7 Ways a Narcissist Tests You To See If You're The Perfect Supply

Narcissists test the people they love to see if they're the right person to be in a relationship with them. They use subtle and not-so-subtle ways to see if you're loyal, available, and obedient. In this video, I will show you 7 ways a narcissist tests you to see if you're the perfect supply.

If you're struggling with a relationship with a narcissist, then this video is for you! I'll share with you seven common ways a narcissist tests you to see if you're the perfect person to be in a relationship with them. From subtle conversations to bizarre behaviour, this video will help you understand what's happening.

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chapters
00:00 Introduction
00:46 Capability to keep taking on the abuse
01:57 How Big of a giver you are
02:47 Being a fixer
03:49 Being super Empathetic
05:10 They Find out how successful you are
06:14 How willing are you to give up your life
07:43 Test your forgiveness

[janedoe]

I have had many narcissists in my life. But now, for me, as soon as someone makes a put-down joke about me, and then says, "I was just kidding", then I don't need any more red flags. That is the tip of the iceberg of an abusive person. I am DONE.

[anonymousbyname]

This is a demon on every level behind the facade of a human being. The testing, grooming, abuse, blaming, abuse, devaluing, abuse, discard. Watch out there is a global pandemic full of narcissists and it’s only getting worse. Much love to all the scapegoats out there know that you are beautiful and strong xx

[supercoffeebean]

Narc Bait = Fixer + Empathy. Narc will chew you up. Run! Stay Safe. Be Well.

[blondiesgirl]

He made me think everyone did him wrong, his family, everyone he dated I never heard him take accountability for anything! He was so convincing I fell for it thinking I could show him differently. Turns out he’s a Narcissist with major abandonment issues

[Readrose]

You have helped me understand my dad way more than I ever did. I knew he was horrible but couldn’t comprehend how he was so convincingly compassionate and later a sadistic monster beating, torturing, using, manipulating. These kind of humans are horrific.

[annstar]

1) “capability”to take on abuse via mini discards/abuse/boundary pushing
2) if you’re a giver or not. Esp. overgiver. Limits or not?
3) being a fixer/caretaker
4) being super duper empathetic - test you w sob stories
5) find out your resources and thus how much they can take and what you’re willing to give up- money, time, promotion, support, sex…anything !!!
6) how willing are you to give up your life, personality, choices - to what level can they control your life later….
7) your forgiveness - to what extent will you accept their fake apologies and how vulnerable and easy you become that.
Study the prey for days.
How anxious do you become when they do certain things- non verbal test.

[jessicasilas]

I think it's unsafe to say that someone who is healed will never fall into the trap. Don't let your guard down. They can pretend for a lot longer than we think they can. No matter how long the history, if you see the signs...go.

[mariageorge-grady]

This is so true. There were so many red flags before we got married, I ignored them, I didn't realize I was being groomed for later on.

[Bornintoclusterb]

Great video Danish. Narcissists can be our greatest teachers, illuminating what needs to be healed within us. Some narcissists will test you the moment you meet - the first words out of their mouth will be a test to see what you do.

[jesusrules]

It took me my whole life (38 years) to stand tall in front of my haters... as far as forgiveness, I forgive them in my heart for God, but also, for God, I choose not to enable them in their despicable behavior. When they test me, they will get stone face, brick wall... when they talk to me, they get grey rock, I walk away as they yell at me, them pretending I'm so cold... I prayed for them for years, every day. I gave them too much respect and too many chances. Their hatred is clearly visible, and now, for the first time in my life, by the grace of God alone, I'm allowing 90% of my coworkers to hate me, with no smiles from me, no Hi, no nothing. I asked God to reveal my enemies to me, and He has. If one wants true, true, true freedom, let the narcissist hate you, and show them by the way you walk and your facial expression looking STRAIGHT AHEAD, DO NOT LOOK AT THEM AT ALL, let them know you get your validation from yourself and God alone, and you will NOT BE MOVED, AND YOU WILL NOT BE SHAKEN, AND they will know you know they are a pathetic weak bully. And then they will remember how you once were so nice and sweet to them, and they will know in their soul you did nothing to deserve their hatred and abuse... and then they can wallow in their secret shame, and they will not steal any of your precious energy and light and love, , , and then they will watch when you do laugh with someone who doesn't hate you... and they will run and hide, because they know they will get nothing from you, and it's all their fault.

