The Brain Fog of Grief

Grief specialist, author and widow, Anne-Marie Lockmyer shares about the impact grief has on our brain.

Ron Gray and Anne-Marie Lockmyer offer hope and healing to the broken hearts of grief.

Anne-Marie Lockmyer and Ron Gray are professional grief specialists and both lost their beloved spouses. Anne-Marie is a grief specialist, certified in critical incident stress debriefing, a certified trauma-integrative practitioner, 8-time award-winning author on grief, and founder of The Grief & Trauma Healing Network, LLC.

Ron is a master marriage and family therapist specializing in grief and related trauma and is the founder of Christian Grief and Trauma Counseling Center and The Haven spiritual retreat center in Orange, California. After losing their spouses, they personally know the pain and devastation that grief and loss cause and are living proof that you can go from surviving to thriving.

[itagiatapu]

My husband passed unexpectedly one year ago...😢 I'm trying my best to do life without him. Thanks for sharing

[jwalkerandthe]

I keep saying that my brain is MUSH. Some people just don't seem to get it.

[kathleenhensley]

Thanks for saying that. Its been the worse 20 months of my life. My sweet man and I were so much in love.. 44 yrs of bliss. I am finally watching a few videos. I couldn't remember a recipe I have made thousands of times. I burn things... I couldn't even garden and sew lately. I can't seem to want to do simple chores.

[marybarrett]

I’m so glad that I found this video. I lost my father three months ago. And I have been devastated. I thought I was going into early stages of dementia because of the silly things I’ve been doing. I’ve been going in the shower with my glasses on not thinking. I am just so heartbroken and sad that I lost my best friend but this video gives me hope knowing that I’m not alone and be kinder and gentle with myself. Thank you for this video

[christiedecker]

I didn't know officially this was a thing, but I've been telling my family (siblings) that I need time...my husband recently passed away and I KNOW I am not firing on all cylinders...so, this is affirmation that I am right in saying let me have the time I need to grieve and process...Thank you!

[pamcybulskis]

I make lists of this I’ve DONE, not things I have to do. It helps me to keep track of bills I’ve paid, phone calls I’ve made, etc. It also helps me to see that I AM doing things….even small things. I’m still in active grief for my husband of 42 years and it’s been two years since his unexpected death. Seems like one step forward, two steps back. 😢

[alejandrasarmiento]

Thank You so much for this, I'm SO sad and scared, My dad died suddenly almost a mont and a half ago and I've been steuggling because My memory went to hell... I left the stove on an entire night, I crashed into a tree, I lashed out at someone I love, I have to write everything down and Even then I can't do it all... I was beating myself up in such a way, until I started reading about this, it's incredibly validating

[lauriemtz]

This is exactly what I needed to hear. I lost my mom 4 months ago. I have grief brain. I backed into a truck and it loosened my bumper and I drive over curbs and medians without realizing till I’ve already done it and just have a difficult time driving in general. I feel like I’m in a nightmare and can’t wake up. Thanks for saying there’s nothing wrong with us because I got so embarrassed. I’m having to learn how to give myself grace. Thank you❤

[doliciastinson]

Yes I've been bumping my head stumbling, off balance

[sharons]

Excellent video. I thought I was losing my mind early on in my grief journey. I kept misplacing important papers, so I put a box on the dining room table and put anything I knew I was going to need in the box.

[candidaherron]

Hi 7 months since my husband passed away ! This video is so helpful for me today . I want to get back to my friends and they have been here for support and compassion . I just can't seem to get back yet ! I was my husbands Care give for 6 years straight and my brain is still processing the fact he's not here . I understand that he passed away from cancer yes . Nothing feels normal 🌷🙏

[rosaliethon]

ah, , i love that i found this... life has not been easy.. but after dealing with renal health..and some other stuff...i have crashed.. and my brain is such a fight...

[steveparker]

It's so very, very real!! I have what I call my "paper brains". It's a notebook on which I write down things to do each day. Without it, I wouldn't even get out of bed. (husband died 3 months ago)

[ameetbhasiin]

I'm going through immense emotional pain, I lost my mother on 26th May to Covid. I am not able to forget the trauma and those moments when she was struggling, every thought replays in my mind very clearly almost multiple times every day. I still am not able to forgive myself for the moments I was not good with my mother and we had arguments. I loved her very much she was a very caring person... I never thought I would loose her so early she was just 58.

I was the only person who was with her in last 20-25 days in hospital as me my father and mother all 3 were hospitalised in same hospital and wife was fighting with Covid at home. Not even a single relative stood by us in that difficult time. No one even called to check weather we are alive or not. Only my mother's sister helped and was worried about us.

I am not able to imagine my life without her. I still cry atleast 8-10 times daily. I have lost all happiness haven't even smiled for 4 months . I am just Breathing not Living. Help

[kirstinstrand]

This video is TRUTHFUL!
I experienced a month or more of just wanting to stay in bed all day! As I began to come out of grieving, I felt a few days of being not myself...disoriented. It felt weird. I think the worst has passed; I actually began sorting through loose papers on the floor, everywhere! Prior to realizing that I was grieving, I felt that my age was causing declines. It DOES get better, but it takes time, as stated in this video.

[SimkiKidwai]

Living for my kids, putting a brave front for them

[luannestevenson]

Yep. I have a flip chart in the dining room. I refer to every day or I'll forget everything! It's only been two

[laurieloudamy]

Thank you for this. I have been struggling. Went to my doctor a couple of weeks ago and had planned to talk to him about grief brain, but I forgot - remembered a couple of days later😮

[AZ_actual_voter]

Thank you for this video. I'm forwarding it to a dear friend; she means so much to me and I want her to know she is doing the best she can right now.

[valerieminster]

How long is the recovery period. I lost my only child 8 months, 7 days, but I still dont feel like myself. My chest and stomach hurts most days. I can hardly concentrate and my mind is clouded and feels heavy if that is possible. Prayer reading the bible and listening to sermons are the only things that bring relief.