Why Your Girlfriend Isn't Being Affectionate

Do you feel like your girlfriend is getting cold? On this episode of Relationship 911, Relationship Coaches Jan and Monika attempt to answer why your girlfriend isn't affectionate than they used to be. They may either feel like they aren't being heard or just one more attention from you and playing hard to get. Jan and Monika then offer clear communication and open-ended questions as a wonderful opportunity to create something that works for both of you.

What could be missing in your relationship that's making your partner less affectionate? Jump in the comment sections so we can give more perspective.

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Relationship Experts Jan Zands and Monika Zands coach people through ups and downs of their relationships to get through the rough stuff so they can get back to loving, having fun, and building their dream life together.

They share free resources about Relationship Management, Relationship Training, and just making relationships work through Relationship 911, Shift Your Perspective, and Mindset Academy.

As Executive Business Coaches and having masters in Spiritual Psychology, Jan and Monika have helped thousands of couples from all over the world find love in their relationship again.

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[ozzoakenshield]

My girlfriend says she loves me. But never shows it. I’ve only gotten three kisses in all of 2022, and she was drinking all three of those times. No hugging, no hand holding unless we’re in the presence of her family or friends. I have been with her for four years. I feel more like a roommate than a boyfriend. I feel unwanted and unloved. I’m incredibly depressed.

[Arminius]

Truth is you aren't going to fulfill every need and its not your job to read people's minds. Sometimes what we want isn't always rational or logical anyways.

[THECROW]

I hear alot of people talk about this and it seems to mostly be men. I get it because I'm very affectionate I love to cuddle kiss all the above. But alot of women aren't just that affectionate. All I can say is don't compromise for no one that happy wife happy life shit is bullshit no one partner should compromise to keep the other partner happy if your not on my level when it comes to that we can just part ways period there are plenty affectionate women out there the one I'm with now amazing she is just like me I've never been more happy and I'm not compromising shit and never is she case closed

[LadieBjj]

I am very affectionate. But if I don’t get it in return, I become cold. Later, they finally realize that I stopped, they ask for me to be more affectionate but when I am, I don’t get it in return.
So eventually I feel like a roommate and I no longer want to sleep with that person either. If I am not emotionally connected, I despise the idea of that person touching me.

[jorgeanaya]

So in other words, in the beginning of the relationship there's a lot of f#$king, and eventually through time it's normal that we slow down, but with time and Seriousness what really matters is how one is to one BELIEVE THEY WOULD BE CALLED HORMONES😂 Im high as phuq right now

[loki]

I've been with my girlfriend going on 3 or so months now, we've had sexual intimacy twice, and she did tell me at the start of the relationship that she doesnt like hugging and I respect that, but now it seems that any kind of physical affection is uncomfortable with her and she doesn't really do it and turns me down half the time, sexual intimacy has ceased as she's too tired or too hot ect there's always an answer, she takes the depo pregnancy shot idk if it has anything to do with it but I'm always showing effecting and getting turned away. I've gotten to the point where I feel isolated and really nervous about showing any kind of affection now. I don't know whether she sees me as a friend or her boyfriend half the time. Something as simple as her not putting a kiss on the end of a text when she normally does makes me feel really sad as that's the only kind of affection I used to get. She still makes plans for our future but I just don't know. As you can tell this has really got to me so if the Internet could be delicate 😂 and help that would be great lol. P.s. I haven't told her any of this not yet anyway I want to get it all straight in my head before I mention it

[dr.feldthaus]

I don't know man, I've been with my girlfriend for 3 months today, and shit is just not feeling okay. Every time I want/tries to kiss her, she pushes me away, or slaps me "for fun", but I don't think it's funny. I want to feel her give me some love, or at least just her touch. I've already tried to talk with her about it, but she keeps saying, "I'm just not really into that stuff (cuddling, kissing or other kind of intimacy)", but every time she says that, I keep thinking "But I am...". I don't think I ask of mutch... I just want to feel the kind of love i give, back to me... god I feel pathetic

[corvettebaby]

Because she's giving it to someone else..Sorry

[celinecedd]

My gf only say idk 2 my questions I tried from yall so...

[ehbbivo]

What if my girlfriend has not even kissed me after dating for 12 months. She tells me she loves me….?