My Ex Dumped Me Twice (How Can I Fix This?)

My Ex Dumped Me Twice (How Can I Fix This?)

We have good news and bad news.

The good news: getting an ex back in this particular situation has one of the highest success rates.

The bad news: Most of the time if you get them back the relationship doesn't last very long.

If your ex dumped you twice one thing of the things to keep in mind is our research on On Again, Off Again relationships.

The Psychology Cycle Of An Ex Who Dumps You Twice

Stage #1: Setting The Breakup Bar (Romanticizing the past, falling victim to limerence)
Stage #2: Limerence (is a state of mind which results from a romantic attraction to another person and typically includes obsessive thoughts and fantasies and a desire to form or maintain a relationship with the object of love and have one's feelings reciprocated. Limerence can also be defined as an involuntary state of intense romantic desire.)
Stage #3: Realization That Expectations And Reality Don't Match

The question ultimately becomes, "How does one break the cycle?"

The answer is pretty simple,

Don't allow yourself to believe that your ex is the best you'll ever find. This allows you to have leverage and confidence.

[slyfly]

I took an ex back who left me for another guy, and guess what, she left again for a second guy. Even after we had a baby. Never take an ex back

[alkaiable]

She dumped you twice , never ever take her back !! You deserve better!!

[DJIM-wkvi]

I’ve been crushed twice by the same ex, your a genius. I should of watched you

[jasengriffin]

Excellent advice. I have been passive but not anymore.

[Liz-dragon-street.]

I gor dumbed.... twice in 3 months afther a 2 and a half year relationship.
I am in so much pain ..
Cant eat
Cant sleep
Cant breath

Pfff i wanna let him go and i am working on me so hard..
Never ever gonna take him back!

[monibug]

I'm not interested in fixing things with any ex, but had to watch because I've experienced this. The first time he talked me out of dumping him after I told him he just wasn't that in to me...only to brake up with me days later. We dated years later, then he dumped me a 2nd time for another ex of his. After being devastated for a few years I realized that I'm still all that and happier to be single than desperately tolerate anything less than amazing.

[babycakes]

My boyfriend broke up with me 2 days ago and I think he’s blocked me? He still has our pictures on his FB. We have been together for 6 years and he said he doesn’t want to be with me because I stress him out. He was furloughed from his job and is in his last year of college and he suffers from seasonal depression. What should I do? I don’t want to lose him! He has a lot of irrational thoughts this time of the year and I don’t know what to do 😔

[melany.muraour]

Exactly how to keep them after I get them back is making me fear getting them back again!

[harithasyraaf]

This is the first breakup that she jumped into a rebound and all hopes seems lost for me :(

[kagomodise]

Got dumped a second time after a cumulative 8 years. Go no contact and leave your ex, gang.

[luwiz]

second break up. Broke up this jan because she felt i wasn't trying enough. 3 months NC. I lost hope idk what to do i want her...

[yassinesayeh]

I broke up with my girlfriend twice first i was so dumb but the second one damn i felt pain so much pain but when she accepted me second time i promised her that im not gonna leave her anymore and im gonna love her and show her that this is worth, after 6 months and that's 2 weeks ago she broke uo with me

[angelicafoster]

my Ex dumped me 4 times, everytime she would reach out after around a month saying that she regrets it and apologize, then we get back together and feel intimate for a day, then she blocks me the following day. it's a cycle now.

[nathanescala]

Im here my ex girlfriend rejected me twice 😢 because our past relationship become toxic . I still want her back

[zombiemolly]

Don’t go back for a 3rd helping of dump

[hiitssree]

Going on 5 months again. He reached out once after 5 months before that. I think this time he’s really not gonna try anymore

[anareginacoronado]

Took me a year to get over my ex. Had the worst depression ever. Finally met someone on bumble, got over him and guess what, my ex showed up again, so I got rid of the bumble guy only for my ex to get rid of me in a month :(, then I blocked my ex, and got together with the bumble guy again (he was a foreigner so it wasn't that serious for him either) and when the bumble guy went back to his country, my ex contacted me again and now he's being distant. This shit is draining as fuck, however now I'm not desperate, he's got his issues and I don't want him shitting on me each time he feels alone.

[fortificationenjoyer]

4th time for me, She Is the one coming back begging but also the one leaving acting like a girl boss lol

[biankafucskodancefitness]

We know eachother 3 years. Commited once. He treats me like a queen all the time together ... says we have an amazing surface relationship but underneath is "too much" Work. Now he has dumped me again and blocked me everywhere. Makes no sense to say we are amazing together but the work is too nuch. I wanted commitment but he said no and blocked me. He loves spending time with me.... and wants me but wants open. Im open to that now i Realise i wasnt in the now. But ive messed it up. Help! :)

[babshidooo]

we broke up because of time and got back together then after a few months find ourselves with the same issue and he broke up with me again. what to do does that mean we arent really meant to be? but he is not changing his soc med pass