Why Can't I Control My Anger

Why can't I control my anger is a question I hear so often from good people frustrated that little things get under their skin and that no matter how much they try to be unruffled they take it out on loved ones. They feel ashamed and guilty, wanting to surgically remove their angry parts or becoming paragons of calmness.

There are three obstacles in the way of you not being able to control your anger and all are unconscious - therefore not under your control. The first is not wanting to be like your angry and abusive parent, teacher or other adult you depended on as a child.
There are two more reasons the video outlines in the story of Sandra, leading to a pathway where she was eventually able to accept her humanity - neither a devil or angel, and kept her relationships on a more even keel through a therapeutic experience that offered her a chance to develop the appropriate way of managing intense emotions.