The TRUTH about the RED PILL: what to expect on the path to understanding

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Time to talk about the red pill. For the purposes of this discussion, I'm defining the red pill as a set of knowledge and know-how pertaining to men's place in society and to intersexual dynamics, in particular. In many respects, the red pill can be likened to a spiritual transformation, in that -- having undergone it -- the person is no longer who he once was. In light of this, I'm going to offer two teachings that -- while originally rooted in spirituality -- are usefully applicable to the red pill. My argument is that, ultimately, the red pill exists to facilitate fulfilling relationships.

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Presented by Orion Taraban, Psy.D. PsycHacks provides viewers with a brief, thought-provoking video several days a week on a variety of psychological topics, inspired by his clinical practice. The intention is for the core idea contained within each video to inspire viewers to see something about themselves or their world in a slightly different light. The ultimate mission of the channel is to reduce the amount of unnecessary suffering in the world.

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[psychacks]

Time to talk about the red pill. For the purposes of this discussion, I'm defining the red pill as a set of knowledge and know-how pertaining to men's place in society and to intersexual dynamics, in particular. In many respects, the red pill can be likened to a spiritual transformation, in that -- having undergone it -- the person is no longer who he once was. In light of this, I'm going to offer two teachings that -- while originally rooted in spirituality -- are usefully applicable to the red pill. My argument is that, ultimately, the red pill exists to facilitate fulfilling relationships.

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Presented by Orion Taraban, Psy.D. PsycHacks provides viewers with a brief, thought-provoking video several days a week on a variety of psychological topics, inspired by his clinical practice. The intention is for the core idea contained within each video to inspire viewers to see something about themselves or their world in a slightly different light. The ultimate mission of the channel is to reduce the amount of unnecessary suffering in the world.

#redpill #psychology #relationship

[jcnlaw]

Experienced divorce attorney here. Great synopsis of taking the red pill. Another key takeaway I would like to add if I may: if you are a young man, focus on becoming the very best version of yourself. Attract, do NOT pursue. It will make a huge difference in how you engage with women and they perceive and treat you. Stay safe out there!

[NickRedstar]

You said it. The red pill isn’t about changing the world. It’s about changing yourself and accepting the world as it is.

[Dub]

The world needs more content like this. Intelligent, thoughtful, balanced, sensible, and accurate

[bdgregorybd]

I started my red pill journey in my mid 20’s. I became fully red pill aware in my late 20’s and looking back I think I discovered the red pill at the perfect time. I can confidently say that I am a better partner and am in the best relationship of my life so far because of my red pill understanding. The red pill changes lives for the better and in some cases saves lives

[SukhoiGC]

Red Pill stuck in your throat = red pill rage.

Beautiful and concise explanation of the red pill as a whole. Very good 🤙🏾

[davidlawson]

I took the red pill about 4 years ago, and like many, it was the result of trauma from a relationship. The pill got stuck far several years. Only after a visit with my priest was I able to swallow it, and now has transformed my view of inter gender dynamics. This was a good discussion with an excellent analogy. When it comes to women, ignore what they say in favor of what they do, which will oft times reveal the clearest picture of them as a person.

[G.Charles]

Along with Red Pill 'rage' is Red Pill 'regret'; coming into the red pill thought processes and realities later in life, and regretting your past actions (i.e. marriage, etc.). This is often too big of a mental hurdle for men to get past. The anger and compunction they feel for a 'life lost' makes them almost worse than if they would have never 'swallowed' the Red Pill at all.
The saying ignorance is bliss certainly is significant as it applies to the Red Pill.

[cliffpostell]

It's called red pill rage. It's definitely a part of the process, but you have to get through it to complete the process.

[omnipotentone]

Some advice for those who have just swallowed the red pill. When I realized how women saw my "nice guy" behavior after taking the red pill as desperate, needy, clingy, and terribly unattractive, I felt incredibly embarrassed and angry at myself (red pill rage). What I have found that has helped me through this is to cut off contact, as much as possible, to those women with which I displayed this behavior, and concentrate solely on my own self improvement and hobby interests. It still hurts, but it's getting better.

