It's not you, It's your face

It's time to talk about pretty privilege

[leilanilei]

Ok guys, everyone keeps asking what app the one girl is talking about in the video. I thought it was called "beauty pass ", but apparently that's only for models from verified agencies. I honestly don't know what app she's referring to anymore😢...

[BeaCNever]

Being the girl your friends ‘didn’t imagine having a boyfriend’ makes you realize a lot of things.

[Tobzzzz_]

Growing up ‘ugly’ and then growing into your looks as an adult is one of the weirdest feelings.

[FraBra]

When you lose your pretty priviledge then you will know just how much true it was...trust me.

[Yoirea]

The worst part of being ugly is that people literally treat you as if you were invisible. Your opinions and feelings don't matter, they always tell you to shut up and just put up with everything because "they allow you to be around them" and somehow it should be more than enough to make you happy... it's really upsetting that just because you're born with a face that doesn't fit the standard, your entire social existence is doomed and unless you find awesome people, you're basically left all alone...

[DDR]

“Pretty Privilege” is 100% real. Especially in the work place. It’s crazy that people are just more kind, patient, respectful, and forgiving to “pretty people”

[klevy]

When I got my first job as a waitress, I quickly realized that working was much easier when I wore conventionally pretty clothing and makeup. Everyone was friendlier and more patient with me even when I messed up, and I got way more tips. It was even more apparent when I acted extra bubbly and cutesy.

Obviously that came with its own cons too. Some men (usually older) would ask me when my shift was over, try to slip money into my apron or pockets while I cleared their tables, and would openly flirt with me, some even in front of their wives/GFs. I had one guy try to “teach” me how to do my job better while I was waiting on other tables.

The other waitress who was more heavy-set and wore less makeup wasn’t treated with the same amount of patience/respect, even though she was better at the job than me and was always very friendly and kind. I had some customers actually tell me they wanted me to serve them instead of her. It was an enlightening but unfortunate lesson I learned.

[gummy]

I don’t agree with the whole “if you’re pretty, people think you’re stupid” thing. People might assume you’re stupid because of your ugliness as well. I also find it depends on the type of beauty a woman possesses. If she has a lot of artificial enhancements and curves, maybe people will assume she’s not smart. This doesn’t apply to women with moderate and natural looking features.

[kenyett]

I "used to be ugly" when I was younger and only recently "discovered" that I was pretty. I think it's interesting seeing the difference in how my peers treated me then and now. I was harassed on the street more back then than I am now, but now I can convince people to do things for me a lot easier. And people tend to listen more intently to what I have to say now than they used to.

[chickenfoot]

something that i dont think gets talked about enough is how important being photogenic is- a lot of people seem to think its just ugly or pretty. like i know i can be good looking irl and i get a lot of male attention, but in my heart of hearts i KNOW i look terrible on camera. same goes for a lot of people i know. but many people who are even perhaps conventionally just average looking have the ability to make themselves look better on camera. its something i often feel jealous of considering how prevalent social media is in our social lives, although i know id also feel jealous if i looked better on camera than off. people who have both really are lucky icl

[RedDeadReverie]

The privilege is REAL! I was overweight most of my life until my ED got so bad I was in the hospital. People treated me so much better when I was sick and it fueled my ED more because I didn’t want to be treated the way I was when I was fat. Now as I’m older, I care less about it but people dehumanize you when you’re fat. It’s sad 😐

[fosuaaaaa]

Pretty privilege exists. This is coming from someone who was usually the last to bloom back in middle school, a teachers pet and was always the last to be picked when they boys were doing their random chooses. (Illogical I know, but if you were in such a situation as a pre/post pubescent girl, it was extremely painful to experience)

At 19-20, I’m glad to say that yes, I have bloomed well (honestly non of them were expecting it) and I have realized that indeed I am pretty. I’ve had a lot of privileges my childhood self could only dream of and it’s so surreal sometimes when I find myself in such situations. People letting me cut lines, lectures being less strict on me, getting free rides, free drinks, free meals… my inner child’s always says “so all this while you were indeed pretty”. It makes me teary sometimes.

But with a background like mine, when I acknowledge that pretty privilege does exist, I’m all of a sudden deemed as self absorbed?

