The Secret to Mastering Life's Biggest Transitions | Bruce Feiler | TED

How do you navigate life's growing number of transitions with meaning, purpose and skill? Writer Bruce Feiler offers a powerful way to handle uncertain, painful and confusing times -- or "lifequakes", as he calls them. Learn how to equip yourself with the essential tools and mindset to ride out (and rewrite) the toughest chapters of your life story, and turn unease and upheaval into growth and renewal.

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[suhwelee]

After watching this video three times, I was able to summarize the following secrets to master our life transition.
1. Linear life is dead
2. Life is a deck of disruptions and transitions.
3. Develop skills to cope with our emotions
4. Seek wisdom from others
5. Rewrite our story

This is an excellent example of the power of storytelling, even to ourselves.

[LoremIpsumPeach]

Wow this is a profound ted talk. I am 30 and going through a "life transition". Thank you for normalizing this. It can be a scary time of uncertainty and self doubt, but slowly, you will get through it and come out on the other side. The only way is through. Thank you!

[lin]

Wow this video is so in sync with me. My family has been going through a lot. Two family members discovered they had cancer. We have had go fo through step by step. Thank god there is treatment. There is still hope.

[nila.conzen]

#4 is so important. Our healing, transitions, and transformations are our own - yet they are never meant to be done alone. 🦋

[eirikalbrektsen]

Really comforting talk, immediately felt an ease of pressure. Expecting life to be linear makes it difficult to deal with new changes, even when they are exciting and positive.

[Itiswhatitisitiswhatitiswhatit]

I have watched so many talks and listen to so many people give advice and tell stories, but I have never been hit as hard as this one right now. The family business that I married into is struggling, and the fights that have come with it are tearing the family apart. No one expected this, no one had planned for this, and no one can handle this. We literally had another fight last night, and I just can't take it anymore as I am bipolar and my environment triggers me regularly.

This has given me a lot to think about and discuss. I greatly appreciate your work. Thank you.

[refundform]

This is incredibly helpful not only for people who are about to take on changes and challenges, but for all of us simply living our lives everyday. Many thanks.

[Thethelement]

For me, this was so good to hear right now. With the world, my country and my health at odds, it’s encouraging. Thank you.

[alaccou]

The timing on this was brilliant, my recession-induced stressed future self is thanking you in 2023

[ThePsycheGym]

Life transitions are unavailable. Thankfully, these 5 Tips should help grind through them.

Great speech Bruce Feiler 👏

[Success.Appeal]

Thanks, Bruce! This is exactly what I needed to hear today:) Grateful for your perspective and your models. Professionally I offer Midlife Makeovers after divorce, etc. Will gratefully incorporate some of what you've generously shared here. Plus, I am currently in the messy middle of several life transitions: starting over financially after a huge loss in my 60's during the pandemic, relocating to a new state and recreating my tribe, saying goodbye and expressing my gratitude to my amazing 96.5 year old dad as he is close to passing...Again, your perspective helps me to reframe the overwhelm!

[mizukishigemi]

Every single person has a different, unhappy and difficult time. I have no idea why I survived cancer while my student passed away almost at the same time.

[gujju_yeoja]

This TedTalk was so amazing... Really needed to hear this today !!! Thank you so much 🙏🙌

[fireman]

This is really good to hear right now!

[graviely]

Probably one of the best Ted Talks I've heard so far. I appreciate the words, encouragement, and ability to continue through our nightmares in order to reach our dreams.

[jarrodsio]

Just finished reading Bruce’s memoir on his time at Cambridge, where he earned an MPhil in the 1990s. It’s called ‘Looking for class’. Recommended reading. So happy to see this Yale and Cambridge boy, all grown up and giving Ted Talks.

[ventanillabonvincentm.]

I needed this as a college student with adulting crisis😫

[Monkiger]

The most helpful contribution from this work is the number of individual stories contributing to common motifs. The findings provide good support to Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, where one may find many evidence-supported, effective practices to support the pivots at life transitions Bruce is talking about here.

[thanhtamnguyen]

I appreciate his tips for overcoming difficult crisis
We all need heroes in our stories...

[NathalieLazo]

Remarkable person reading this.. It’s going to get better; all it is a season of opportunity to grow and be better than before. Challenging times are meant to strengthen us, not to break us. Success doesn’t define to what happened to us; it is how we choose to deal with our circumstances. The more you grow and develop as an incredible person as you are, the more things will change for the better. Forgive more (for you), be grateful for even the smallest things (we have it way better than someone else), choose love over ego, choose humility over ego (humility is strength), and finally, invest into new skills so that your future self will thank you. Our lives will change forever the more we grow. Be thankful for the challenges for we know something greater is coming. Love you always - Nathalie ✨❤️