deal with rage. And I just now am learning about this and I have to relearn how to deal with emotions as an adult (where I have a lot of other things to do and responsibilities and ugh!). So from my view it's heart-warming that you and Claudia are so keen on Rupert learning his emotions and yeah. It's just really nice to see this for me! (Sorry for any jumbled expressions, english is not my first language)
das_moendchen
As someone who was parented the opposite of this especially as an older teen this is oddly healing to know that there are other ways to parent. I’ve always said that if I have kids I’d never say “because I told you so” to them because they’d never learn anything from that. It’s nice to know that there is a whole parenting style that is like that.
kellyrowe
Ngl, I’m adopting some of these kids’ techniques for myself as an adult —especially the “I’m struggling” 😅
scilines
It's really interesting hearing you talk about how to be able to direct Rupert away from danger and know that he'll pay attention. It kinda reminds me of a story my mother tells sometimes of when I was very small - I had somehow managed to hurt myself in some minor but still reasonably painful way and had started crying, and Mum said "Ouch!". I clearly took this on board as I mostly stopped crying and just repeated "ouch!" back at her a few times. This became very important some time later when I was very clearly intending to stick tiny baby fingers in the plug socket - Mum was across the room and wouldnt be able to snatch me away in time, and so instead just said "Ouch!" quite loudly, and shook her head at me when I looked over. She repeated "Ouch!" every time my fingers went back to the socket and I guess that got the message across because I am verifiably still here, sans any major electrical burns or scarring from the same.
serenkeating
As an adult, no-one yells at me if I accidenitally break a vase. It's weird to treat children differently.
tompw
This sounds a lot like my parents natural parenting style. My friends were always shocked that i had never been grounded. My parents would just explain why things were for my own good, it was hard to argue with. They gave me quite a lot of freedom, so why rebel? Maybe it is why i have good self control now or maybe it just suited me. This is a great video.
myNAMEisKIRSTY
i hope to raise my children this way. i know i need to work on my emotional regulation first as my parents don’t have any and never taught me any. And just hearing you say that Rupert comes to you saying “I’m struggling” made me tear up because I still don’t feel safe to go to my parents when I’m struggling.
stitchedscorpio
Rupert: “I’m struggling.” Me too, kiddo. Me too.
elbee
Rupert saying he is deaf reminded me of Lily from the Modern Family series in the ep where she would say to everyone she was gay because she wanted to be like her dads😂 so sweet!
eliasramos
I went to montessori kindergarten and school as a child in late 90's early 2000's. So much trauma later I have been quite suspicious about the whole thing. Turns out those places didn't follow actual montessori advice at all 😂
Struudeli
It makes me so happy (thinking back to my own childhood) that you give him a quiet spot and respect it if he wants to retreat. I wish my mom did that!
holloo
For people watching this who have never used gentle parenting techniques before, who aren't the primary caregiver or even don't seen the kids as often as you would like - it is NEVER too late to start incorporating these! I started learning about child development when I began my first long term private childcare placement, and used these techniques with the kids I care for. The difference I see in them is immense. It doesn't matter what parenting style their parents are using (as long as it's not abusive ofc) - my caregiving style is consistent, and the kids respond to that. They know that if a mistake happens with me, I will treat them with respect while we sort it out together, which means they never hide or try to lie their way out of mistakes. We have a deeply trusting relationship that is not compromised when I don't see them as often as I used to when they were smaller. One of my kids is almost a teenager now, and even though we didn't start "gentle parenting" until they were at least 8 years old, I can see how positively it's affected them. Their younger sibling has more ingrained coping styles, yes, because they didn't have to unlearn before learning something new. But it has been just as valuable for the older child, and I want people to know that it's never too late to give the gift of gentleness and respect to another human.
freyaporter
Maria Montesorri was such a fascinating woman, and she had a lot of great points not just about parenting but about politics in regards to pacifism and nonviolence. You can really see how those ideals show in her parenting techniques too!
evren
On the topic of "naughty" one thing we always did when I taught was use choice focussed language. Never using words that apply a characteristic to the child such as they "are" naughty, or mean etc based on negative actions. Focussing on the action instead and how that was a choice, and how they can make a different choice in the future to deal with a similar situation. It's amazing the impact it has, it can be so disheartening and demotivating for a child to hear that they are bad in some way, and so empowering to be reminded they can make a kinder, safer or more effective choice.
kpwxx
do I have children? no. do I want to have children in the future? no. do I have little ones in my life? also, no. Still I LOVE to learn about Montessori Parenting for some reason 😅❤
