No Contact If Hope Is Lost!

In this video, Coach Lee helps you maintain hope during the no contact period after a breakup. If you're wondering if your ex will come back, you're not alone. This period can be one of the most challenging times emotionally, but with the right mindset and approach, you can navigate it with resilience and optimism.

Understanding No Contact
The no contact rule is a strategy often recommended by relationship experts as a way to give both parties time to heal and gain perspective after a breakup. By cutting off all communication with your ex for a set period, you allow yourself the space to process your emotions and begin the journey toward personal growth.

Why Keeping Hope is Important
Hope can be a powerful motivator. It can give you the strength to get through each day, even when things feel overwhelmingly difficult. However, it's essential to balance hope with realism to avoid setting yourself up for disappointment. In this video, we explore practical ways to keep hope alive while also focusing on self-improvement and emotional well-being.

Tips for Keeping Hope Alive
Focus on Self-Improvement: Use this time to work on yourself. Whether it's picking up a new hobby, exercising, or learning a new skill, focusing on personal growth can make the no contact period more productive and fulfilling.

Maintain a Positive Mindset: It’s easy to let negative thoughts take over during this time. Practice mindfulness and positive affirmations to keep your thoughts constructive and forward-thinking.

Surround Yourself with Support: Lean on friends and family for support. They can provide a much-needed perspective and remind you of your worth and strength.

Reflect on the Relationship: Take time to reflect on the relationship and understand what worked and what didn’t. This reflection can provide valuable insights that can help in future relationships, whether with your ex or someone new.

Visualize Positive Outcomes: Visualization can be a powerful tool. Spend a few minutes each day visualizing positive outcomes, not just in terms of getting back with your ex but also in achieving personal goals and happiness.

Stay Busy: Keep yourself occupied to avoid dwelling on the past. Engage in activities that bring you joy and fulfillment.

Seek Professional Help if Needed: If you find yourself struggling to cope, don't hesitate to seek help from a therapist or counselor. They can provide strategies and support to help you navigate this challenging time.

What to Avoid
Obsessing Over Your Ex: Constantly thinking about your ex or checking their social media can be detrimental to your healing process.
Reaching Out Prematurely: The no contact rule is about giving space. Reaching out too soon can disrupt the process and prolong your healing.
Neglecting Self-Care: Your well-being should be a priority. Ensure you're eating well, getting enough sleep, and taking care of your mental health.
Final Thoughts
Keeping hope alive during the no contact period is about finding a balance between optimism and self-care. Remember, this time is not just about waiting for your ex to come back but also about rediscovering yourself and growing as an individual. By focusing on personal growth, maintaining a positive mindset, and seeking support when needed, you can navigate this period with resilience and grace.

We hope this video provides you with the guidance and encouragement you need to stay hopeful and strong. Don't forget to like, comment, and subscribe for more relationship advice and tips.

Thank you for watching, and remember: Your journey to healing and happiness is just as important as your hope for reconciliation.

[AD-hhdd]

This worked for me! But it was a long process. I took Coach Lee’s advice and he came back after I went no contact for 4.5-5 mos. When he came back I took things very slowly. After 3 mos of seeing each other intentionally, I brought up the convo and we are now official. I couldn’t be happier

[Taran]

This advice saved my marriage. I was separated from my husband for a year and a half with daily contact. Begged and cried and made a complete mess of myself in front of him. Found out about the no contact rule. He came back four months later and we worked it out. Been back together and going strong for nearly four years now.

[marriagerestorationreconci]

I find that it's important to "show" them that you respect their decision to break up, and leave them be for a time, long enough to register the

[jaydub]

This worked for me. However, when he came back, I didn't want him. I like to stop by here, give a like, and say something supportive to those struggling. DO NOT GIVE UP! No contact gets them back. It will get you back. As soon as you acknowledge how bad they hurt you and, you're not willing to let them hurt you again. You may not be there yet. Just meet yourself where you're at today. Are you sad (that's normal)? If you're anxious (normal, too). Try to accept that’s where you're at in this process. Please stop judging yourself endlessly for what you're feeling. YOU ARE WORTHY! You'll get through this; stay strong. You are a beautiful person, and you deserve so much more than you allow in your life.

[CoachKen]

The feelings of fear and anxiety and compulsion to chase are all so REAL it convinces you they're trustworthy - they aren't. Great vid buddy!

[slickpanther]

This guy is the best on YouTube
Very articulate and easy listening. He's like a Angel of hope..
Thank you bro

[musselwhite]

Just a few days from hitting a year of NC. These videos have helped me tremendously over that time, though mostly at the start and less now that I’m over it all. NC started as a way to bring her back but turned to keeping it to better myself. I’ve come out of the fog and see her as the person she is not as who I thought she could’ve been.

