7 Ways to Deal with Judgmental People

Do you deal with judgemental people on a day to day basis because of who you are, what you think, or what you do? Usually, judgemental people or friend are judgemental on themselves. They project themselves on you. We share some insights on why some people are judgemental, and how we can deal with judgemental people.

"Those who mind don't matter. Those who matter don't mind." ~ Dr. Seuss

Script: Catherine H.
Voice Over: Star Martin

Intro: Surey Camacho

Project Manager: Erin Bogo
Community Manager: Priscilla Cha, Nicole Pridemore
Producer: Psych2Go

BGM:
"Clear Waters"
Licensed under Creative Commons: By Attribution 3.0

[pandaprincess]

i need this. i’m such a sensitive person :( just the littlest bit of judgement towards me can ruin my day

[jayman]

I find that highly judgemental people never seem to change, i just avoid them when i can and focus on the people I like. In a workplace when it's tough to avoid them I just let them speak and say what they have to say, I don't apologise if I've done nothing wrong and I will stick up for myself if I need to, but just letting them get stuff off their chest seems to end the conversation quicker.

[LittleLulubee]

No matter what your problems are, being a jerk to others is a choice. And jerks don't deserve to be helped, and certainly don't deserve thanks for their bad behavior.

[Berries]

It hurts me when someone who's usually friendly to everyone else is mean or judgemental towards only me. Makes me feel like I'm DEFINITELY doing something wrong, or else why would they target me specifically? Its even more difficult if they have a higher social standing than you because then other people who don't even know you start to think you're a bad person when you don't even know what you did wrong!
Does anyone else have this problem?

[Enmations]

The only friends I have are online and my family is toxic. Also the person who's in charge of me is mentally sick, they don't have empathy. I even think they take pleasure out of my mom's and my suffering.

[not-a-ghost]

this is so important right now, since my grandma is like this. but you can't talk with her or stand up. sometimes you just have to ignore people who hurt you. even if its family.

[patdaubert]

Watching Psych2Go at 3am because
P R I O R I T I E S

[onkar]

Nobody deserves hurtful, demeaning judgment. This is not to say that feedback cannot be constructive. It is the intent of the feedback. I know certain loving people who can give you a reality check in such a loving, supportive way that you actually feel empowered at the end of it. And then there are people whose praise is also toxic. Backhanded, or sarcastic.

This is because the intent is to hurt you, to make you feel like shit. And it’s done by people who are struggling inside like the video described.

Watch out for such negative people. Don’t let their words cut you. You are all beautiful and deserve encouragement and respect.

Much love.

[DreamTravelerZenddrex]

I remember learning 'I' statements in school. They taught me that instead of saying, "You're stupid, " I should say, "I feel that engaging with stupid people is a waste of time."

[lauragadille]

I've had to deal with judgmental people on my life especially my family. I'm never good enough, why are you wasting your time in college, your lazy, I wish you were never born, and on and on. No wonder I'm so negative towards myself and attract these people in my life. Every time I get ahead of the game, I get knocked down. I'm really at the point of when I graduate next summer I'm moving away. I know this won't solve any problems but it will stop the nagging of my family.

[PortalGuardian]

My parents are both very judgemental about certain things and always point out the negative aspects in people. I'm a rather sensitive person and take things personally so their constant criticism really wears on my self esteem.

[JaneyImaaniEmotionalAwareness]

It's so easy to get obsessed with our critics! We look over the people who love us to impress the people who judge us! Learning how to be grateful for the people who matter and not focus on our haters is a monumental task. But it is very possible and necessary:)

[Kartoffelkamm]

When I meet a highly judgemental person, I usually remind myself that I´m doing as best as I can and they have no right of telling me how to do my job.
I know best where I can improve, and if they think otherwise, they´re wasting their energy, since they don´t know where I can improve.
Basically: I just tell them to shut up. They´ll try a few more times, but once I start throwing around mean words (or furniture), they usually stop.
One time I told the to shut up, but they didn´t listen, so I said it increasingly firmly a couple more times, with my teacher within earshot, and when they didn´t stop, I chased that guy down the hallway to a door he tried to open, but I tackled him in the back, jamming my elbow, which is rather pointy due to me being rather skinny, between his shoulders.
The ambulance said he´d be fine, and since my teacher had seen the guy provoke me, I got away without a problem, since the guy knew I was prone to violence when provoked. However, usually I couldn´t control myself for that long, so my teacher told the police that the guy was obviously aiming to provoke me, with the clear intent of triggering a violent outburst on my part.
Long story short: I got applauded for my above-average level of self control, and he got in trouble for intentionally endangering his fellow classmates.

[aquatarot]

Some of us don’t have loving supportive people in our lives. So many people are nice to your face but they talk behind your back. I learned this by how quick gossip travels. I started telling certain people certain things just to see how fast rumors travel

[-bodna]

My entire family in a nutshell, can’t wait to move out..

[ibdohbd]

*It’s crazy how someone judges me based off my reaction to something immature they’ve said, then they label me based off my reaction. Reactions don’t equate to our whole character. Some man said I seem cool but very angry, what a nice compliment? Um? I never get called angry, and he provoked me. Insane.*

[Brensimpsonita]

I ended up quiting my job because i couldn't stand my boss anymore. I worked there for four years and was the first and oldest employee they had. Right now, I can't find another job and have to live with my mom again, but I really couldn't stand it for no longer. I'm clumsy and a bit distractfull to be honest but always did my best and took more responsibilities than I should to, but wasn't enough for her, so I left. I thanked her for the opportunity and wished the best.

[RationalityLife]

I haven't watched this video at the time of writing this comment but there's always someone who hates me and talks trash about me in school and also physically abuses me. I'm always so nice and kind to everyone yet there are people who completely hate my guts and want to see me suffer. I really appreciate you guys making these videos.

[ponkoponko]

The people in my life that are judgemental are my parents. Whenever I give my parents space, they try to call me back and try and argue even more about the situation they were being judgemental about before.

[BearMinimal]

Hi if you’re reading this. Please remember you’re beautiful 😍and I hope you are having a wonderful day!

From a small youtuber in Australia! 😚🐻🤓