How to prevent old, negative friends from re-entering your life

A viewer wants to know how she can keep old toxic friendships from resurfacing. She has lost a lot of weight and had low self esteem. That is why she allowed herself to have these negative people in her life. Now, she doesn't want them reappearing. I would have no contact with them at all. Don't return calls or texts. And if you see them out, leave the situation as soon as you can.

[catherinewylie]

I kept letting a friend back around and something else always came up where I felt the integrity was compromised. We finally had a huge blowup recently and maybe that is what it needed to get rid of it. I live in a very small town but thankfully I am moving.

[ElfisPerezLee]

How do you beat the loneliness when you realize your entire network and "support system" is exclusively made of emotional vampires? How do you find a proper group of friends when all you've ever known is what you don't want?

[CastleHassall]

to beat the loneliness when i was trying to avoid people who were bad for me i found that just trying to think of and do even small things that i liked that take my attention.. getting out in nature, and watching my favourite comedies helps a lot, and playing my songs on my guitar, and reminding myself of why I'm avoiding people.. doing those things that you like to do, things that take your focus, that take your mind onto good things you like.. that helps

and it's better to be alone than to spend time with people who use us or drag us down into bad stuff or hurting us.. Remind yourself of that any time you think of going to see them or reaching out to any bad for how you feel people

there's still people i struggle with staying away from.. the ones who are nice but then randomly push me down on purpose.. they keep us hooked by being supportive to us when we are about to walk away.. but it's if they are deliberately cruel to me i really try to stay away from them even if they are nice 90% of the time if they say stuff that undermines my whole happiness i stay away if i can, but it's not easy

maybe reach out to people who are supportive to you?

i remember too once someone said "if you keep any bad people in your life then that will stop any good hearted people from wanting to be with you because they are trying to avoid that bad person you hang out with" so that's a good incentive to be "harsh" with our boundaries if we need to

i know it was a long time since you asked the question but i hope life is good for youto beat the loneliness when i was trying to avoid people who were bad for me i found that just trying to think of and do even small things that i liked that take my attention.. getting out in nature, and watching my favourite comedies helps a lot, and playing my songs on my guitar, and reminding myself of why I'm avoiding people.. doing those things that you like to do, things that take your focus, that take your mind onto good things you like.. that helps

and it's better to be alone than to spend time with people who use us or drag us down into bad stuff or hurting us.. Remind yourself of that any time you think of going to see them or reaching out to any bad for how you feel people

there's still people i struggle with staying away from.. the ones who are nice but then randomly push me down on purpose.. they keep us hooked by being supportive to us when we are about to walk away.. but it's if they are deliberately cruel to me i really try to stay away from them even if they are nice 90% of the time if they say stuff that undermines my whole happiness i stay away if i can, but it's not easy

maybe reach out to people who are supportive to you?

i remember too once someone said "if you keep any bad people in your life then that will stop any good hearted people from wanting to be with you because they are trying to avoid that bad person you hang out with" so that's a good incentive to be "harsh" with our boundaries if we need to

i hope life will be good for you now!

[CityoftheSilent]

Yes!!! Just keep moving forward! Don't look back! =)

[wheres_bears]

Ignore and carry on as you were, easy.

[MaryLopez-bvks]

My friend really hurt me emotionally. I am considering blocking his phone number.

[shadowofanight]

Yep, that's one of the reasons I don't like FB and don't have an account. :)

[mvccarlos]

i agree with you 100%. this happened before but my gut feel was saying not to trust them. true enough i was right. thank you!

[Lucida]

You have just spoken my thoughts out loud.

[Paseosinperro]

Thats why I had ti close my facebook account

[Reshme]

i pretty much do according to this video in the respect. when it comes to meeting i never even so much as breathe in their direction. not even small talk

you are damn right, people never change!

[BeautifulDidem]

LOVE THIS VIDEO!!! I don't believe people change either.

[everlastingcurves]

IMHO, you say "Oh, I'm sorry I don't deal with people like you anymore" and walk off. I know people mean it in jest, but it doesn't sit well with me that someone who called themselves my friend referring to me as "bitch". Someone I used to be friends with years ago(teen yrs)that I needed to get the hell away from tried to contact me personally and through my husband. She sent msgs asking "where the hell I was" and getting real nasty. It made me remember why I don't deal with her.Follow your gut.

[trinagibson]

Remember that disrespect. Long monologues about themselves and gossiping,

[SuperKarineka]

Hey Marie, thank you for this great video. Will you share some advice with me please? I had a friend in the past, we had huge amounts of conflict. She spoke very rudely to me, and said very offensive things. When I brought it up, she would become defensive. I left, 2 years later we got in contact and met up. I suspected nothing has changed because she said, "I don't like to sugarcoat anything when I speak." She then said she wanted to remain friends because I am encouraging and speak very positive. She says she knows she needs to work on speaking to people respectfully, but I don't feel like she genuinely cares. It's a pattern, when I try to break away she fights immensely for me to remain friends. I don't know what to do. I feel really uneasy over this.

[Cdel]

What if that negative person happens to be your own mom? I have issues with my mom. Every undertaking and plan I make, she just goes pessimistic about it but doesn't really offer good explanations to back up her opinion.Another issue I have is that she just keeps tagging along me everytime I go out when I don't really want her to be with me.

[kristiyandimitrov]

What if that friend I am trying to avoid literally sits on the same desk in school as me and we go to school and the gym together... we live close to each other and It's simply impossible for me to avoid him :/

[Africanstyle]

What do you do if your group of friends "Like" You, but you're not their favorite in the group?- I would really appreciate your advice on this Marie.

[gretchen]

What if they're family?
How do you escape family?
Avoid my siblings 🙄