How To Deal With Toxic Parents (What Your Estranged Adult Children Are Told By Their Therapist)Ep.68

Here's what estranged adult children may be learning while in therapy about how to deal with toxic parents. If you are estranged from an adult child, you already know the uncertainty and challenge of the condition. Some parents can be physically cut off or emotionally separated.
Adult children can insist on no contact. Parents can feel anxious and bewildered about how they might ever reconcile with their adult child. When adult children describe their relationship as toxic, they may seek the help of a therapist. They are looking for help in managing their discomfort. Consider what they might feel and think to gain insight into your relationship.

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Wondering how to deal with toxic parents? Estrangement is emotionally challenging for all parties. When adult children experience toxic behaviors and seek therapy, they often feel that the relationship is unsafe. Many adult children insist on no contact unless parents take responsibility for their behaviors and change. Adult children seek counseling to gain relief from distressing feelings. This video discusses How To Deal With Toxic Parents -What Your Estranged Adult Children Are Told By Their Therapist.

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ESTRANGEMENT AND ABUSE: When considering the possibility of reconciling with an emotionally and or physically abusive great care is required. Reconciling may only be possible if the abuser is willing to work with a family therapist. When there is abuse, individuals estrange out of necessity and self-preservation. Consider if it is safe to resume a relationship with an abusive family member without evidence that the abuser has changed or takes responsibility for their harmful actions.

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○ Feeling Heartbroken and Alone? How to Pick up the Pieces When You are Estranged:

[TeamJesusGo]

I have been estranged from my daughter for about three years. Even if it pains me very deeply, I understand that it must of been so hard on her to make such a decision. I thought we where very close but as a single mother I know I made many mistakes and it was very tough on her too. Im so glad she is healing and Ill respect her boundaries because her mental and emotional well being are very important to me. In the mean while Im reflecting on my role in our estrangement and how I can heal and be a better person to myself and maybe one day to her if she would have me.

[perranmaid]

I wish that I could have understood these things years ago! I think that the previous video describes exactly what happened to me…but mentally I couldn’t understand what was happening to me…and I couldn’t get any support. My children had to watch me unraveling and my daughter became estranged and wnt through various counselling. We are now reconciled, after many years with no contact….which was extremely painful for me, the mother. I am so pleased that we are back to having a relationship but a bit wary. Very good information and I hope that it helps someone x

[jrelevates]

No contact is to cause pain, . period.

[moyagreene]

I really think we should all
And especially therapists.. should abolish 3 words from our vocabulary… toxic, narcissistic, and triggers!
People have the right to decide what relationships they want. But parents are a special relationship which starts as one where the child needs everything from parents to survive. And most parents are trying very hard to deliver on all the child’s needs.
The parents are not always to blame. Raising a bipolar child is especially difficult.. parents don’t always understand what is going on. Their authority these days to parent has been replaced by peers and the estrangement is happening much earlier.. now magnified by social media. Therapists are not helping if they fail to help their patients to see the other side. Partners of adult children are often instigators. Parents these days are carrying big loads and often in lonely isolated unsupported situations.
Therapists need to help the family to stay intact. I am the only unconditional supporter in my daughter’s life.. sadly I have no contact with her at her request.. which I respect, but I feel very fearful for her and broken-hearted.

[SusanaXpeaceu]

yeh my therapist warned me that it was unlikely that my mother would ever acknowledge that she hurt me or that she was defensive when \i asked her to hear me, or acknowledge that she gave me the silent treatment rather than hear my perspective \i didn't believe it. i thought eventually she would want to hear her duaghter's perspective. no. my therapist was right 😞 she is unreachable. i understand now, she will go to her grave, angry that i didn't reflect back her rosy view of herself

[intrapsych]

This is a complicated situation because often a "toxic" parent will alienate a child from the other parent by portraying themselves as a victim of the other parent. The child and alienating parent will use the therapist to enforce the victim role. Unfortunately the therapist plays into further abusing the child by encouraging there alienating behavior and abuse against the targeted parent. This happens a lot.

[formerfundienowfree]

You lost me at the buzzword "toxic". No, you don't get to go around labeling everyone you disagree with as toxic. Time to grow up and realize that not everything revolves around you.

[oni_takeo]

Sorry lady but, suggesting a child reconcile a relationship with a toxic and abusive parent ( because if they are "toxic" thats just another term for abusive) you are not very good for peoples mental health. Children, parents, they are individual entities, not a required life relationship