[hikari]

I like to think that redpill knowledge is not about putting all women in the same bag, it’s about learning to identify and deal with the bad ones.

[joaquin]

It took awhile to accept it, but the hardest part was trying to redirect my energy/focus away from women. After I learned more about women, I realized that becoming the best version of myself (fitness, competence, and financial) will not only work in my own benefit of being a happy and masculine man, but it also tends to be what women will find most attractive. It almost feels selfish to need to be focused on myself, but it actually is what will enable me to help others.

Fortunately I wasn't 100% "Blue Pill". My first taste of "Red Pill' was in my early 20s (now 31) when I lost weight and gained some muscle (fitness), women were suddenly more attracted to me. I also knew being broke sucked, but I was 50/50 on that one -- I worked hard to get an engineering degree (financial) but just now aiming to increase my salary. My lack of understanding women (competence) was the hardest part to swallow, but better understanding both sexes helped a lot.

Also, I had to find specific "Red Pill" content because so much of it is so negative and angry. I like your content, it's more relaxed and well-put.

[robertfindley]

I appreciate what you are trying to do. I failed miserably for years under the false pretenses of the blue pill, then gave up and walked away. This was long before MGTOW, red pill, etc. I formed my own understanding based on my experiences and observations, which later I learned matched the black/red pill. Now I had terminology. But most importantly, I learned to focus on myself and be happy alone. It was a multi-year journey.

[daveboise_]

After two years on my red pill journey I've finally started dating again without anger. I had no idea I went through the process you just described. Thanks for showing me what I couldn't see in myself.

[Antediluvian]

You might've just saved some lives with this one. The parallel you draw between "taking the red pill" and "_trying_ to achieve enlightenment" is absolutely spot on.
A lot of people get lost with the red pill, because it unsteadies their foundation, and doesn't come with instructions for what to make of it.
What you say is very true that getting stuck halfway on the journey is the least favorable of the outcomes. Integrating newfound knowledge is a critical step. So the reminder to complete the journey, if one should choose to start it, is probably one of the best things I've heard on this channel, and there have been lots of those!
Thank you for your work, really some of the best practical psychology content on YouTube.

[OneNiftyBoi]

This is quicky becoming my favourite Psychology/Philosophy channel. Very level-headed explanation of the RP.

[stevehancock]

I'm almost 58 and I only started down the RP journey about 10 years ago after my dad passed away. Feeling much better about it now. I think guys who have sisters have a leg up on the awareness aspect, which my brother and I never had.

[JSteelers]

I found your channel a week ago and your content is so amazing. I’m a short Indian male that has been studying to become a doctor and I have found myself in the middle of struggling to swallow the red pill after my girlfriend of two years broke up with me out of the blue. I’ve since learned to decouple my self-worth from the value of woman to finally love myself and commit to the path of becoming a physician. Your videos help me understand the value that I have so I can continue to build it for future relationships.

[dwightbrown]

You have articulated The Red Pill succinctly.

Understanding women and our relationships with them can lead some of us to finally get to a point where they are no longer your 'raison d'etre' and that reality can bring a tremendous level of peace quiet and freedom to a man.

[lilbroomstick]

RP truths have given me tangible motivation to improve my fashion, physique, and work effort. But one thing I will say is I wish I knew these truths before I left undergrad. I didn't have a good dating life in undergrad and I couldn't really understand why but now I understand TRP I understood what I was doing wrong. Now I'm an adult and its really hard to find likeminded people im attracted to in every day life working. Sure I do a lot better on the dates and in the DMs today than I did in college when I do find myself engaged in them, but I was younger with more time and more people around me in everyday life I was actually interested in. Better dating opportunities to be honest. I think the biggest pain of TRP is you usually discover it after when you actually needed it. And yea its great you can carry forward that knowledge in life, but I left a lot of trauma behind me so now im strongly considering hiring a male therapist and learning compassion for my uneducated past self and the past I cannot change.