How To Actually Tell Better Stories

There's a TON that goes into being good at public speaking. Some tips include speaking in the present so that people can follow your stories emotions, gesticulating, speaking with emotion, and on and on.

But in this video, I cover a little known trick to telling stories that captivate. Because if you can captivate your listener, you will be seen as an amazing speaker.

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[minaljain_makeup]

I could instantly see the difference. I could feel myself paying more attention. Good technique 💜

[kk]

can you make video on how we can go past "surface-level" conversations we have with people on a day-to-day basis (i.e. "the weather is so nice today") to more "deeper-level" ones?

[mickeypolouskin]

Love your videos but I honestly lost interest in the first couple mins in this one and had to fast forward to get to the point. Kind of ironic

[chazathonw]

Dude you do have a cool way of talking, charisma. First off, what was the event in Arizona?
Moving on to the content part, I disagreed at first. I lead workshops on public speaking and one exercise I teach on is to go all in energetically with your story. That may include using "I" a lot.
The reason you use "I" a lot would be to relive the story so it is OK as long as you tell your story in a way that engages people.
Then you talked about shifting and using the "you" in the story. Which resonated better. But from people I see in the workshops I train they tend to do this already.
However, the ones that don't do that already will not do it due to two reasons.
One is they are actually narcissistic and really just want to talk about themselves.
The second is that they are nervous, and all the anxieties that go along with it.
Ok, this is a huge comment but enjoy
Chaz

[ScienceOfPeople]

Lol was this after our dinner together? I think this was the dinner we had at SXSW 2015!

[irmansiddiq]

Thank you Ben for the good advice. Hopefully you could share more on story telling in a small group of people.

[lilag]

This is great, loved this tip! You should definitely do more videos like this. I was wondering if you guys could do a video talking specifically about job interviews, would love to hear your view about how to connect / impress with the interviewer.
Lots of love from Spain! love your channel ;)

[nomansland]

This whole video seemed like it was done by him switching between "I" and "you", and that the whole video is an example of what he is trying to tell us that when you use "you", you captivate peoples attention.

[susannec]

yes have you ever talkd to someone and after you say something they say well that reminds me of the time I.... and they continue to do this. they're not even listening to what you are saying they're just thinking about what they're going to say next. sometimes they're looking around while you're speaking even

[spotserafin]

Dude this is cool, can you make a video on how to present your business plan or ideas to an investor?

[yousefyaqoot]

amazing technique thank you so much!! can you please make more storytelling techniques like that one maybe one about how to craft a story like you mentioned in the video

[laicold]

Can you do a video about how to set up a story so people stay engaged?

[shekharsharma]

this was a great video, it would be great to see more videos like this!

[GameAdrenalineBlog]

More storytelling stuff, and ways to make instant connections with people (aka skipping the small talk)

[rasmusjansson]

in english you is the same as you (one person) and you (lot of persons) som other country that use different word for you if its one or many people, how should I then use "I" and "you" when I talk to a lot of people?

[armwrestling_nerd]

Using "I' can break the spell of listening in a way nothing else can do. If yo can reduce the amount of "I" in a less is more philosophy, then the talking is better off.

Another mistake that often occurs is "social flexing".

Even if a person reduces the frequency of "I" they can still create a cringy feeling to the listeners. When the person try to flex ( usually a mental/social insecurity feeling, that triggers needs to project an image of grandiosity and whatnot ) verbally. Usually if the listener(s) don't confirm this flex, the flexing usually gets exaggerated and then the audience is completely lost

[hernanperez]

Go to the point dude, it will help you out in the long run.

[fmeer]

Neither version is much of a story, and apart from his slightly more energetic speaking for the second one, it just seemed like rambling.
(That said, I'm a big fan of the channel as a whole)

[balrajkaur]

Everytime i talk feels like a frog in my throat?

[KingaGorski]

It's super important to include others in your story in some way - I dig the 'I-you" concept.