15 Tips For Living Alone | Things I Wish I Knew Before Living On My Own For the First Time

Hello! In this video I share 15 Tips For Living Alone, Things I Wish I Knew Before Living On My Own For the First Time. My intention with this video is to give you practical advice that will help anyone transition from living with others to living solo! It can be super scary and nerve racking to take this step but you've GOT THIS! I truly hope these tips will come in handy. Don't forget to check out the resources I linked below!  

00:00 - Intro 
00:51 - a little congrats moment 🎉
01:11 - tea & you ♥️
01:42 - #1 Be patient with yourself
02:21 - #2 It's lonely, so have a plan
03:51 - #3 Find the planner for you
05:07 - #4 Budgets are your friend
05:39 - #5 Stock up, thank yourself later
06:49 - #6 Meet/make friends with neighbors'
08:55 - #7 Make space your own
09:47 - #8 Be one step ahead with safety
11:43 - #9 Get good at knowing less
13:12 - #10 Craft routines that work for you
13:51 - #11 Talk out loud to yourself
14:35 - #12 Have things to look forward to
15:30 - #13 Clean as you go
16:19 - #14 Cooking for one is FUN
17:07 - #15 Start enjoying solitude ♥️
18:23 - self reflection question

About me: I was married at 18 years old and am going through the process of divorce at 21. Thank you for watching my journey. 

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[natalie]

Learn what makes you lonely. I would get distracted on a phone call or movie and my house would get dark in the evening. The dark made me super sad and lonely. I got in the habit of turn my lamps on really early so my house never gets dark. The warm lamp light is so cozy and safe. Sometimes you can’t fight the lonely feel but sometimes you can.

[gretchenbond]

I have a calendar on my fridge that only has fun things on it. I don't put anything related to work, paying bills, etc. That's for my online calendar. I love to look at my Fun Calendar. It keeps me focused on that area of my life so I don't just work...ha

[shortgirl]

I've been divorced for 26 years after being married for 18 years. I truly love living on my own and sharing my house with 2 cats. I tell people, "The best part of being on my own is that everything's up to me. The worst part of being on my own is that everything's up to me." I have become so independent and capable and have learned to do so many things, mostly out of necessity. Big tip: don't be aftaid to eat out on your own or go to the movies on your own. Sure, it'll feel awkward the first few times, but it's so freeing.

[susantam]

My husband passed away 5 months ago & now I’m by myself. I call my family & friends. They come to visit me. I feel better now.

[TaraMistsword]

I started crying within 3 minutes of watching this video. I thought I was doing a bad job. I thought I was failing. I thought because I am hungry that I'm not doing this right. But you helped me understand how big of a deal the first few months of moving out alone will be, you helped me feel so much better and cleared the guilt about being lonely or a little rocky with priorities. I cannot say thank you enough. Thank you for saying it's okay to feel the way I'm feeling. I don't feel alone anymore.. I feel like I'm doing just fine..

[Ladyrosethewitch]

I'm going through a divorce currently and soon I'll be living on my own. I got married right out of highschool so I've never been on my own. As much as I'm excited, I'm also nervous cause it's gonna be a whole new experience. I really appreciate the tips, they're very helpful 💚

[alexanderfarrell]

I am almost 63 and have lived in a special care home for 6 years, and am preparing to move out into assisted living, so these tips are very useful, Tanh You!

[tuijawilkening]

Just stumbled upon your channel and thought these tips were for young people and almost moved on to another channel but quickly realized that as a 69 year old widow, these tips still apply. In fact, I practice most of them and love living alone
Thank you.

[decolo]

Thank you so much for the tips, I (34 M)got dumped by my gf 2 months ago from a 6 year relationship. I had to live with my ex for those 2 months because I was struggling to find a place for myself. Today, I was finally able to move out. I moved everything, and after everything was done, I just bawled my eyes out, like ugly crying, I probably didn't cry like that since I was a child, also a day before moving out I found out that she started dating with others about half a month ago. It hit me pretty bad and since I was living with her and other roomies for the good part of a decade and I'm suddenly living alone and the fact that she's seeing other people just joined forces and danced the polka on my psyche. Now I'm in my new bed that I built in 4 hours and watching your videos, and they really help. So thank you again I will follow your advice.