Proud of myself to make it this far and am so much healthier mentally and physically. It gets easier everyone! Pick up a positive hobby. Mine has been going to the gym religiously. I’m a different person than I was a year ago but all for the better. To anyone out there struggling, just keep with it and distract yourself on those bad days.

[SkullObsessed]

Been in no contact for 3 months now, and I'm starting to find solace with myself. While in no contact, my 3 other ex's have all expressed their interest in getting back with me in some way or another. They always come back, even if it's years down the line you are never forgotten. Work on yourself and accept whatever the universe brings to your life, just exist and let what needs to happen just happen.

[christinaalexaaa]

This worked for me! I swear I didn’t think it was going to work! It’s been 13 days since no contact and aggressively focused on my own life and betterment and guess who contact me on this day? My ex. Who made it clear when we broke up that it would take a miracle for us to get back together. I was so hurt. And I believed his words of finality. But now he is wanting us to be together and would you believe if I said that now, I’m good. I think I’m going to continue enjoy being alone. So the breakup was absolutely a blessing

[Amy-qu]

I just want to say Coach Lee, Coach Ken and coach Rex are relationship savers! I did no contact for 6 months, put so much work into myself and then he came back. It was a lot of tough work and conversations, but we have never been better! Keep the faith and no matter it will work out how it's supposed to

[yasprettytm]

I begged for more than a month, until he already blocked me. It helps when he finally blocked me. I just realized now that I lost myself for begging and pleading 🥺. I'm healing now with my own emotional attachment and learning from it. Thanks to my ex for making me realize to love myself more than giving all of me to a relationship.

[lucyindarkness]

I have watched a lots of these videos 4 years ago; so I thought lets watch one for the nostalgy.
These videos helped me a lot when I was heartbroken, it also made me stronger and has given me a lots of insights in relationships.
In my case I was waiting and hoping for a year and a few months, but after that I closed the door behind me and moved on.
I became a better version of myself and enjoyed life again.
After 3 years she came back (and how) but it is way to late, maybe there was a change but she doesn't have the patience. I just keep my balance and stay in my zone. And if she goes away.. so be it!

What I want to say to al the heartbroken souls.. Stay strong and keep on working at yourself (I know its not easy but just keep trying)
Even in the beginning the 'no cantact rule' was the last thing I wanted to hear but as I see it now.. It's so powerfull!
I hope for all of you to have your love back!
And if not... stand your ground! At the far horizon there is a sun waiting with new and great life-experiences..

[sheka]

My ex bf reached out after 30 days No Contact. However, I am used to having on my own. His presence and communication no longer excite me. He was able to withstand 30 days NC with me, I have chosen to move on and choose my peace. Thank you Coach Lee!

[mohamedabdelhai]

Coach lee I swear you’re the only thing I still have hope in this relationship

[fernandoguillenactor]

I hope NC worked for you.

Lee’s videos helped me a lot 3 years ago when I was in a downward spiral of stress, anxiety and anger. Since day 1 I initiated no contact and I guess I’m in the 1% that never looked back and never heard or saw her again.

Imho, NC allowed me to learned a lot of things about me and her. It was extremely difficult but totally worth it.

Don’t expect they will come back and if they do it may take years or even better…they won’t.

Stay strong!!!

[immanuelleamofah]

He came back after three years. Thanks coach Lee for making some strong and being my peace and solace on those worst days. Eventually he came back. So don’t give up hope. But I no longer want him back so I blocked him. It feels amazing to be the one who blocked him everywhere now. I have healed completely.

[kenbear]

@coachlee just wanted to let you know you deserve a snickers

[Leaveitalone]

Today is the day I don’t want him back anymore. It took 4 months of hell but I know it’s going to be ok.

[habagun]

Dear Coach Lee, you helped my in the darkest period of my life when not only break up happened but also few other traumatic events at the same time. It kept me going although 2 years went by and she never looked back Im glad I sticked to NC because at least I saved my dignity. Thank you. You are a life saver sir.

[DannyMartinz]

One thing I appreciate about coach Lee’s style is that his whole focus isn’t on changing who you are in NC. Other online relationship coaches make it seem like you have to buy a car or new home, get a new job and/or change your personality.
Just because someone left you doesn’t mean you are lacking or that the problems solely resides with you.

Of course we can always learn, expand and improve so NC is a great opportunity but just as important we have to accept and love ourselves.