The biggest habit building mistake

[clark]

appreciate the fact that you posted this on new years while everyone is making their resolutions.

[rolo]

Bro with your help I quit drugs, am moving more, drinking more water, sleep has improved and that’s the tip of the iceberg man. Thank you so much for all the help and advice you’ve given me over the months .I’m sure those who read this will see better days . Have hope brothers and sisters peace and love ❤

[BlondieYouTube]

*Whenever someone tries to quit something: for instance smoking. I always tell them;* _"You're not quitting, you're just not going to do it again. Quitting is not an action, doing it again is the action."_
The reason I tell people this, is because once they get back into the habit again, which is easy with smoking to just.. do it again once. And once people do something again they believe _their action of quitting_ has failed so now they best go back smoking again. But that isn't true. You didn't fail quitting, you just _did it again._ *So keep not doing it.*

[iXtrafe]

This is actually such a good way to look at it, because when you mess up one time, you normally tell yourself that now you have to start all over and that would take a lot of courage and willpower again.

[Xczptn]

Reflection:

I wish I heard this 2 years ago. June 2021, I was getting better mentally and physically. I lost 5kgs that time. Then there's a very bad day so I eat more than my calorie limit and then, a reunion with my friends in HS came up. I gained weight. I'm ashamed of going back to the gym and disappointing my trainers because of my fallback (I thought that all my progress was thrown in the trash) and my week of absence.

In MANY things in my life, this was my go-to:
Doing it and getting great/progress -> one bad time -> stopping and thinking I'm a failure -> A years later -> Step 1 again.
It's a cycle and maybe that's why I haven't moved from this line for years. I thought I was moving from that line but I haven't really.

This week I will try again and this time, I will remember what you said.

[ienjoyapples]

In 2016 I was an unemployed, fat, single alcoholic living with my parents. Today I'm a fit, sober, married business owner living in a nice home. That change didn't happen in 30, 60 or 90 days. It took years, and I'm still evolving little by little each day.

[thejessica-est]

The road analogy is how I explain neuroplasticity to my patients!!! I appreciate all the "Better Ideas" you bring to us. Happy New Year!

[crazyconan]

I agree. I've developed good habits this year not due to a magic number of days, but consistency and going back after "bad days" of eating out or not going to the gym some days. I have a stronger mentality where I exercise daily at gym and eat much healthier than I ever have, it's not perfect, but I don't want to be, I want to be the best me that I can be by trying to be a little bit better than who I was yesterday.

[danthe_cameraman]

"Progress is not vertical" I love the way you phrase this - It's easy to get bogged down by one off events or returning bad habbits but I find the best way to overcome this is to take time to reflect on the progress I've made - I find this helps me not become discouraged in those negative moments but also continue to work on my goals or passion. Love your content, it's always super insightful and super helpful!!

[s.a.n]

"Atomic Habits" is pure gold. It changed my life in the best way

[TheWalkingTaco]

Tony Robbins said something similiar in an interview. He was talking about this buddy he had who had been trying to give up cigarettes, and his buddy goes "I've gone nine days without a cigarette." Tony responds with "Why are you counting?"

[LuchStefano]

0:40 I actually find mine is more a gradual slip into the bad habits which is even scarier because I barely notice it happening....

[MegaAA]

Progress over perfection.
Continuity over consistency.

[samuelcrawford]

I’ve been trying to quit watching a certain “adult content” several times. I definitely find it easier to stop even if I slip up once in a while. I remember quicker that I don’t enjoy it and that I’m trying to break the habit. Happy New Year Joey! Here’s to new roads! 🥂

[TheSilviepie]

Sometimes it's necessary to hit rock bottom to make a change (which doesn't happen overnight). I used to think hitting rock bottom was to be avoided at all costs, but being in limbo is far worse because it made me stay stagnant and unhappy.

[SparkyXX]

This clip NEEDS to be viewed multiple times. I come back to thie video often. It is helping me overcome my addiction.

[snorrerane]

I have stopped watching self improvement videos, but Joey´s videos are super valuable to me. He for some reason keeps my discipline in check and reminds me about the how and why. I currently have my gym thing going for me, my morning routine is in check, but for some reason my study and reading routine is pretty hard to establish. I also have a tendency to fall off track when ever I binge my old habits, the road example was very helpfull.
Thanks once again! :)

[TheChewyleaf]

Thank you Joey, I have so many bad habits that’s I’ve been battling against for years now and your videos always help me. I’m now at a particular crossroads where I’m having to sit some exams in my 30s to progress in my career (failed this exam twice now and due to resit again soon), having always struggled deeply with procrastination. I always felt so guilty at university because I never felt like I was fulfilling my potential, and when I managed to graduate successfully I was so relieved but felt like a bit of a fraud. Ironically I’m now in a career with many exams ahead, but the career gives me so much joy and fulfilment I think it’s worth finally trying to build those roads properly so I can be proud of myself. It’s so hard to come home after a hard day’s work and sit down to study day after day, but I’m trying to build those good habits/roads one brick at a time. Sometimes you fail, but as you said you keep building on your previous progress as best as you can. This video has given me another little burst of positivity and inspiration so thank you for that. Live by that mantra, inaction is a slow death.

[FireFortuna]

We're not building a tower, we're building a road 💯

[Iucebowel]

You blew my mind when you said habits were like roads; I had never even stopped to think of it that way.

If I could subscribe to only one channel on this entire platform, it would be yours.