Remember, human beings are fickle af and the number of things “pretty” people have gotten away with us astounding.

There’s nothing in this world that would ever stop the effects in f pretty privilege as long as humanity still exists because obviously, humans like pretty things. (Beauty lies in the eye of the beholder btw)

And the assumption that your dumb just because you’re pretty, VERY TRUE. It’s so surprising when I have conversations with males and they’re so surprised with the way I think. They usually say “I thought you weren’t like this, you know, smart”. You’re talking to a straight A student bro.

Most of the time I use that assumption to my advantage. It’s time to stop with the victim mentality. You thought I was dumb just because I’m pretty, well I’m not gonna react and then your true self will literally show.

I’m 23 now, still a virgin and have never had a boyfriend. Men mostly flock around you just to sleep with you mostly for your body or any other sexually inappropriate reasons, or just to boost their ego. It gets annoying and suffocating sometimes.

I am black with very dark skin and I absolutely love my skin.

No matter how you look, you should love yourself and if you think you need some improvement, totally up to your discretion. Don’t let the stereotypical beauty standards confuse you.

[alajhax]

This is so real. Skin tone and hair texture also play a big role in who's deemed "attractive" or not. Especially w the rise of influencer culture and it's so draining. Great video!!

[angy-guzp]

For all the younger women watching this, please please please remember that having light hair, eyes and skin does NOT equate to being beautiful. It's all about bone structure and contrast, it doesn't matter where you come from or where your ethnicity is from originally, what really matters is the overall harmony in the face and body. Still, even if we're not perfect l, just remember the prettiest person is unattractive to someone, believe or not. At the end of the day, we all are beautiful in the eyes of some people, always always remember that ♥️

[arunimaverma]

my fraternal twin has pretty privilege and she's very much the kind of person who doesnt care about her looks and no matter how much effort i put in, an average joe like me is looked down upon for the same things she's praised for (for eg if we both dont dress up, shes "not-shallow" but im "gross" and should put in effort)

point is, people with pretty privilege will always have it easier even if they have to deal with unsolicited attention. at least thats just my opinion :/

[brunettemouse]

I don't doubt that pretty people have their own unique struggles, but I will say it's probably still preferable than being deemed unattractive by society. I hear that people who are not conventionally attracted get treated really badly. Being pretty is still a privilege

[lumenia]

I've always been ugly. I'm still waiting for my "glow up" but I know it's too late for it to happen. It's not just about what privilege you get but if you're ugly you don't have any chance to have a family in the future. You're doomed to live alone, watching all your friends getting married.

"I wanted to acknowledge that if people don’t have a sex life, it’s not for some moral reason, it’s just because they’re ugly. Once you’ve said it, it sounds obvious, but I wanted to say it." - Michel Houellebecq

[juliel]

I’m not a conventionally attractive person and at my former job they made it very clear to me that I was ”beneath them” because of it. My boss even told me that if it weren’t for my personality, he’d never have hired me since I don’t have the looks. My colleagues shunned me and none even cared to be friendly or even say ”Hello”. I was never invited to ”after work”-parties. I thought that maybe if I tried to climb the career ladder, they’d respect me more. I busted my a’ off and got promoted to manager but nothing changed except that they were not only mean but also refused to listen to me and complained whenever I asked them to do their job. I’m never gonna work in a social climate ever again.

[triplejoyinx]

It's a sad reality. When I was in school (before i went homeschooled) I was harassed, the butt of the joke, made fun of and I had to sit there and take their shit because they were above me. I tried telling the teachers and they'd tell me they'd handle it but just let them off the hook because they were considered attractive, and yknow attractive people cant be "bad" people.

[theguynextdoor]

As a man, I had pretty women be offended that I treat them equally as average ones. I have seen this with my own eyes with men too. Some of the younger women at work treat unattractive men worse than the tall and good-looking ones. Attractive people are often overestimated in competence and intelligence. We're all biased to some extent, and this is the cold hard truth. Man or woman, it doesn't matter. Maybe pretty privilege would not be such a prevalent thing if we treated people fairly? A pretty girl once told me: You said no to buying me credits for my sim card???? wow. I'm not used to that!