Why Paul lied about his blindness #shorts

[beverlydust]

It's unfortunate that even in today's society we have to lie about our disability in order to get a job interview, I lied to get the job interview and then I told the truth the person who interviewed me admitted that they would not have called me to interview if I had put my disability on the application. I hope that things change, people complain about disabled people not working but we are not given a chance to prove that we can do the job.

[janamartin]

So true. I’m legally blind from a stroke I had at 26. I lost my right field of vision in both eyes. I try to cover up my blindness. I don’t use my cane nearly as much as I should just because I worry about how people will view me. So instead I don’t go places alone and bump into things all the time. People probably think I’m rude for cutting in front of them when I’m walking around or that I ignore them when they come up to talk to me. If I would just use my cane then people would have a visual clue that I can’t see them and I wouldn’t have nearly as many bruises but even after 21 years I find it very difficult.

[Amilynne]

I'm deafblind ( Retinitus Pigmentosa with deafness rare form ) and I'm a fully certified cosmetologist. I would have to lie if I want to keep my job and be insured to work. Because I speak so well. People find it hard to believe i'm deaf. I see enough that you couldn't tell I'm blind. It devestates me every day that i can't work in a salon safely and do what I love. One time my ex best friend told my client when I was walking over with my shears .. that I am legally blind. Just as I started brushing her hair she pulled it back and said no .. she didn't want me cutting her hair. I had to come clean t hat yes .. I have usher's syndrome/retinitus pigmentosa. I still have good central vision. But ever since t hat day. The salon owner ( who is not a stylist but aconstruction business owner ) His sister ran the shop and she wanted to keep me. Cause she went to school with me. But he said no I had to go. I wouldn't be making money and it would be a huge liability if insurance found out the rates would go higher.

Now .. I havent been able to find a job. All I can do is open my own business and make press on nails and do nail art. Least it's something.

[SkyeJmusic]

Who else thinks Matthew and Paul are amazing !❤️❤️❤️❤️ also Mr Maple we can’t forget about him! ❤❤❤❤

[daunaltromondo]

Discrimination Is the worst thing, I'm not disabled but had an experience of this many years ago. I had an interview for a beautiful work in an important firm and at the end the interviewer told me: you'd be perfect for this Place, but you see, you're a young married woman without children, if you're hired and then you begin a pregnancy, you become a problem as we must keep your place for a whole year without you working...
I was really disgusted by this and to this day (more than 30 years After) can't forget that episode.
You did well lying Paul IMHO!

[BrainError]

I understand. All my life I lied about being healthy in order to work, but it always ended up in me being burned out. Now I can't work at all because of the toll of keeping up with "normal" work conditions and demands that I'm still recovering 3 years later.

Society needs to change.

[badobsession]

Yes this is so relatable! I am now blind however I have chronic pain for more than 7 years now (with some other symptoms as well) and I often don't tell people about it, because I don't want to be looked at differently, or I tell people about it but only a small part of it, but not how much it actually impacts my daily life. Love you guys!❤️

[sscarletz]

i just wanted to say that i am so glad Paul has been honest and open about the discussion of the fears disabled people face that us abled people do not know about. thank you for showing the perspective from your point of view! ❤

[Leonaza]

Paul, you’re an inspiration to even those who are not blind like me. Sometimes we take so much for granted. I thank you for sharing your experience through your ups and downs day by day. I feel blessed beyond measure for coming across this YouTube channel! Love you three Paul, Matthew and Maple! ❤❤

[CoffeePot]

It makes sense, and I think it's probably quite a normal reaction.

When you feel sick, or when you're depressed, or when anything is going on in your life. You tend to say things like, "It's not that bad" "there are worse kids in x community".

We tend to, naturally, dismiss our own experiences out of fear of taking a resource that might needed elsewhere.

Where in fact, that's silly. It's not a contest, and anyones battle is valid. If you need support, you need support. Regardless to what the person next to you needs.

I think you're both very lovely, very wholesome and supportive. I like the kindness you have for one another.

[gwenchapman]

Yup! I’ve stopped telling people the name of my disability because it’s not generally viewed as a serious disability but I need people to believe me when it severely affects me

[Tiffany_C_]

Such an important topic, I’m a type 1 diabetic and some people automatically get uncomfortable when I share my diagnosis. So I typically don’t mention it unless asked (because someone sees my pump or sees me injecting a bolus). I love how you share these topics about navigating life with a disability! Sending love and light 💜

[lolababs]

It's so sad that this is even necessary but is COMPLETELY UNDERSTANDABLE. Society should support and uplift vulnerable members of society, not diminish them. Love you guys and your content.

[kanavanloon]

imagine having that with your own family, being treated differently cuz you're not like them which sadly I have
I'm so happy to see that there are people like Matthew who don't do that, there should be more people like that

[oniastarsky]

Absolutely. I have a body disorder; and being treated differently can get maddening. We are NOT STUPID. We are NOT scared of everything. We don't need you to.jold our hands! We are HEALING. BACK OFF...

[roxyabrooks]

Ableism is truly a big problem in todays society, and the stigma from having any disability is extremely harsh. I have about eight life altering (sometimes life threatening) conditions, and I can't tell you how many times people have downed me for it.
Paul is an amazing inspiration and everyone can learn a lot from him and Matthew. Just because you're different, doesn't mean you're not viable. We are all important, lovable, talented in so many ways and deserve a respectable place in American society. ✨
Much love to you both AND to Mr Maple 🍁

[KyotiGoo]

Yeah as someone with PTSD I understand. A lot of stigma with it. There’s a lot of awesome people with PTSD. 🖤

[shadeowsline]

As someone with ASD, who is considered as an "invisible handicap", I do confirm the times I played "hide and seek" with my "disability" (putting quotes because society sees it as such, when it's actually willing to see it, while I'm only considering myself "functioning differently").
In France, we aren't that much advanced about accompanying and helping disabilities till very recently, and people's knowledge is very limited. The perfect example is when Paul explained that the depiction of blind people in the TV is only a small portion of the spectrum of blind people.
It's the same with ASD.
Because I'm someone who can speak normally, express emotions and interact with people unlike what is it known and assumed by society, the mere idea of presenting myself with an ASD would scare the interviewers off. So I had to camouflage it.
Sadly, i couldn't hide who i was on the long run, such as handling poorly the stress or my emotions. You could say I'm the absolute paradoxical opposite of what people would first think of ASD people (emotionless and pretty shut off while I'm an over going emotional bomb).

The issue of being open or not about disability is depending on the context and the people you're with.
If you're in a company who seems pretty tight and closed off and not really open to the conversation, it's pretty risky on the long run to get in there because masking can only last long and wearing out your mental health.
But if it's a place where they're more open minded, don't be afraid of telling things right away. That could actually be taken as a sign of honesty, and even more as trust if they are willing to make accomodations for you. Places like these are rare but they do exist.
I wish you all the best ❤

[TheEssentialReason]

I love watching you guys video. I can understand Paul about lying about a disability. Its part of my experience because I couldn't accept the fact that I have moderately severe hearing loss. Keep up the good work guys!

[wambuirk]

I'll never forget that day in uni and we had end of semester exams and next to me was this blind person attempting a written exam ....