[susandhays]

I have been widowed for 19 years and I love living alone...
It has made me strong as an independent..💕

[williamjameslehy]

Took some getting used to, but now I love it. I love being able to eat whatever I want every single day, and I *LOVE* being able to clean my house and it just...stays that way. I'm just now starting to adjust to the fact that I can decorate my house however I want now.

[sunshinero]

What I did for me was to reach out to a therapist to help me through my emotions and being alone for the first time. Thank you for this beautiful video, it made me very positive and hopeful ❤

[divyadeepawasthy]

Respected ladies and gentlemen;
Born in 1973....All my childhood, teenage yrs. I've seen my parents 💥argue, 💥squabble, 💥fight over the pettiest of things.
Now they're dead.
But the aftermath of their marriage is such that I chose to live alone ; in peace { with my books, my hobbies, my thoughts and above all with my dear Ol'God almighty}.
God sent me on Earth; alone,
I choose to stay; alone,
I'll die & travel to other dimensions ; alone.

[jeabennett]

This video is confirming because I am the only one I know that do this. I have lived alone for many years and I have meticulously scheduled everything. This is something I have been doing since middle school. Even though I only follow through with half of what I write down, having a schedule keeps me productive. I even schedule little things like washing my hair or picking out my clothes for the next five days. I've sometimes been late to work because I had to make a decision before work on what clothes to wear that I did not pre set. I also agree with the content creator about chores. I only do chores for one hour.. Then I recontinue cleaning the nexy day. Like the content creator I'm least likely to get overwhelmed when I break down things I don't like into small segments one at a time.When I was in school I hated studying so I would only study each subject for one hour then come back to that subject later. If I didn't do that I would day dream and not focus intently on my subject of study. I didn't have Focus Mate in the 1990's but I did have the Library for studying. If people around me were studying then it was easy for me to study. Same thing for working out: If I saw other people at the gym working out then it was easy for me to work out. The gym was better then working out at home. This is a good video weather you live alone or with roommates or live with your family. Some parts of this video is good advice for having order and structure in your day to day life.

[Kat-kohj]

Thank you ❤ I love living along, most of my life I’ve been alone and I have no regrets . I’m in my middle 70 and just moved into my last home in a small community. Great tips,

[parusudi]

I can't believe this video!!! I have had the EXACT SAME experience for the past 14 months 😊😊😊. Thank you for this truckload of positivity ❤

[itsfourty]

This video is so helpful and comforting. I am currently going through a breakup with my live-in partner. I have so much anxiety about moving into my own place, but I am also excited to really make it my own without having to run everything by my partner and get approvals to make the space the way I want it. I know this season of anxiety will pass with time, looking forward to finding peace with living alone. Will be using these tips! Especially the preparation. So thank you thank you!

[Lunaishtar]

Going through a divorce, and honestly this gave me so much hope on one of the hard days. Thank you!

[aliciab]

Excellent tips. I'm not sure I could have come up with half of those at your age. I'm decades older than you, and many of those tips still apply.

I didn't hear you mention books, but those have been a lifesaver for me. Not only do I learn (I read non-fiction), but I can get into a discussion with the authors through journaling.

[goodenoughgirl]

Ha ha. I talk to myself all the time. Well also the cats as well. I’m kind of a “living alone” veteran (and a former latch key kid lol) but lately I’ve just been feeling like interesting and intelligent convo is hard to find. And sometimes you can just feel like I should have more friends. People might say you need to be more “social” but also solitude can become one of the best friends you’ve ever had. But my background was fleeing toxic relationships tho and it’s truly better to be “alone” than with bad people…for the sake of just not being alone.