What Not To Ask An Asexual Person

Answering and explaining the issues with some commonly asked questions regarding asexuality, for clicks!

[lukasnovella]

“You must be miserable without Sex”
Sir. I am miserable for S O many other reasons, and my lack of sexual desire is not one of those.

[reidottritabrook]

I am an Asexual Aromantic and I have a really "Funny" story. I am a very flamboyant and very easy to think I am a gay man because I fit the stereotype perfectly and the two class clowns walked up to me and asked if I was gay. I like to think the best of people so I hope they were just curious and wanted to know. "I do not like guys, " I told them hoping they would leave it there but... They asked me if I also liked girls and I told them no. "What that is not a thing, " they said and I explained what Asexual is. "Well, can you get hard, What gets your rocks off?" I stood up explained that it was highly inappropriate for them to ask that question because it was not there business and I was really uncomfortable so I walked to the other side of the room and avoided them the rest of the week.

[dandanP]

The one that annoys me the most is
"I bet I could change that!"

[MaxMallard]

I was so baffled when I came out to my parents as my dad said "maybe you haven't met someone you fancy" and mum asked if I loved my boyfriend. The guy I'd been in a loving relationship with for four years at the time. If I love someone for four years and am not sexually attracted to them I'm pretty sure I'm asexual and I've most likely met the right person already.

[alishas]

i will never understand why people think it’s okay to ask aces about their specific sexual experiences (like it’s different when i’m talking with my friends and we’re all talking about stuff like that) but i hate other people thinking they are owed an answer

[RandomPerson-tqmz]

I came out to my friend last year as asexual and he said "so you're a plant?" and then he had the nerve to tell someone else! the guy he told rode my bus and he also made fun of me by saying "ha you're a plant!" and reminded me of it everyday, and I now refuse to talk to these 2 guys anymore and I'm not upset to lose these friends.

[Jade-tpmv]

Thanks for clearing up these questions about ace people, I feel very informed now! :)

[StardustNovaChannel]

I feel like these questions are asked in bad faith. It's like a gotcha thing with these people.

[alishere]

Super sex repulsed and the very personal questions always seem to be the hardest to answer. Like can I not be asked this? Super informative I like it.

[Chaos-]

"You're just a late bloomer."
26...

[rebeccaparrish]

I got very lucky to find a partner that was understanding that I was asexual and didnt try to force it, and realizing that sex was one of those things I couldn't give them we tried out polyamory and now all three of us live together and have a daughter. It is possible guys! Just dont give up hope! Also communication is key to any healthy relationship lol

[thilypad]

As an ace I have been guilty of thinking romantic relationships are just like close friendships if you don't engage in physical intimacy.

[JohannaConlon]

This was a really great video, with a good combination of serious and informative, with some humour, and was relatable, even for a non-asexual like me. Thank you for making this.

[emilydivis]

This is a really interesting topic for me. I'm bisexual and find almost every person I meet to be aesthetically attractive. (No, I do not fall into the stereotype of "bi person is turned on by anyone", but I do unintentionally contribute to it because many people don't realize that aesthetic attraction is distinct from sexual attraction.) Meanwhile, my sister is asexual, but like me, she appreciates many people in an aesthetic way. We've had some discussions comparing and contrasting our personal experiences that I found to be really engaging and thought-provoking. I really hope they've been that for her, too. I've tried not to push boundaries, but I fall into the trap of assuming that if I'm comfortable sharing something about myself, she's comfortable hearing it (or sharing something similar about herself).

I'm pretty sure I've made almost every mistake you pointed out in this video at some point. My sister patiently and gently taught me better. I was the one being rude, and it was not her responsibility to explain where I was going wrong, but she did it anyway because I'm pretty sure she's a saint.

Be right back. Gonna go apologize.

[jamlee]

Next time I get any of these questions, I'm just going to send them a link to your video 😂😂

[Galsellenc]

Imagine your best friend saying “I feel bad for you” after you tell her your asexual, like 👀 what do you mean?

[spiritshands]

Once this dude was all like "ooh you aren't wearing socks, are you gay, " etc. I told him I was ace and he didn't know what it was, asked his friends.
He comes back..
"So you like frogs?"
I am deceased.

[JohannaConlon]

It seems no matter how many times I watch similar videos from different people, I still get a new insight and perspective, even if I don't exactly learn any new facts. I was also again surprised as to how much people from across the LGBT+ community can deal with such similar difficulties. Not only ignorant questions, as was the main premise of this video, but also things like struggling to find someone compatible to date.

[irmaboguzinskaite]

I find it disgusting how people would reply with "I cAn FiX tHaT" when someone comes out as asexual.

[LilithEveRain]

This is a well made, wonderful video. I'm pretty sure that it's the best I've seen on the subject...and I've been out as Ace for years