8 Things Mentally Strong People Don't Do

When you think of someone who is mentally strong, what traits come to mind? There are a lot of stereotypes surrounding mental strength. Most of them are about the idea that in order to be mentally strong, you have to always be happy or immune to negative emotions. But what do you think? Will you agree with these 8 points in the video or do we need to include more? Also, we previously made a video on signs you are mentally stronger than most people here:

Credits:
Writer: Ria Parikh
Script Editor: Riley Lin
Script Manager: Kelly Soong
VO: Amanda Silvera
YouTube Manager: Cindy Cheong

References
Collingwood J. “The Importance of Personal Boundaries”. Psych Central. 17 October 2018.

Morin A. “13 Things Mentally Strong People Don’t Do”. Psychology Today. 12 January 2015.

Seltzer LF. “Why We Hide Emotional Pain”. Psychology Today. 28 September 2011.

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[Psychgo]

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[AutomaticDuck]

Things that mentally strong people don't do:

1. Bottling up their emotions
2. Living in the past
3. Being easily influenced by others
4. Letting people overstep their boundaries
5. Always sticking to their own perspectives
6. Blaming other people for their mistakes
7. Fixating on perfection
8. Being scared of being alone

[aditikumar]

Unrelated to psychology, but the narrator’s voice is so calming.

[oreos]

Me: Ooh lets see if I can be mentally strong.

One: They dont Bottle up their emotions.

Me: Darn it ✨

[janoahj]

"Bottling up emotions" I'm sure a lot of people got stomped there, I did--almost. You see, bottling isn't just not expressing yourself or not telling someone about a problem, it's also when you deny your feelings and pretend they don't exist. I almost never talk about my problems, but I will take time to carefully reflect and lay things in front of me, no matter how painful, and find out where things need to change or to it's time to let go of or even forgive myself for. Think of it as simply untangling a string. I know that after practicing this, my anxiety attacks have dropped a lot, and I'm able to control impulsive emotions such as sudden anger.

[littlekiwi]

Imagine being called sensitive and emotionally weak your whole life but none of these things apply to you? This was a real eye opener, thank you 🤗

[QuestionEverythingButWHY]

“Care about what other people think and you will always be their prisoner.”
― Lao Tzu

[sweetiemin]

I’m so much of a perfectionist that’s why I procrastinate a lot because I’m afraid of failure and self disappointment. 😢

[sybellegoff]

My mentally “strong” brain at 4 in the morning like: (-_-)

[msc]

Hey you! Yea you!
Its okay if you're not mentally strong. Nobody starts out mentally strong. It is a trait that comes to you over time if you work for it. Working for it means that you don't bottle up emotions and try to give it a place, even if it is painful to you. Everyone has the same blueprint of a brain, so there's no reason why you won't turn out mentally strong if you apply yourself. You're one of us, a human! And even if you're not strong enough now, there are people who are willing to carry that burden for you while you're learning. Its OKAY. Allow others to help you the same way you will be able to help others. Such is the self fullfilling prophecy of self-helping people!
PEACE!

[anarchy_iter]

Looks like I'm mentally strong!
I'm kinda proud of the person I became over the years. I already noticed that I'm more mentally stable than many other people around me! And I'm only 16.

[pog_phrog_]

My turn :D
- Don't bottle their emotions/feelings
- Aren't living in the past
- Aren't easily influenced by others
- Don't let people overstep their boundaries
- They don't stick to their own perspectives
- They don't blame others for their mistakes
- They don't fixate on perfection
- They don't dread their own company

[BOOKTOOK]

Mentally strong people may not start as mentally strong but keep a curious mind looking for meaning in every day circumstances especially difficult ones to outgrow them.
Incredible suggestions.

[LocalGooberGoobs]

I have a very great friend from Canada who is a very mentally strong person. They are very honest, and they know themselves very well. They also know the little details about someone, like why or how they’re insecure, and sometimes their favorite things. They also love science, and want to become a teacher when they grow up. A year ago, they used to bottle up their emotions, but now they’ve learned to let go. They are a very huge influence in my life and I am very inspired by them. To you, my friend, I am very proud of you.

[syahidahzaki]

I learnt to be mentally strong after realizing how my toxic relationship was effecting the way I behave and making my mental thoughts unstable. Needless to say, it takes a lot of effort to pick myself up after leaving that relationship, and finally finding myself to practice self-love. I didn't regret meeting him, because I was given a chance to better myself after that encounter, and perhaps this video would help those who are watching. XOXO

[FriedFreya]

I feel like I'm mentally strong on a lot of points, but I still have a lot of work to do. ^^

[anjalimane]

"Hiding emotions comes from a place of fear" - I so feel this❤️

[poptartcat]

This is unrelated but I almost broke my eardrums because I accidently put the volume up trying to press this video.

[howaboutno.]

I see some comments about lucky people being like this. Let me just say there is nothing lucky about it - it's all work. You think and put in the effort when irrationality threatens, telling the voices in your head 'no' very firmly and moving forward every time while inside you hurt and scream and cry, until eventually it hurts a little less to make the choice to think.
And sometimes it's perspective that ends up forcing you to realize you have to make these choices to get by and stay sane. I grew up in a horrifically abusive household and that ended up forcing me to think so I wouldn't lose every bit of my mind piece by piece. I wasn't lucky. I was hurting every day and would not have survived to today if I hadn't started thinking through what I felt. Even so, it took years and years of practice, and so much effort I sometimes thought I would break for sure.
So please. Please don't dismiss it as luck. That's just making an excuse for why it comes naturally to others and why you shouldn't make an effort because obviously you're somehow not gifted like them. Trust me, they're either going or have already gone through a world of effort to reach this state of mind, and you can get there too if you just put in the effort.
Please believe in yourself more.
I believe in you.

[lavenna]

So I'm actually mentally stronger than I always thought I would be. I can relate to a lot of points and that makes me happy to know. However I still have to work on a few things like protecting my boundaries and letting go of perfection and I'm already on a good way there. It's sad that a lot of people think acknowledging your emotions and eventually let them out and work on them is weak when it's absolutely not....