I Watch Your Videos But Never Change My Life

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00:00 - Preview
00:10 - How people change
06:00 - Stages of change
12:48 - Changing without doing
17:44 - The science of change
23:49 - Conclusion

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[WhyNot-qwvu]

These are getting so relatable to the point that I’m expecting the next video will be him calling me by my name

[Pwndbythnb]

Jesus Christ the last month of videos have literally the most relatable set of topics then nothing changes in my life then Dr.K is breaking the 4th wall and is like you think I didn't notice?

[starship]

Dr. K: "Don't chain watch informational or motivational videos"
Me with 10 tabs open of just his videos: 👁👄👁

[torilose]

Just making sure I recall some key points on how to change:
1. Challenge beliefs (Don't overdo it with information. Make sure you are able to recall the information)
2. Just reflect (the more you do this the more you learn = change)
3. Be patient
I´m trying to fix my procrastination problems. Hope this still applies. Feels a bit weird as I might be procrastinating right now.

[hamidofwinterfell]

Doing stuff is not how people change, it’s what comes after people change. Great point man.

[dutonic]

The day I realized your videos weren’t meant for me anymore was a good day. My life has improved orders of magnitude since I found you, though most of that work had to be done by me. Learning to focus and enjoy the present moment while being aware of managing my neurochemistry were my most important lessons. Don’t give up guys!

[liveeeh]

the " just woke up and decided to change " is so true, happened to me twice.

the first time 5 years ago, after being unhappy with my body for the longest time, one morning i just woke up and decided that I had enough of looking in the mirror and hating the way i looked, so I just started going to the gym 5 times a week and kinda just never stopped.

the second time was recently where exactly this happened, i would sit here and watch dr.k, knowing damn well that as soon as i got out of bed i would turn on Minecraft and play Skyblock for way too long, until one morning it just clicked, decided to fix my financial situation and i am now in the process of starting my first business and just generally improving myself as a person.

give it time people, it might look like you're not doing anything, but your brain is slowly preparing to make the changes you need, Rome wasn't built in a day

[kdavver]

I've come up with a food analogy to summarize this video (that at least helps me)
1. Taste - Absorb the information, but don't bite off more than you can chew.
2. Chew - Process the information, get it ready for you to accept, and take your time (chew before you swallow).
3. Swallow - Move the information from short term (the mouth) to the long term (the stomach), happens naturally in our sleep
4. Digest - Let the information settle in your body and "become a part of you", the actual "change"
5. Take a shit - When you're body has "become one" with the information, you will eventually feel the urge to act. This has to be natural, and ONLY when you feel the urge to do it. If you try to force it, it causes strain and may make it harder in the future.

[hover]

Went on my first date a few days ago at 25. Everytime I wanted to go into my panicy nervous nelly self and stay internal, i reminded myself to stay in the present moment with her and have fun. Dont expect, just live and touch grass. Went very well and already planning the next one with her

[daphne]

Holy crap. He really nailed it. In the past I OBSESSED over watching self-help videos, and I just knew I wasn't retaining anything and I just didn't know why. But omg I just wasn't giving myself space to process and let everything sink in. The tip about not chain watching informational content is pretty life changing for me, and I really needed to hear it. Thank you so much for this knowledge.

[abigailhendrick]

As a computer engineer, the RAM analogy being pretty much correct made my heart happy.

[awesommaniac]

I’ve struggled with changing myself for years and I always feel “behind” for lack of a better phrase. Hearing the phrase “not doing anything is called patience, not failure” literally has me in tears at my office

[maxg]

My biggest problem is stalling. I know exactly what to do in order to progress my social life, my career etc. but keep finding excuses not to. Right now it's "I'm going on holiday next month, if I start a new job now it'll inconvenience my new employer, I'll do it after" or "It's too hot to go out and meet people today, I'll just be too sweaty and thirsty to hold a conversation. I'll do it when it's cooler"

[lovekeego]

that "RAM" analogy got me, i have like 40 videos on self improvement and i can only remember like 3 and i thought i just had bad memory, turns out whatever i learned just got overwritten lmao

[CalebM_]

This is actually a great video to start off BEFORE binge-watching Dr. K 's content on YouTube. It is an introduction to the entire series he posted. You may watch videos and apply them to your life but without any reflection and looking deep within yourself the teachings will not stick. Use this video as a foundation for everything that you will learn and eventually learn in life. Change is inevitable in life, before changing we must first prepare to change ourselves by doing nothing.

[Vitoreo]

Dr.K during the video: "Dont binge watch motivational Videos. "
The Outro: FOR MORE ---->

[griffins-c]

Wow, it's almost like having a therapist educated in psychology AND youth culture is a cheat code. . . seriously helping me more than actual therapy.

[KinnetMontana]

Not only he gives you the road to fix your life, but also a road to that road. Thanks a lot Dr. K!

[Sverance]

Every day i wake up and watch 1 Dr.K video, I feel like I have taken weeks worth of therapy, a screw somewhere in my head just got tightened and the cogs start turning more smoothly.

[freshrockpapa-e]

I relate so much to the one day feeling enough is enough, only that for me I keep coming back to the behaviour although each time it takes more time to relapse, whether it is drugs, videogames, arguing with people on the internet... At some point you realize you're just wasting your life and you'd rather do something else that isn't so destructive.