It'll Be OK

Don't you worry. You've got this.

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My name is Jay Swanson - I'm an American writer living in Paris on an artist visa. Paris (yes the one in France) has been my home for years now and I have every intention of staying here for as long as they'll have me. I write science-fiction and fantasy, vlogged daily for 3+ years, and love pizza a little too much. Now I make videos about visiting Paris, traveling in Europe, and try to share what I've learned along the way. I hope you enjoyed what you found.

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Patron Producer: Anna Rönnblad
Edited by: Thompson?
Music by: Cooper's snuggz

[PokhrajRoy.]

Sometimes, we don’t want relationships. We crave intimacy and safe spaces.

[andyshacks]

So true - other people can only help so far then you need to help yourself. Thanks for the coffee again Jay and hope your sister is recovering well.

[shinyshinythings]

❤️❤️❤️ Well, Jay, this one is going on my re-watch list. Just what I needed to hear today.

[primrosed]

I hope you find someone who can give you the safety, affection, and comfort you are seeking. Childhood neglect and abandonment does leave scars and you have been hypervigilant for awhile. Here's to your healing journey.

[shellycleland]

I love this coffee chat!! I fully support your journey and see such wisdom. You inspire me to live better and be better. Thank you!

[AnneMB]

Too true, we’re responsible for ourselves. Sometimes just taking the first step to improvement is all we need to keep going. Thx Jay. 👏

[PokhrajRoy.]

Thank you for the coffee and the chat!

[paigewhitworth]

Thank you for saying this. I’ve seen lots of professionals and partners say we “can feel” this but Ive not felt this way. I love your how you deliver this information and I send you mushroom love and hugs!! I’ll gladly come visit and have a cup of coffee when we come to live in France soon. ❤️❤️❤️

[anastasiafua]

Jay. What a video - pretty much summed up what I’ve been doing with myself for past few years. It’s not easy, it’s a long process as you’ve said. So encouraging, thank you for sharing and chatting to all of us - and breaking down your thought process. we all have our inner child and i too, tell her the same thing “it’ll be ok” 👌🏽

[harryt]

Thank you for your vlogs Jay. You always make my day. Keep it going. It'll be OK for all of us.

[kirstythomson]

Totally get it, digging deep to meet our own needs, and trusting in today. Still learning here too. Thank you for sharing and, thoughts for your sister Jay. Thank you for the coffee, and the cup it's in. A hug for Cooper too, great buddy and consistently there for you and us!

[np]

As I sit with my first cup of coffee with you, I agree - It’s a hard pillow to swallow. My childhood was similar to yours in many ways and I learned early (VERY early, way too early for any child, or infant for that matter, to have to learn). I have learned to put my oxygen mask on before helping others and I’m grateful that what I have left to give to others, truly comes the heart. And I know that I’ve been able to give all that I had left in me without a doubt. I, too, fill my life with animals because their love is unconditional and really we really need that sometimes. Sending you virtual hugs on your journey of self discovery. Thanks for sharing with us.

[KarinLynnBates]

I relate to this all so much. My dad, who had Parkinson’s, was not as nurturing when I was young. Turns out, some Parkinson’s symptoms are being tracked earlier and earlier— lack of dopamine receptors, etc. Once my dad was on meds, we had a sweet period where he became emotionally available and so loving! I’m glad, because the end stage psychosis and dementia was so rough. The sweet decade we had held me up. I hope you can use this info too. I also did the same: I wanted to find that magical man who could fill that hole that was left from the past. I came to Paris because of it. And I also had to discover I had to show up for myself— and learned that in Paris, too. I’m so glad to hear you have figured this out, too. Much appreciation for you, Jay.

[katycauchon]

Omg! What you just tell inthere is exactly what I am goin thru!
I found my soul mate when i was 19 and wéve been together since..and if you read this you are telli gme yess you did not understand anathing…here where i see myself…my husband has MSA…is is dying slowly but surely 😢 So now I see that when I met him I was in the exact phase you telling here…so now I need to refigure my self completly at 53…..I don’t know what will happend but yup figuring who I am is one of the thing i will need to figure out!
But for now, we still have some time to spend together so we choose to go to Paris in june so that’s why I look your videos!
Really happy to have your point of view on the city of light!
Cheers!

[carolbrenner]

After years of blaming my mother and now being without her since she has passed, I now realize how much she must have suffered having me as a daughter via my guilt trips. The drama was a dance and I was also expensive to be as up entitled unloved kid. I do miss her now. ❤❤❤

[EvanYeahMe]

Hi Jay. Hearing you talk about yourself and your childhood it makes me realize how lucky I was growing up… my parents were supportive, loving and gave me this solid foundation to go out and explore the world. I think this is what makes me (in general) optimistic and happy. I wish you success on this and all of your journeys.

[MsWAlexander]

Jay - first of all, stop reading my mind! 😂 you’ve managed to dive into my brain and it’s a little scary.

I feel very seen right now. 🙏🏻♥️

[dschultz]

Thanks for the coffee! Just look how far you've come, Jay. It will be OK. 😃 Yes, you're so right. We get to choose. That's the power we give ourselves to heal and grow.

[kyleheimbrock]

Thanks for the message, Jay. It’ll be ok. “In the end it all works out. If it hasn’t worked out, it’s not the end.”

[ronaldjq]

Hi Jay, I've been following your videos and want to congratulate you on the excellent work you do. This video and the message is amazing and much need it.