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Dr. K’s Guide to Mental Health explores Anxiety, Depression, ADHD, and Meditation

[eddebrock]

Fuck, why didn't I learn this sooner?
Welp, that's an L!

[gloverD]

Washed the dishes today, feeling pretty epic

[Khora]

After 2 years with the 1% mindset, I conquered my fear of abandonment and I feel extremely mature in relationships. I can do most things with no anxiety at all, say what I want to say and function. Figure out your traumas, your tragic fantasies, your expectations, your philosophies.

[micheller]

One of the things my therapist taught me is to stop at those thoughts and think 1-is it *actually* true and 2-is it *actually* useful/relevant.
The second one is what I needed to understand the most. Just because a statement is technically true (in this case "I could've done 2%"), it doesn't make it useful or relevant to my *actual* situation and is actually a thought that either stops me or pushes me in an unhealthy direction.

Hope this can help someone here too.

[philipfahy]

This man out here converting thousand of years of philosophy into modern digestible lessons

[cinder.squire]

Something my mom taught me (which she learned through her own mental health struggles), "Progress is progress, no matter how small."

[TheOneNamedGigi]

Appreciate YOUR achievements regardless of how small as they built momentum down the road

[bido]

When I try to keep a W as a W it makes me feel like I'm going easy on myself and it's also kind of a fear because if I go easy on myself it makes me feel like I will never catch up to other people.

[marogmartz]

As someone who is going through a very bad depressive episode this is genuinely so helpful. I've had a full week to do homework and I'm doing it on the 6th day because I finally got out of bed. The first thing I thought was 'Why didn't I do this 3 days ago, you're lazy' and stuff like that.

Hearing this short is very comforting

[alirizvi]

I constantly forget how far I've come in improving myself as a person, this helps thanks doc

[dcgreatman]

"Every loss is a lesson, that's why I never lose fights" -NF

[fanime]

This is the perfect description of my depression and learning techniques like this and meditation has changed my life. I feel I think so much clearer now. My life still isn't perfect but now I know where I want to go and what to do in order to get there.

[Hi_Im_Akward]

I suffer from Imposter Syndrome every single day. And I have to tell you, it is so HARD to give myself credit. I don't think any of my Ws even deserve to be a W. I don't think I deserve Ws at all.

And logically I can think myself out of this trap and rationalize why that isn't true and force myself to go over things and say "yeah I get credit I guess". But emotionally, in my heart of hearts I can't convince myself that I am not a big L

[contagiouslaughter]

Ty for your support Doc!!! God bless you 🙏 ❤️ 🙌 ♥️

[DrumWild]

The Hedonic Treadmill comes into play.

I noticed when taking some higher-level guitar instruction. It starts where I think that I'll be a better player when I can learn this one specific lick.

I sit and work on it, and eventually get there. When I get there, my thinking is, "Well, I can do it so everyone else can do it, too. This is nothing special, at all."

Every time you get to that mountain peak, you experience an entire village of people already there, and notice they are looking at some higher mountain tops.

Things get normalized. That's why I do an inventory of Ws for the day, as well as the Ls, to keep myself honest. Writing it down does wonders.

[Hawkears]

Cannot emphasize enough how important it is to not be around other people who diminish your Ls as well

[itcaboi]

I actually really needed this. I was failing in math at about 44% but I had an exam recently and that got bumped up to a 63%. I kept thinking that I could have done better because I was in the high 80's last year. I appreciate this message becuase now I appreciate my achievement. I didn't lose anything, I only gained. Thank you😊

[mythmakroxymore]

Sounds like people are going “near is better than far, but it still isn’t there” and overexerting themselves rather than solidifying the “near”.

[aaronwas]

Love this, thanks for the encouragement!

[marxist-leninist-protagonist]

Dr. K adapting the young gamer language to talk serious mental health is a beautiful sight to see. I love it. Love it meeting people where they're at, how they are, how they see things... it's easier to reach them like that. Simply amazing