Vlogmas Day 11: The REAL Reason Men Don't Approach You...Promise Not To Get Mad

7 Reasons Men Don't Approach You: Why Men Don't Approach You
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[ShanaJahsintaWalters]

The real reason why men don't approach me is because I am literally indoors 99% of the time.

[candylove]

Also some men will look and NOT approach because he’s married.

[Cairo]

I get the smiling part but my goodness should I smile 24/7 on the train walking down the street, people might start to think I am a weirdo, also you attract the creeps.

[asiablackgrl]

He might not approach when you look dressed down. He’s afraid to approach when you’re dolled up.... 🤦🏿‍♀️ I’m listening Coach and I’m still disappointed in these men.

[cookiewilliams]

Being SINGLE is turning into a part-time job...Lol!🤣 I really enjoyed the tips & the bluntness!💯

[sweettee]

Lol and I get the opposite 🙄 I put the "I don't wanna be bothered " look on and they STILL say something. I have my headphones on for a reason!

[MakaylaLynnOnYoutube]

I love this, because it’s all 150% true and honest, but I dislike to the CORE of my being how much effort everything seems to take nowadays. Society is slowly starting to speak to singles with a LIST of requirements and how-to’s, with reasons why this or that is happening. Although this video fits into that kind of category, your advice has always been out of love, knowledge, and desire to see us succeed (which is appreciated and not taken for granted)!

It’s just really discouraging that I may be sitting down at a restaurant and feel as though, because my hair isn’t a day 1 twist out, that a man across the way will find me unappealing. Or if my arms are crossed because it’s cold, or my smile isn’t big enough. There’s way too much to think about, and too much pressure, mainly on women, to find this “happy medium” of being desirable but not being desperate. Men don’t have it easy, especially with me, but I am generally less judge mental of a man if I know he is kind! Is that the same mercy I’m granted as a single women in this day and age? Nope.
Will things be okay? Of course!

I know there are opportunities for me to improve externally and internally. The pity party can’t drag on forever (speaking to myself), but I hope that the time comes when young women can reach a point where they stop giving themselves lists. If they can find incredible coaches like you and only take one or two things to heart, that’s ideal. Absorbing this ENTIRE video and taking it all to heart, though? That’s a match made in stress heaven, and young singles don’t deserve that. This probably sounds so back-and-fourth, but I hope someone who needs to read this can find some comfort knowing that it’s okay to not care about 4 of these 7 things, maybe 5. Heck, go for 6. It’s also imperative that we take responsibility for ourselves and learn from Shawn because her wisdom is OUT THERE. I’ve been following for years and I appreciate the tips and transparency I’ve received thus far. Just praying for my sistas out here.

I haven’t been on a date in 4 years, not ONE date, and I struggled with that fact and realization for a time. It’s time I stop struggling and start focusing more on being a dope woman, which I am. Then, if someone wants to appreciate what he sees whenever he sees me, with me looking HOWEVER I look at the moment, then that’s a plus. ♥️ Thanks Shawn, again, for everything.

[misskingstonjamcutie]

Men don't approach because they don't put any effort in nowadays. They don't have to. They can slide in dms or swipe right and have instant access to women, so they don't have to approach and create conversation because that would take actual effort. Don't make it seem like women are doing something wrong by just living their lives. The age of courtship and having in-person conversation is over. That's really the issue, so if you're not gonna address the huge shift in social interaction then this video and "advice" is disingenuous and not helpful!

[LeesaLilHop]

When I first met my current boo 2 years ago, it was at a food truck. I had already ordered my food when I saw him walking up. He was fine. It was 2am and I was grabbing food after a night out so I was alittle dolled up. I stared him down and sent him smiles the entire time he was ordering until he eventually spoke to me. Two years later we are working from home together during this quarantine and planning a future. If you see something you want, dont be scared to show it

[kwilliams]

“Stop looking Mean!” Welp there goes my problem that I need to get to fixing. Most of the time it’s because I just don’t want to be bothered. Also, I stay on my phone! All the wrong guys approach me that I would never desire to engage with at all! Let me go pray

[CeceNaturalful]

My mother said to me one day "you gonna miss ya husband because you're always in that phone" 😂😂😂

[kim_]

4:07 as I sit here in sweats and uggs 😂😂😂

[Fidelia]

I’m in college, could you do a video on how to SAFELY reject men you don’t want?

[katelinparks]

I look mean I won't lie. I'm unaware of my facial expressions actually a lot of the time. People read me all wrong because of it smh.
And I have anxiety like nearly 24/7 so that could also play a role.
But when people actually talk to me, they see I'm not mean at all. But few guys will actually approach despite my resting "b" face.

[Shindacia]

I feel like I’m all of these things😫 I have a lot of work to do Lool

[melaninsabre]

*Rolls up my sleeves, fully preparing to climb all the way in my feelings* 😅😂

Edit: Point one and I'm already one foot in. 😂🙈

[yanniet]

I appreciate your point of view..you're awesome at what you do. I'm just disappointed that women go thru such lengths just to get a man's attention. We basically have to do all the things you've listed just to get the attention of man. It just seems team to much and then the man does basic things to get the attention of a women and we stamp approved to date in a heart beat. It's just sad to me.

[can-can]

A man is a king because he sees himself as a king, just as a woman is a queen because she sees herself as such. Some of the tips are based on the notion that the moments of interaction are longer than most moments and dont take into consideration the grocery store, gas station, etc.--the encounters that are moments in time vs. somewhat "standing appointments", i.e. gym, thursday hang day, etc. I also think that at the end of the day, while putting in extra work will help, if a woman is a jogging pants and a tshirt kinda woman, she may get the man, but wont keep him because she will return to what's comfortable for her, and I think that's okay. What must be noted is that confidence and self love will always ring true and I think that's attractive. I do agree that men are visual, however, the men that stick and stay are staying for more than appearance. Sometimes confidence, not arrogance which can be an even bigger barrier to being approached, is another reason a woman doesn't get approached. And, there is nothing she can do, outside of approaching him, to make him understand that while she may have her ish together in a particular way it doesn't mean she wont give a guy, maybe in a lower salary bracket for example, the time of day.

[Aedriyuna]

My ex once said that me. Don’t let yourself go. I was offended. Not by what he said but how he said it. That’s why he’s my ex now that I think about it. Beware of narcissistic men ladies.

[lakitacovington]

Soooo too put together or not put together can be a turn confused!