Dating is not for mating, it is for collecting data - he talking 🗣️, and I'm listen👂🏽
tdm
Some good questions to slip into conversations during early dates:
1. What are your goals? What's your end game with us (partnership/ marriage)?
2. Do you have any kids - and what are their age? How involved are you with them? Do you have any major responsibilities?
3. Tell him what you're looking for/ask how he feels about it.
4. How long ago was his last relationship? Are you ready to start a new one? (To less likely be his rebound woman).
5. What are your morals, beliefs, interests?
6. How well are you with communication? (Listening and expressing) Are you easily frustrated or angry?
7. What do you think a good man is?
8. What's something you're working on to be the best version of yourself? (such as working on your impatience, procrastination, fitness level, building on finances, anger management etc).
9. What are you afraid to lose? (a way to see what's on his mind daily, are they material things, or people?)
10. What can't you live without? (very telling of his character).
kymchu
You must check everything and everybody at the door. When a man is interested in me, I go to the Lord about him first before I go on a date with him, I ask the Lord who is this before me, show me they intentions and spirit.
millicentstollenwerck
The best thing you can do on a date is observe and let the other person be who they truly are. If you make the mistake of letting them know beforehand all your likes and dislikes, you may end up in a few months puzzled by this person's real character, wondering why did they change, how can they be so different now from the beginning. The answer is they didn't change, they just presented you with their best representative based on the treasure map you drew for them, they knew exactly what to do and not do to get you, then once they had you, they reverted to their real persona. Don't play yourself like this, the whole point is to meet someone who genuinely deep down is the one you are dreaming of, NOT to find a good actor !
CarmenLifeCoach
Its so funny I went on a date with this guy and it was at first a fun situation but then he just spilled all his guts and I realized we were not a match. I politely texted him after that we wouldn't work. He said " sorry for scaring you off". I just said "good luck to you". I feel very empowered to leave situations so thank you for these videos they actually help me quite a bit.
Musicfreaklolduh
Once again..Uncle Tony Is absolutely correct. But. Since watching these gems 💎, I'm more on point.. I went on a first date.. I met him at the restaurant. I didn't allow him to pick me up or know where I live . When I got to the restaurant, he was irritated. I asked what was wrong. This man said "I find it funny you didn't allow me to pick you up. What you have something to hide ? I use to be a cop, you know how easy it is for me to find out where you live " He also said " if you're dating other guys, you need to cut them off and focus on just me "
Ya'll when that date was over, I was so done with him. His aura was so off. Thank goodness I never told him my last name etc . Uncle Tony be on POINT .
loveloyalty-MHA
No sir, the WORST is when you're single after 17 years and don't even know to ask these questions....Please Lord show me the way.
kayladaniel
"I gotta hit me 3 glasses of wine, because stress is so workful." 😂😂😂 Humor mixed with great advice! Thanks, TG!!
ResetRachael
Good points. Let that person speak, and don’t show judgmental responses. Allow them to be themselves, several times over.
aaliyab
I've learned to talk less and listen more. Being cool, calm and collected helps you to get just enough information to decide if you want to keep seeing a person or not. Thank you for this message TG
racethehumanrace
Listening is humility. Answer the questions but don’t overshare. 💯
CO-jbwj
I love the “don’t get picked up from your house part” thank you 🙏🏽 this is gold!
Wildflowerr
This video had me screaming! 😂😂😂
Tony, the predators hate you! Keep going! 💪🙌
shekinahfire
The role plays give me life lol! It’s real and so informative but hilarious all at the same time! Thank you for this truthful comic relief😂🤗🙏🏽
PPWTD
“Im gonna try & tip toe around this… am gonna try to be a little easy with ya, but one thing I’ve noticed with a lot of single people, is that some of y’all is crazy.” TG 😂😂😂😂😂😂
Salma_
Mmmm thank you Tony have been waiting for a video like this ...you're right on time😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊
I'm 24 and have been listening to you for a year now and have applied all your advice and now l have met a Godly man ...now I'm going through the videos again to make sure l don't make any mistakes .
hazelk
The worst question, “Why are you single?” 🤦🏽♀️
trinaa.
You got me laughing. I just heard a new terminology, "lazy daters". Men and women not wanting to invest much into dating; money or time. This whole world is crazy. You have to be careful. Help me Lord!
jacquelineking
Speak one listen twice always. Put yourself on your feminine energy, listen, smile be nice, ask questions here and there listen more than talk, LISTEN for real what they are saying; people love to talk about themselves you will know the real intentions of someone by listening them. Thank you for the advises Tony!btw the roles playing are making me 😂😂😂
SO
I was on a date like this. He was very surface level and all he did was ask questions so I felt like I was working the entire time. It was draining and I felt used. Definitely felt like an interrogation.