[lauriemendoza]

This is an awesome video! It should be titled "The Narcissis Playbook". It describes in perfect, complete detail what happened to me. Now that I am out of the relationship and getting educated. It's easier to understand how I got taken in by a demonic narcissis. I am healing now. Healing is a process. We must be patient and kind to ourselves as we heal. We have gone thru enough abuse at the hand's of the Narcissis.

[sahdogwrangler]

I was raised to be a narcissist magnet, by my abusive family & my religion, sorry to say. I had just turned 17 when I met my future husband, he was 25. I thought he was so wonderful. Now I'm here to stay for complicated reasons. I used to cry my eyes out when he said he was leaving me or threatened to leave. I was afraid of being alone & so down trodden I didn't think i could make it on my own. I would have fallen prey to the 1st narcissist I came across because I didn't know I even deserved respect & certainly didn't respect myself.

[samueltom]

Finally some one who gets what i have been through

[WinnieAtim-ik]

Wow, I always wondered why this person seemed to selectively side with the people that hurt my feelings. He was always increasing the quantity of things for me to fix by myself, and it was even better if he could team up with others against me. I needed a shoulder to cry on and listen, and he was on their side. I swear it felt like running a never ending marathon, until the universe broke me out of that trauma bond.

He never wanted me to invest in anything long-term for my own financial security, he was so strong about the disadvantages about such investments even going the extra mile to provide as many failure examples as he could, just so I could give them up. He even wanted me to have no financial sources of my own. He wanted me to need him and and never stop. Thank you Danish.

[jodiburnett]

Before I learned about narcissistic vampires, I
was like Toys R Us to my ex narcissist friends and family! Wow. This list is gold.

[anotherway]

This video has enormous healing power! They may not be testing consciously, but I am so sure I have not passed the tests and now I feel sooo happy for the choice I have made to leave and very proud of myself for protecting myself. I sometimes feel sad and question myself, but those are the tests that I definitely will not want to pass!!!

[lorimiller]

Danish, You describe narcissistic behaviors so on point that I wonder if you have had one really mess with your life. I don't think a person could even articulate so eloquently without having first hand experience with a narcissist. You have helped me to conceptualize abusive behaviors of my particular predator more than I ever could by myself. I feel stronger just conceptualizing clearly. Sadly, it is hard to imagine that people like this even exist. So sad for them. They don't understand the real beauty of fragility of our lives. Thank you, Danish.

[anilkapri]

I'm an empath but very intuitive and logical with situations. I started talking to a narcissist coworker and every test you mentioned in the video, she did to me for three weeks. After that she started devaluing and punishing me, when i didn't meet her expectations. For the next 4-5 weeks she kept grey-rocking and gas-lighting. She actually got my nerves and filled me with confusion and self-doubt. I confronted her but she ignored. I asked for a meet to discuss and fix things but she rejected at the last moment. I asked for closure but she didn't reply. She literally brought the hell out of me. I was sleepless at night and my anxiety was at its peak. Then I unfollowed her on social media and went no contact but she came back with a fake id. Only last week I came to know through your videos that these all could be narcissist traits, and since then I've been at peace of mind. I had to start meditation to overcome my feelings of anxiety and self-doubt. The war is still going on between us with each on silent treatment, but now I have started enjoying it as I see it all as childish attempts to gain unnecessary attention. I can't totally go no contact as I have professional obligations. I need to trust myself and be alert against harms she could bring me in the future. Wish me luck guys!! 🙏

[auntzoo-z]

When you are birthed by one, it doesn't have to test you. It makes you.

[audreyaloha]

I didn't connect the dots right away at all. He asked if i rented or if i owned that condo in south beach. When i said i owned he had a ton of ideas on how we could sell it and invest it.. then we moved to his homework in another state far from my family and friends, after six years and many cheating and abuse he left with new supply and wiped out my savings somehow he stole my passwords. Add to that he told everyone i abused him. Checks all the boxes