you are not a self improvement project

obsession with self help & spiritual growth can be damaging

while i'm always one for wanting to be the best version of myself possible, i'm starting to notice that the obsession with self improvement has taken over a lot of our lives. whether it be on social media or from a new book, there are thousands of different tips on how to level up, glow up, grow, etc. even our spiritual journeys feel like a constant call for us to be better so we can attract more abundance. this video is a reminder that a lot of this pressure to constantly improve is rooted in capitalism, and that you are inherently worthy of love, joy, and success - just as you are at this given moment.

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[LynetteAdkins]

Just a little chit chat vid to serve as a reminder that you are enough as you are ❤

[stonecoldsigma]

I was extremely guilty of this. I'll be a better man when I lose weight, save money, buy a house, etc. Then I already a good man. My life is already good. When I stopped chasing the "white rabbit, " a heavy weight was lifted from me. Don't miss the journey trying to reach the destination.

[layladilajla]

I just finished a book called 'Women's Magic Truths' that explores these themes in depth. It's on Borlest and it was a life-changer for me.

[Kaithelightworker]

My friend calls it “destination addiction”. We always think once we reach a certain point in life, that will be the end all be all & life will finally be perfect but that’s never the case. The whole time we were supposed to be enjoying the journey & process not waiting until we get to the destination.

[mindfulnesswithmatt]

THIS! We are not incomplete without improvements. We operate from such a sense of lack that we forget abundance is already here and we just need to slow down to recognize and enjoy it

[sky.cielo]

BUY into this mindset: You are inherently worthy of the best and valuable without doing anything else than being who you already are everything that you want will come to you with a lot more ease knowing you are already more than enough as you are at your Core beloveds

[jasmineroussell]

I've been feeling this sense of contentment lately and life is flowing so much easier fro me. My prayers are simpler. My intentions are simpler. It feels good.

[A_Bookish_Obsession]

"You are the universe experiencing itself."

That is amazing and definitely something that's going to stick with me for a long time.

[asukalangleysoryu]

“life is learning again and again how to love ourselves more deeply”
i have not loved a sentence more spoken

[wawaicedcoffee]

In my journal yesterday, I literally wrote “why is life a project?” because I was so tired of feeling like I constantly had to be working on myself. Then today this video came up in my recommended - such perfect timing. I really needed to hear everything that you’re saying, thank you so much 🙏🏾 I’ve subscribed!

[Wolmaazchick]

I've never commented before but it's so interesting how we seem to be evolving in the same way. A few weeks ago something just "clicked" internally where I felt satisfied, content and proud of me. My growth is now more about expanding and enjoying that process of expansion instead of trying to compensate for things I'm "lacking". I'm starting to accept and like me for who I am in this moment and not just who I can be. I'm no longer loving me for my potential. I've started to just *be*... if that makes sense.

[IsaiahRTaylor]

The power of the present is truly a beautiful thing. I remember I used to be so fixated on the future; to the point where I was missing out on who I was in the moment. It wasn’t until I let go of that fixation, that my life would begin to change for the better. I say this to say: Let go of the attachment to your desires, while still taking the action. If you feel like you’ll never be complete without fulfilling your dreams, then you’ll broadcast that energy. That energy will only replicate, and reflect. Show up for yourself today and always remember that who you are today, is deserving of the life you wish to live.

[EJ-necs]

I love this. All 2022 I was telling friends how tiring the past 2 years have been and I just want to do nothing this year. I don’t want to grow, I don’t want to work towards anything. I just want to sit back and enjoy what I have manifested so far. Which in turn can be growth itself. I also realize that in itself can be a privilege because just as much as I have achieved so much everything is also getting more and more unattainable. Food, house prices and rent. This makes it hard for some of us to enjoy the now.

[demi.]

this is so real!! for a long time i thought i’d be more deserving of romantic and platonic love once i improved. while it’s important to be the best you can be in a friendship/relationship, it’s also possible to be loved at the place that you’re at. i developed a lot of anxiety because i was so worried about not being good/perfect enough for friends or a boyfriend. thank you for speaking about this!!

[ItsWhoIAmItsHowILive]

I realized I had destination addiction when I finished my doctorate and realized there was nothing past that. When you’ve maxed out potential, the only thing leftover is the life you still have to live.

[blondedivy]

7:29 another thing that helps - at least for me - is to change the word “worthy” or “deserving” to “capable”. once you start believing that you’re actually capable of doing something, you’re gonna be so much more motivated to make that thing come to life

[aoitetsu]

“Happiness is not something that you have to achieve. You can still feel happy during the process of achieving something” - Kim Namjoon.
I heard this quote in 2016 and I never really got it as a teenager. Not until I'm working towards university graduation in 2022 that I realize what it's actually mean. I keep reminding myself that I will be happy and not miserable anymore when I reach a certain goal, whether it's to get an internship, finish my internship report and my graduation thesis, finish my internship and actually graduated. But when I reached those goals, there's new problems coming up. I graduated and I now I need a job, or my life is over!!! I keep on feeling depressed, waiting for the next time I reach my goals to feel that tiny bit of happiness before going back to the darkness again.
If anyone out there is planning for their 2023, quarterly, monthly or weekly goals, don't put happiness as a compensation/ reward for you finishing those goals. It will never truly make you happy. You can be happy without having accomplished something in your life. You are worthy of happiness. Your own existence right now is worthy of respect and admiration.

[elias]

The key to life really seems to be having self-love and the urge for self-improvement coexist.


I truly believe both is super important, and that's also what you said, between the lines.

Being too obsessed with improving can hinder oneself I definitly agree, but self-love alone,
believing I am enough in the present moment, without doing absolutely anything, will only bring you so far, in my opinion.

Nice Video!

[Qrp_international]

“We are the universe experiencing itself” keeps me grounded and gives me more peace than anything else. Thank you, thank you, thank you. ❤

[alexisstaroneal]

Yes, everything you do in life is spiritual. Whether you are meditating or twerking, eating vegan or eating a buttery ass steak… the point of life is to live!

I had the realization that “this is it” on one of my shroom trips 💗

I highly suggest the book Wherever You Go, There You Are by Jon Kabat Zinn if you haven’t read it already. I think you or anyone watching your channel would love it!