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EDIT: THE BOYFRIEND DOESNT LIVE WITH US AND DOESNT PAY RENT OR BILLS. HIM AND HIS DAUGHTES SPEND TIME HERE AND PAY ONLY FOR THEIR FOOD: SOMETHING I DO AS WELL*

My dad died suddenly about a year ago, and my mom found this really nice guy that she’s started seeing. I’m 23M and going into my final year of college. My moms boyfriend has two daughters ages 15 and 13. My mom has stepped in to be a mother figure to them, and the boyfriend has stepped into my extended family becoming everyone’s favourite uncle. And while i’m glad everyone else is comfortable, i’m not.

He isn’t a bad guy, I’m just still grieving my father, and it feels like he’s trying to replace him. He tries to set rules for me, things like chores and curfew, that my dad specifically didn’t because he thought they were ridiculous for an adult. Boyfriend thinks it’s only fair because i have siblings now. I think it’s ridiculous to have the same rules apply because of our age differences.

He’s trying to get me to share my stuff with his kids. They aren’t lacking for anything but he thinks it’s only fair because ~family~.

I live in the basement of my moms house. I have since i was 15. When you come in the front door there’s a door to the basement and the stairs to go into the house. So it’s pretty separate.

So last night i was DDing for some friends and got home at 2 am. I had nothing to do until 3pm today since classes aren’t until next week and my new job starts in 2 weeks. So this has never been a big deal with my parents. I shot my mom a text and went to bed.

Tonight though, man, boyfriend flipped. I got a lecture and sent to my room and “possible loss of car privileges.”

I snapped and laid it out for him. I told him i’m leaving the city after i graduate, i told him i’m glad my mom found a new partner but that i am not and will not be looking for a new father figure and he needs to respect that. I told him our relationship won’t be father/son for some time, and that he needs to respect me as an adult or that i won’t want to have a relationship with him.

He told my family and they think i’m the asshole. AITA?

[adonian]

You are absolutely NOT WRONG. You are an adult, and you still need time to process the passing of your dad.
I wish you a happy life.

[IndigoNY]

He needs to take a several steps back and chill and let his relationship with you slowly develop. No you're not wrong.

[hermother]

Boyfriend, he’s not even a step yet. He didn’t buy her a house, he moved his kids into your parents’ house? That all sounds opportunistic. Take your time, grieve, and maybe talk to mom about your not being ready for all that. You are not stoping her from moving on, but no one can force your process. It’s a boundaries conversation. He can’t say you have siblings now, unless there was a wedding, I missed that. Even so, he needs to respect some boundaries. Especially because your Dad has passed away; you’re not a fatherless child he’s “adopting, ” you’re the adult child of his girlfriend, who’s Dad did his job and that relationship is sacred. In time, mom’s boyfriend can become a friend, an adult friend respecting adult boundaries. Wish you the best navigating this situation. Ask for mom’s help to have that adult conversation about boundaries, like him not making rules for you—not appropriate, just not. If mom wants to make rules for you, it’s her house and you have the option to leave, but mom’s boyfriend, nah, not appropriate.

[mybunnysnowflake]

You're not wrong. I'm 23, and even though I've moved out, I couldn't imagine anyone telling me what to do or setting new rules. You're legally an adult and while they aren't required to let you live with them, they also can't tell you what to do. Talking away your car would be a crime, and I think you're doing the right thing by being the DD and making sure everyone got home safe.

[sebastianlajos]

When my parents got divorced my mom tried doing something similar trying to turn my stepdad into my actual dad and I always resented it and it affected my relationship with him. Things didn’t change until I sat down and had a serious discussion with my mother about why I would never see my stepdad in that way and once she understood my pov I had a much better relationship with her, my stepdad, and my actual father. Sometimes communication is important and so is compromise. Understand that your mom is a grown woman and has to finish the last chapter in her life while you’re just getting started.

[SheerPuppet]

This happened to my dad. His new step-mom started to call him “son” when he was old enough to have his own family. And he said that he didn’t consider her as his mother yet she still kept on insisting she was. Loosing a parent is hard and if you don’t want to replace them, that’s your choice, it doesn’t matter if they are sweet.
My dad had his second marriage with my mom, yet he already had children with his ex. But my mom didn’t want to be called mom, and she never invaded the children’s privacy.

[kenny]

Imagine some random dude trying to tell you, a grown adult, what to do and trying to be your dad a year after losing him. I'd blow a fuse if someone treated me that way.

[warriorsfan]

You are NOT WRONG. No one will ever replace your dad.

[lattekitty]

He's 23 and grieving his dad, I think he has every right to not see his mom's boyfriend as his dad. It's also really suspicious that he's trying set up a bunch of rules for an adult, as well as try to get him to share with his kids because now they're family. It really feels like the new dad wants to take control, and take over the house. I don't know OP's situation, but they should try and get out ASAP.

[midnightsarrow]

Some people really need a class on how to
1. Deal with someone who's grieving a loss
2. Deal with being a step family (sibling, parent, etc) to someone who's grieving

And both classes need to be required

[babie_frog]

my parents have different rules and expectations with me and my younger sibling. we’re 3 years apart. setting a curfew for AN ADULT is ridiculous imo. the adult is an adult, responsible for itself. let that be. for a kid, that’s a different story. they don’t have the life experience of an adult

[patriciajohnsonson]

He’s used to being a dad to teenagers and hasn’t made the adjustment to being a dad to a young adult. Have a conversation with him and tell him your feelings about him “fathering” you. He sounds like a nice guy. Maybe he’ll understand. Ask your mother to sit in on the conversation.

[LiamSavesTheDay]

He is 23 and this random ass guy is trying to give him a curfew💀💀💀

[allisontafoya]

You are NOT wrong. You are not a kid and you have a right to not be treated like that you should tell someone that will help you.

[essysworld]

It’s VERY toxic for anyone to be setting rules like that for an adult, much less someone who just came into the picture. His kids are his problem, not yours, and he needs to respect your boundaries. It’s not like you’re telling them to break up

[kathrynhughett]

Not wrong. You are a legal adult. He needs to be sat down and given a talking to. Tell your mom that if he doesn't stop it, you might need to move out.

[Elvis-hyfl]

Grieving is so personal. And if you need space, then you need space. An other person has absolutely no right to impose his visions on your live. NONE

[georgiastewart]

You are not wrong at all. It's never easy getting used to your Mom's new guy, along with going through the grieving process. You are your Mother's child - not his period. Hoping the best for you!