Passive-aggressive behavior. Why it's DANGEROUS. Attachment Specialist Adam Lane Smith

Why do people choose passive-aggressive behaviors? Passive-aggressive people are fulfilling an emotional need. Their destructive choices to create drama, controversy, and problems help them relieve a problem they're experiencing inside. But if left unchecked, their behaviors can destroy a group, family, or organization.

What if you want to fight back? Stop the passive-aggressive destruction? Or what if you're passive-aggressive yourself and want to understand why you're doing these things and how to stop? This video will teach you how. Attachment specialist Adam Lane Smith explains why these emotional choices get mad and what you can do to build healthier groups, families, and organizations that resist passive-aggressive drama.

This video is part of an ongoing series about attachment.

You've deal with passive-aggressive behavior before. It probably hurt you. Maybe it wrecked your family, group, or organization. And you want to know how to stop from being manipulated and hurt again. Passive-aggressive behavior and manipulation happens for a reason. This video explains why, and what you can do about it.

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[dozerdiva]

I'm a new viewer & I work in a very toxic environment. This happens ALL THE TIME. Commonly known a "soap box" Thank you for more of an indepth example. It will help to identify behaviors to avoid.

[geoffjensen]

I’ve enjoyed your podcast appearances and appreciate these videos. Keep up the fantastic work!

[oumaimaag]

That was very informative. Thank you ❤

[oambitiousone]

Toxic femininity = passive-aggression. Rather than confront, we build alliances and cases against the outlier. Women, being more alert to and neurotic about others slighting them, either peel off that group or conform to stop the subtle barbs. (Ironic: I almost phrased this as a question, hoping to build consensus rather than just to state my opinion outright.)

[MissingTheMark]

My recollection from your article on this is that the important thing is to throw the passive-aggressive person into the fire in the cave before they can band together with others to throw you out of the cave. Now, let's see if I remember correctly. :)

[katelandsmith]

This is why I live in escapist daydreaming 24 hours a day, I think.

Living with a violent guardian, talking about a problem would get you knocked to the floor. Letters would get torn up. Poems about feelings, less direct, would be met with more rage than the letter. Floor time. Diaries left for people to find...worse than all.
Next sets of people: shouted down. Called selfish or evil for talking about problems.
Sighing and foot stepping would have been floor time too.

I would not have someone to "triangulate" with. Lol

Daydreaming or zoning out are the only out.

[cmleibenguth]

The bad pattern you describe sounds like what I have heard called "Gossiping, Shaming, & Rallying"
A tactic of indirect social aggression
Didnt make the possible connection between that behavior and passive agressiveness

[ethanhart]

Adam! I am assuming you have watched the game show Survivor. I love the show and I have always tried to think through what behaviors get people to the end. I would be very curious to hear your thoughts on the show as an example of behaviors you study.

[johnpachkoski]

Is there any book you can reccomend for us to get better at communicating with difficult people?

[ashalight]

I like your channel and info, but I'm sorry to say it - reading from screen near camera puts me off, it became hard to watch your videos.