5 Things You Should Never Say To Teens | And Three Things You Should

Teens are at a point in their lives when they try and figure out who they are. That's creating pressure within them. So in this video, I'll show you 5 things you should never say to teens and three things you should.

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00:00 Intro & Summary
00:33 What You Really Mean
01:19 This Is Not A Question
02:23 What Sets Up Rebellion
03:11 What Your Teens Hear
05:02 Have You Said This?
07:13 What To Say Instead
07:58 How To Get Teens To Ask
09:13 How Not To Control Teens
10:49 5 Recipes That'll Be A Hit

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Dr. Paul Jenkins

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[julianaaguilo]

I wish I had a parent that watched this when I was a teenager. I will do it right with my kids. Thank you! ❤️

[mcnallyaar]

I love to use these tips to self-parent myself as I get over my delay in maturing.

[jdxx]

My 37 year old drug addict son has done terrible things to our family. Constant manipulation and abuse along with stealing from us, he even stole from his own son, who we are raising. So many tears and heartache over the years. Cannot say ‘I love you - no matter what and even if’. Too much damage done.

[aa-fwpw]

1. What's wrong with you?
2. Why can't you...?
3. I told you...
4. You have to/need to....
5. I hate you (can be communicated with body language or choice of language)

Teens love to be told...
1. I love you no matter what/even if
2. If you have any questions, ask
3. Good luck

[jackiehuang]

“I love you no matter what even if ….” In tears when hearing this. How powerful it would be to kids. Don’t they scared all the time when parents show disapproval on them? Or mad, or raise voice to them? Would we do this to new born baby? We wouldn’t. So why we yell, criticize, show faces to little kids? Or even forcefully restrict their freedom such as time out? Just because we are stronger bigger than them?

[angelafalcon]

My kid isn't yet a teen and this really applies everywhere! Yes to this

[daniellejohnson]

I love the three messages at the end. I heard this at exactly the right time!

[CupcakeMcGregor]

Definitely guilty of these and I hate it. My situation is fairly unique, I have a 12 year old girl and an 11 year old boy who is nonverbal autistic. I'm in over my head some days but I try so very hard to meet the needs of both of them. I show them copious amounts of love and sometimes struggle with discipline cos I never want to make them sad but I'm guilty of getting frustrated and saying things like these.

[chrisoulalakkas]

Don't let one cloud obliterate the whole sky. - Anaïs Nin

[jacobgabriel]

Need your advice. Here the problem.
Moved son and daughter from public school to private christian. I believe that public schools is not the same as used and not happy with what is going on in Schools. My son hates it, said I ruin his life and he is embarrassed and don’t tell people..just close friends. Not giving 100% and being very disrespectful and mean to us. I ‘be patient but my patient is running out. Next outburst, phone, Xbox, gym membership going away. Hello flip phone and not allowing any more entitlement. I think he needs to respect our decision, we love him and we believe that private Christian school would be better.
Daughter loves it, but also making poor choices…disrespectful and sense of entitlement. Not following with chores and spending way too much time on social media. Not wanting to get back at soccer…phone glue to her hand. …same…hello flip phone.
My dad was very strict, so I wanted to be not that harsh but I see why now …I rather be tough now that regret it later. Son 14 and daughter 12.

[marykesymington]

Guilty of the 5 ... Growing into the 3 ...

[earlkeniston]

They need to hear the word no because when they get into the real world the word no happens and if they're not ready for it they will react like children do because they are children You need to say no to your children

[carina]

Guilty as charged for all that… oh well 😅

[chilldudie]

Nope. If I ask someone 'whats wrong with you?' I am asking to know what their diagnosis is. NPD? BPD?

It's not a statement. It's a question.

Stop projecting my dude

You just did it again.

Why do you keep assuming for other people? Some of us never use question statements 😆

What do you mean what answer would possibly satisfy? Here's one:

"I'm having a bad day."

Here's another:

"I have a bad headache, please excuse my outburst."

Stop passively aggressively asking questions if they're really statements.

Always say what ya mean and mean what ya say!

Calm down. You're yelling.

You ok??