Does Punishment Work? | Child Psychology

Punishment actually does work to shape different behaviors in children. What you want to use punishment for is to guide your child towards a more positive, acceptable means of behavior. I like to think of punishment and discipline and consequences as something that goes hand-in-hand. Parents often ask me, "What type of punishment should I use for this specific situation?" I always remind parents that punishment needs to be something that's realistic. And it needs to be a situation or a consequence that really fits the negative behavior. For instance, if a child breaks something in the home, a punishment or consequence may be to take time away from your child's computer time and fix the particular thing that they broke, so that there's actually a connection between the negative behavior and something positive.

Punishment should never be punitive. It should be something that's used as a teaching situation. I often want to remind parents too that punishment, discipline and consequences aren't the only ways to shape behavior. But before you even get to a consequence, you may want to try praise and encouragement when your child is doing something positive.

[khanfatima]

Children need discipline, limits and guidance. They need to feel safe and secure while learning to get along with others and learning to live in society. Discipline leads to children learning self-discipline.

[GroovySquiddo]

first 18 seconds in, getting disciplined made me solve problems violently and getting expelled then disciplined again.

[purplegill]

I was hurt by my parents, now im absolutely failing school and im worried about college, beilive me when I say it doesnt work honestly

[EnigmaMind]

I agree with you. People shouldn't be trusted with being violent with their children. People easily lose their temper.

[Jensettiman]

One thing to remember: Spanking is NEVER the option. I was spanked by my grandmother several years ago, and from that day on, I've disliked her.

[JoKoivu]

i am a kid and i agree with her. It shows why you shouldnt break stuff and doesnt force feed it down their throats

[peridot]

It’s not effective at all I’m having ptsd about it :(

[harihiku_sruka]

As an asian, yes physical punishment does work for us not to misbehave! But in return we can hate our parents for being that way and we fear them whenever they got mad at us then starts threatened us if we don't study hard to get good grades, in fact i don't want this parenting exist in the future.. Yelling at your kid? I don't think its better parenting, parents must know what their kids feel.

There's still a parents that thought hitting their kids means they loved them, but its actually makes your kids will remember that if they hit a person its means affection.. They will grown up as abusive person, hit their partner or even their kids! That's what a psychiatrist told me.

What i actually wanted is, in the future i don't want any kids suffering by this parenting method. Stop abusing your kids or yelling to discipline them, it works to make them fear you and they might avoiding you in the future.

[kittenmastermind]

Say punishment works dose not give any proof it dose.

[mraaronludwig]

Grounding, spanking or time outs are good. Anything too extreme or too little is bad.

[sierraarmstrong]

I keep trying to comment and it just keeps reloading and making my comment disappear but I'm trying to understand where your coming from with this, some of the words used aren't correct, putting false information on the internet for parents who will try to do incorporate some of these things and be left with disappointment when the behaviors get worse or the child finally shuts down from a constant flood in cortisol. Sad there's so much misinformation on these platforms

[edsr]

I had a messy life in my 20s, with lots of bad decisions. I blame the exceeding lenient way I was raised, I wish my parents had punished me more

[jenniferdaly]

what you were describing was discipline. Punishment is to instill fear, cause harm, get back at the child for what they did to you, or it is my way or no way. I think you REALLY need to change your video. That gives

[gregorynunes]

Level C consequence. 3 days no video games, 1 hour tv per day. Only can come out the room to use washroom and eat breakfast lunch dinner snack before bedtime

[abrahampowell]

Son: my grades all have A+ exsept pe but its a b+
Mom: b+ your grounded for three weeks

[Ara-woho]

Punishment is just forcing someone into compliance. You are using fear to control the behavior of someone. Why do this when you can just help them and support them to become better people. Hurting them is not helping them.

[endigosun]

FINALLY!!! Someone telling the truth! 🙌🏽

[melon]

I believe it depends on the person for this process, but I think the majority of the time, this process doesn't work

[domomitsune]

I would say that punishing me as a child, actually it did the opposite. It made me more rebellious, and I started to Crave punishment for my parents. Spanking, then the belt, and then taking my stuff away, thinking psychological punishment might work.

But that didn't do anything except reinforce my behaviors. By the way, my parents were Control Freaks.

[LawlaLeyshonArchives]

I was the same. I think after a while, its the knowing that your going to get a smack if you do something bad stops you from doing the bad thing.
There is definitely a difference between punishing a child, and beating a child.