When You See THIS, It's Narcissism, Guaranteed

Narcissism can have many facets, depending on the unique style of narcissism you encounter. Dr. Les Carter goes beyond explaining the most common traits of narcissism and identifies one specific pattern common across the board. Let's just say they have difficulty being honest about the havoc they create.

Dr. Les Carter is a best selling author and therapist who lives in Dallas, Tx. In the past 40 years he has conducted more than 60,000 counseling sessions and many workshops and seminars. He specializes in anger management and narcissistic personality disorder.

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[jimjam]

When you eventually stop trying to engage people like this at any emotional level you realise how shallow, dull and boring they actually are.

[Uniques-]

They say" I don't need to work on my anger." "You need to stop doing things that make me mad."

[catalhuyuk]

To enrage a healthy person, lie to them.
To enrage a narcissist, tell them the truth.

[hd-bedi]

Narcissism: Once you see, you can't unsee.

[mattlavender]

Everyday is day zero for a narcissist. That was then, this is now. Why can’t you let the past go? We’re always supposed to act as if we have no history with them.

[salonsavy]

being with a narcissist is very dangerous to your health, , , the anxiety levels, loss of joy, they suck the life from you, , leaving you sick, , empty, , hopeless!

[surferdude]

Real person: I'm trying to be a little better each day.
Narcissist: I'm trying to make others make things better for me every day.

[bangmo]

They CAN'T see you happy, they want you miserable like them.

[Selena-T]

The refusal to take accountability really gets to me. It's like a physical abuser saying it's your fault I punched you in the face. No matter what, it's never their fault.

[DaphnesCaseFiles]

They HATE seeing you do better in life

[PotterSpurn]

Narcissist toss of a coin: Heads they are right; Tails you are wrong.

[tlam]

#1 sign someones a narc, is if they have to put someone down, in order to feel better about themselves

[barbaraduma]

They give you that empty stare, and say, “I don’t remember that”. After trying to explain to my sister how her behavior (which she conveniently couldn’t remember) made me feel, she finally said, “I’m sorry...you did that to yourself”.

[krisztina]

They are not interested in the havoc they create and they never take responsibility for the consequences. They love watching distressed victims, it gives them a feeling of power. They cause damage and suffering and then they immediately start blameshifting and projecting. This is my experience.

[meowu]

Narcissists' idea of right and wrong can be summed up as: "Right is what I want when I want it and wrong is when somebody tells me no."

[chanchan]

“Oh, yeah, it’s all my fault” with a sarcastic sneer dismissing any conversation.

[MrTimjm]

Worst thing is when you realize you have narcissists in the family. Its easy to move on from other people but family that are like this make it 10 times harder to deal with or avoid

[lotusphoenix]

Don't ignore the red flags. Test their ability to take accountability in a relaxed casual conversation over something silly. It is not only in arguments that these red flags show up.

[l.]

There is never an 'us' with a narcissist.

[archeewaters]

the moment you start saying "No" to them without explaining yourself, is the moment they start to realize they can no longer manipulate you. you then become useless to them and they will trash your character to everyone and cut you loose. what a powerful word.