How To Set Boundaries With A Lying Spouse

Is your spouse lying to you? If so, you have to do something about it. Watch this video to learn how to set boundaries with a lying spouse.

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Brannon Patrick

Key Moments in this Episode
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00:00 Intro & Summary
00:46 Do Something
01:19 They Do This
01:56 Identify
02:15 Eye Contact
03:10 Overcompensate
03:32 Distraction
04:03 Avoidance
04:41 Turning Tables
05:09 What You Can Do
06:14 Stick to One Topic
07:02 Talk About You
07:36 Walk Away
08:00 Check These Out!

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[suzannemaroney]

Lies are a major sign of disrespect!!🤬

[crazyleaf]

I watched another video where the guy was like, "a liar has a serious problem, don't call them out, don't mention it, just love them" I was like "what the

[maemae]

Just broke up with my boyfriend of 3.5 months last night. He was lying constantly. I told him last month when I caught him that I wouldn’t tolerate it. Caught him in a lie on Sunday and ended things Tuesday. He obviously had never dealt with someone who has boundaries. I’m not the one!

[TenereAMir]

Thank you for this video! My husband is a bald-faced liar and I've caught him so many times now-- you truly do start to think you might be going crazy because you can NEVER trust anything they say, and it takes such a mental toll. This was helpful and gives me a little hope to at least be able to protect myself better from the gaslighting.

[tiaramora]

Staying on the topic is what a liar does Not want to do

[tiaramora]

Connection: extra honest about one thing because lying about something over here

[jimjones]

My wife and i have been married 31 years. I believe we both love each other. I will not paint myself as perfect or having never lied to my wife because i have. I recently found out that my wife deceived me and spent all of our tax refund money...mostly on gambling. i am still in shock even though this kind of thing has been recurring. I am sad, depressed, angry, scared, worried and more. This has been a life long problem for her. I am struggling to hold my sanity.

[BlueMoonCircus]

That was really helpful and I noticed all those tactics in an argument today and called them out every time. I didn’t back down. I kept holding my ground every time. It feels so disrespectful when people attempt to manipulate or lie or distract or gaslight.

[jmwillilams]

What about when your spouse habitually lies and ALWAYS lies about lying and then is MORE than glad to not have the conversation?
My husband, for 29 years, has NEVER been willing to have a conversation regarding his manipulation and lying.
Saying. “We can have this conversation when you’re ready to be honest “ is not an option for me.

[officerfarva]

I was lied to so much I eventually figured out when they were looking me in the eye they were searching mine to see if I was buying their lie, not making eye contact because they were being sincere.
Also, the steering the convo away, spot on!!!

[tw]

So difficult to engage with someone who lies. Really helpful information. Thank you! Will take practice to utilize and hopefully get honest responses! Sometimes it’s just easier to walk away and say forget it, I just can’t do this with you again!

[johndoe]

My partner is always texting and on his phone every.chance he gets. He's always watching for an opportunity to use his phone while I'm not watching. He also accuses me of being toxic cause i question him

[cindybugtai]

I just keep thinking calm and positive but i can feel deep inside I'm broken and disappointed. . I didn't yell, i didn't do anything physical... Really 🥺😢... I feel like he makes me feel I'm the bad one. 💔 He got mad because i caught him?...
Really it feels like my heart was pinch, twist and broken hardly breathing every night everytime i go to sleep 😢😭💔

[tiaramora]

Im happy to have this conversation with you when its including honesty.

[tiaramora]

Feeling uncomfortable when I notice the lie? Accusations are mean? Vulnerability avoidance-- victim of accusation

[tiaramora]

Lies brake boundaries, flood. Gates of emotion

[tiaramora]

I need to talk about it because I feel there is not trust

[Dozta]

I wish I didn’t have to admit, it, but this video is right on point.

[shirleyblevins]

Sticky to the one concern and not going off on other conversations if great. But to walk away cause you are not getting that information or response/feed back is exactly what a liar wants. So they are happy you left the conversation. A couple with children still have to co parent together therefore the liar see's the other leave and the no longer are in that conflict and as long as they still are talking to raise their children and try to not scare the children many are ok with it continuing that way. At some point and everyone varies the one who is being hurt by those lies needs to act on their boundaries and perhaps talk about separation with the spouse till they can sit and have that conversation and if the one lying wont then its time to decide whether you want to be lied to rest of your life or walk away from it. There is far more harm being done than just words. Trusting ones spouse or not is huge and is the biggest building block of a good marriage.

[AndyDavisTechnicalDiving]

Some very helpful ideas, succinctly explained. Great video.