Let's share this to people who say transition is a choice!

The idea of transition being a choice is deeply inaccurate and is painful for many to hear.

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[Kira-zmvy]

The only choice that is being made is that of living as your true self over being miserable.

[rishi]

Dr Z I love your no-shit approach! I've been following your videos and they gave me so much comfort, you have no idea

[Ducati_Dude]

As the old saying goes... 'Until you've walked a mile in someone else's shoes... don't judge them...' Absolutely love that saying... 💕

[cosmochoom]

I’d love another one of these but for the “you’re still biologically ‘such and such’ and always will be” argument

[LT]

I had an old friend of mine (he agreed to this and wanted to do it) shave all his facial hair, I plucked his eyebrows to be more feminine, pick out a very feminine-attractive type of female attire, his sister did his makeup for him, our other friend curled his hair and made it look very cute, and we put him in some heels. Then we (his sister, him and I) went downtown in the city to the main strip and we walked around for about an hour. I was asking him questions like: Does it feel like everyone sees you as someone you’re not? Do you feel comfortable being perceived and treated like a transgender woman? (Not just a woman because he was sorefully clock-able. Society would definitely view him as a trans-woman.) How are you feeling? What are you thinking? Etc.

This man looked so fucking uncomfortable. He was hyper-vigilant of his surroundings and how others were around him. He looked…so vulnerable.

When we all got home, he washed himself up, then sat on the couch. Very introspectively. Then he said that he couldn’t imagine feeling that amount of dread, uncomfortably, and anxiety he felt while presenting as a trans-woman. Definitely not every day of his life. He said he wouldn’t be able to handle it. Then he said that his heart really goes out for the trans-folk in this world.

It was really amazing for me to have a cis person actually understand, even just an ounce, what it is like to be transgender.

He also said that no one would choose this life if it actually was a choice.

I have so much respect for that man because I have never in my life had the privilege to experience another human being willingly attempt and actually go through with trying to experience what it is trans people go through on the day-to-day. RESPECT.

All cis people should have to do this once in their life. Even if it’s only for an hour.

[thebatcollector]

This is so true as someone with gender incongruency’s for me I would say it is not a choice. I reached a point after 20 years of dealing with these Incongruency’s where I realized I have to do something about this or things will never get better. I just kept trying to ignore the incongruency’s and they never went away.I have reached a point over the last year where I’ve been exploring my gender and expressing myself more feminine and working on social aspects of transition. I am noticing that some of these incongruency’s are lessening. I’m still working on this and waiting to get into counseling to determine whether I have gender dysphoria and if medical transition is right for me.

With all this though I will say that this was not a choice. I just look at all the money I’ve been spending on clothes make up voice feminization lessons dying my hair buying jewelry. I can just say this if I had the choice I would rather not have these incongruency’s with my gender and not have to spend all this money exploring my gender expression and social transition. I also know that I may not decide to transition medically and continue being a man. But that will not negate all the money and time I spent and I can only imagine if I medically transition the time and money I will spend.

This isn’t even the only thing that I’m dealing with I also have to deal with people potentially judging me for my so-called choices. Well there are people that accept transgender people there are still a lot of people who will judge me and other trans people. I can say for myself and I imagine other trans people would feel the same that I would not choose any of this. I just wish my brain could except that I was born male and stop sending me signals of gender incongruency.

[larryconwell]

I’ve dealt with this since I was 14 years old going through puberty was really awkward and uncomfortable for me now at 37 I’ve decided to start laser hair removal and hormones here soon it’s not a choice especially when it causes depression and makes you negatively see yourself and neglect your body and health like Dr.Z’s video if you don’t deal with it it will deal with you

[Maelstrome]

I tried very hard for 15 years to be a cishet man after I tried to come out and was pushed back into the closet by a conservative christian environment including my mother. At no point did the dysphoria go away. At no point did my gender shift towards masculine. I just became psychologically damage and suicidal until I finally accepted myself as my true gender and started transition.

[uwucummies]

This is something my uncle has to hear

[SeaGull]

Tell it like it is! I had a girlfriend that would say it seems like I could control it.

[johnwang]

It seems to me that choosing what to do about it is the choice, not the dysphoria itself.

[runito]

BUT even if it WAS a choice, wouldnt everyone have the right to make that choice? EVEN if they were wrong? I think that is what freedom is. The freedom to try out new things, even if it turn out to be wrong decition.

[Kira-zyro]

Of course being trans is a from a certain point of view. Like "your money or your life" is *technically* a choice too, but it is sensibly impossible to take the other choice....

[mongoharry]

Unless they've walked in those shoes they haven't experienced it.

[tremereowen]

Being trans is not a choice, period, as having black hair isn't. Transitioning, however, is, as there is an alternative (which I don't mean to endorse): coping with dysphoria

[Jacobify]

It's as much of a choice as any other set of behavioral patterns. Meaning, like tastes for flavors, some of it arises naturally, even biologically, while some of it is called for by the environment you grow up in, or devolope later in life.

[atlas]

I have no idea why this popped up while scrolling youtube

[vodean]

Well, gender dysphoria isn't a choice, but I still think what you do with it is a choice.

[JensVanDeAarde]

getting atrazine into your body through tab water without having a choice is also something to take a look at