A Woman’s Reaction to “The Rational Male” by Rollo Tomassi (Part 1)

As it says in the title. I’d like to review the book one section at a time and discuss the ideas I find there. I’d love any feedback you guys can give me on this one.

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[RolloTomassi]

I'd be happy to discuss any questions or disagreements you might have.

[sherryeasterling]

I don't have a problem with the man being the leader, I have a problem with a man acting like a bully.

[VTLiberator]

Never left a comment before on YouTube. However I wanted to say that the your clips have been more helpful for me than the book. Which Ive read twice. You have a wonderful way about you. Humble yet direct, easy spoken and easy to look at, paired with your personal experience helps the chapters fit together. Plus I think most men really want an intelligent woman’s take on things of this nature. So Thank you for your time and energy in making these videos. They are most helpful.

[justhe_vids]

My initial anger was not about hypergamy, it was because women lie and claim they like 'nice guys'. Men (such as myself) who are naturally masculine and would otherwise have had success with women instead followed the socially correct feminist way; and met unexplained frustration, confusion, and failure. This book saved my life.

[brerpossum]

On "negotiating desire" you gave a perfect example of how women can use men's sexual desires to their advantage. "Ive met way too many men in my life who do not understand this..." You know why you met so many? Well let's look at your "worst offender" as you put it. "But every time I met up with him or hung out with him" he showered you with gifts (some of which you rejected, which means you kept some), and you admit you were aware he wanted sex, but you didn't. So if you didn't want the gifts why did you let him persist to the point where you can talk about "every time I met up with him"..? And your next "offender" was a guy you let buy you about $500 dollars worth of meals and then it shocked you when it turned out he wanted sex? Because somehow it's normal for people who aren't dating to treat their friends to $500 worth of meals? And hilariously you say you don't get that whole "covert" way women communicate when you were being covert in the game you were playing with these men! Oh sure, it's all their fault. The reason men become "offenders" is usually women playing on men's desires with mixed signals, accepting gifts and free meals and attention they wouldn't get if there wasn't sexual desire, while all the while knowing that desire is going to go frustrated. The man who expected sex shouldn't have waited unitl he was $500 dollars in the hole to make his interest explicit. He should have done it much sooner and written you off. I've had women try to do to me what you did to these guys, it's quuite common. And lets not pretend the men who get used in this way all just want sex. Most have a real interest in the women who do this and are hoping for a relationship too. Men need to be more aware of the casual cruelty of the games women play, and that women will put all the fault on them for not being smart enough to see through those games.

[shatteredsoldier]

My ex-wife was and most like still a stripper. Guys, don’t ever marry a stripper. Learn from my mistakes. After she cheated and left me I started reading the Rationale Male and 3% Man. I became red pilled and life got so much better. I did finally find someone and she read the book who made her son read it

[tbserrano]

Shes right, it's not "evil" just human nature.

[russbg]

I think the reason she doesn't feel competition anxiety is because she has a better understanding of how the male sex drive works than most women.

[benisapp]

A chameleon, charming men into thinking she 'different" and then stabs them from behind.

[vanessajohnson-storlie]

Woah! My husband and very loyal and I would not imagine him interested in anyone but me. . . But I sometimes have dreams of my husband interested in other woman and I think it’s competition anxiety!! LOL. I did realize that it typically happens when I am focused on myself and neglecting him. For example, the month of my brothers wedding I was too “busy” to be intimate. When I have those dreams now I see it as a reminder to get my priorities straight!

[najibzaoui]

the thing that makes me smirk is that all women i talk to say that they are not influenced by "competition anxiety" but they all operate on it. that is why preselection is such a powerful force. especially if they view you as manly or alpha, you just meet and the first thing they ask is if you are seeing other girls. i suspect it goes like this in their head "i find him attractive, therefore other women must find him attractive, therefore if i wish to keep his eyes on me i need to step up my game".

[MikeyDiL]

This comment section is heavy in simps and betas. Guys, piece of advice, if you find yourself getting mad at anything she says here, you aren't doing it right. She is giving her humble and honest reaction to the book as a woman. As she said, she mostly agrees with it, and recommends it, so what is the problem? I see a lot of guys on here getting upset that she accepted gifts or meals from dudes. Is that her fault she had some betas in her orbit? I would say no. Not saying it is the guys fault for repeating the behavior, because here is a chick actually listening to them and hanging with them and giving them attention, giving them an ego boost. The PROBLEM, is the old world thinking itself. Things have changed gentleman. Global market place and hypergamy are very real things. Stop thinking of things as you WANT them to be, or that you think they SHOULD be, and look at reality as it is. Damn! These guys HAD to know this chick didnt want them. Chicks are pretty forward when the want you, if i chick wants you, Desires you, believe me, she will let you know. Women figure this out within the first 10/15 minutes.

As for being friends with a chick, i dont understand why this is so difficult. I've had chick friends that were ride or die. Chicks i knew i wasnt getting with but were there if i needed a chicks opinion on a situation. Don't forget, chick friends can hook you the fuck up with thier friends, and be great wing men. Just sayin. If you cant be just cool hanging around a chick, again, you aren't doing it right. Getting upset or mad at a chick because she won't get with you is so fucking simp and beta, and will only make her even more turned off by you.

Maybe too many of these guys didn't have a sister growing up or just don't understand women, i dunno.

[todds.]

You're definitely proving what Rollo says about women and solipsism. Half the video is you talking about YOU, and relating the book to YOU and YOU'RE personal experience. Good video though. Much appreciated!

[JohnSmith-kbku]

I would never have guessed you were an exotic dancer. Interesting perspective on the book.

[SouljaChristWeAreAtWar]

The desire to keep your man is a form of competition anxiety, even if that was only just in the beginning.

[letterfake]

I always feel that unless both person have a strong sexual desires to each other, seeing each other as truly men and women, it is worthless.
As the book mentions, Nothing is more disgusting than an attraction that is an obligation.
This one philosophy prevented me from being a nice guy. If I can’t make her want and long to fuck me, it is worthless to pursue her. And being a nice guy is the last thing you want to be to develop attraction.

[AlexDeLarge]

7:52 when it starts, to cut out the guff.

[cwilliams]

This is my first time watching your videos and I respect your opinion because you are giving your experience from a book which is written by a man for men. Especially when you speak about on 23:51 when men assume that giving any woman gifts or taking them out to eat they deserve to take sex which is false.

[Uzodesign]

Congrats, I'm impressed after reading the comments you're getting more praise and intellectual conversation flowing with guys. Typically, I'd normally just see guys bashing women who dare talk about red pill content but not in your case (yeah, there were a few of them) but overall no. That means you are on the same page.

What happened with you doing an interview with Rollo and what's the story behind your username?

[danebeck]

I think you answered your own question regarding competition anxiety. At one point you mentioned that you observed competition anxiety in other women but doubted that you were motivated by it yourself. You later acknowledged that your husband's instinctive drive is to "spread the seeds" and that by keeping him satisfied you tame down that instinct. How is that not motivation by competition anxiety? Edit: I typed that out halfway through and you later acknowledged it. It may be that you have a defensive coping mechanism to numb yourself to it. Maybe that's why you don't "feel" the anxiety. (I'm just speculating at this point)