Let's be Honest. You Just Hate Autistic Traits.

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[imautisticnowwhat]

What do you think? Is autism in fact a rainbow butterfly? 🦋

Does the fake disorder cringe reaction to the word ‘neurspicy’ change your opinion on the word/song?

Should I get uterus earrings?

All the big questions!

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[stjernedrommer]

What I've learned through this subreddit and it's inhabitants:

You can't share positivity about your autistic experience. You can't share your struggles either. You can't show stimming – but also if you don't stim, it means you are not autistic. You cannot show meltdowns and shutdowns, because you are faking it. But you also cannot NOT show them, because otherwise you don't struggle. You can't wear colourful clothes and act "childish", because it's infantilising. But you also can't be all serious and composed, because it means you are not autistic.

After all of that AND my personal experience, I have a question.

Why would I want to conform and try my best to appear "normal" when all these people want is to dislike me no matter what I do?

[jackiejormpjomp]

"I hate the fact that there is the implication that the only way to be taken seriously as truly disabled is to be miserable." 👏👏👏 So well said Meg.

[OscarLangleySoryu]

Being socially awkward doesn’t MEAN you’re autistic.

But if you ARE autistic, you’re gonna be (or have been before you learned to change the behavior) socially awkward.

[Jacq.T]

Everyone who ever went to a Doctor & said "I think I might have...", had to 'self diagnose' first.

[Arin-mq]

Controversial opinion but the sudden panic about autistic people being 'diagnosed by tiktok' is doing nothing but harm to the autistic community. Fakeclaiming is becoming acceptable in places it never was before and I can't say anything about my day to day life without someone saying "Akshually, doing x doesn't mean you're autistic, you should do more research and consult with a doctor before diagnosing yourself". Funnily enough, they never respond when they find out I was diagnosed by a panel of NHS psychiatrists at age 7. Honestly I'd much rather deal with the annoyance of a few non-autistic 15 year olds mistaking their anxiety for autism then moving on after a year than this god damn policing.

[cookiealchemie]

shout-out to the ACTUAL PSYCHOLOGIST who said i wasnt autistic because I asked if she was okay. I was diagnosed when I was six. It wasn't even what the appointment was about...

[ApocalypticJay]

I'm not even sure what they mean by "infantilizing" autism at this point. It seems like "you're doing something I deem childlike and I don't like it" rather than "you're treating autistic people like children that don't have any capacity for intelligence or responsibility"

[amazingspiderlad]

Imagine if I made a post saying I broke my wrist in an accident and people started foaming at the mouth and screaming at me for glorifying broken bones...

That's it, that's this subreddit.

[Fairskinnedprincess]

Having to “prove” my identity is so exhausting. I have autism, ADHD, DID, and a fainting disorder. I’ve been told so many times that “no, you’re not fainting, you’re just tired.” And to stop making a scene. I’ve been told numerous times that my DID isn’t real because of how large the faking DID scene was in 2020 or so.
TBH I don’t always tell people about my disorders, I only say it as a reasoning for behavior. I say up front that I have DID and a fainting disorder. Especially my fainting disorder because one wrong fall and I could die. Imagine if I had to prove everytime that I had my fainting disorder. How? It’s a fainting disorder. What do you want me to do? Faint on command or something?
It’s useless to constantly say “you can’t be/have because you do/have People are diverse, people have different experiences, especially with disorders that are a spectrum like autism. If you’re not a doctor specialized in autism, you don’t get to say if someone has autism or not. And even than you cannot diagnose someone with ONE TIKTOK.

[allief]

The asthma one is infuriating because I would agree there are a surprising amount of parallels. I have a friend who wasn't diagnosed with asthma until later in life, decades after her son had been diagnosed with asthma as a child, because asthma, like autism, is under diagnosed and under treated in women and marginalized racial groups. And until she got an asthma diagnosis people treated her getting winded and tired easily as some sort of moral failing for not being more physically fit.
What the person in the skit should be saying is "Are you sure you're asthmatic? You don't look asthmatic. You should just try breathing better." because those are the people making it harder to get a diagnosis, they're the "friends" who make you question your lived experiences and the doctors that don't believe you're in pain, they're not the people who are self-diagnosing.

[frwny_faith]

Wild to me that these kinds of people say “you can’t self diagnose yourself after watching one TikTok video!” (Not even how it works) but they think they can say someone’s NOT autistic after watching one TikTok video about them

[imanoffice]

Me suddenly turning neurotypical when someone says I’m not autistic /j

[juliar]

“Reinforcing stereotype” has become such an excuse to not do or show traits which can be interpreted as negative… it’s just showing people cannot accept true diversity when that diversity is no longer only about good and positive things, but about the “weird” “ugly “bad” traits, or just ones you cannot understand. Also if someone is taking all their knowledge about autiam from one tiktok it really doesn’t matter what you show, it’s the person who is the problen

[BeKindAllTheTime]

My dad asked me the other day what I'm going to do with my 80 Squishmallows when I move out. I told him I'm going to keep them, and they'll go on my bed. He told me that people won't want to be at my house when they see my bed lined with Squishmallows, because that's childish behavior. I told him I don't care at this point. If people are going to have a problem with the way my bed looks, then I won't have a relationship with them. If I was sharing the bed with someone else, I would move them off the bed, but if it's just me, they're not going anywhere. I'm not going to give up my comfort when I come home every day just because someone else doesn't like it. My house, my room, my rules. That's what I'm going to tell people when my autistic traits shine through. My brain, my body, my rules. You can't tell me how to operate my brain and body. You can politely ask me to stop doing something if it's disruptive or unsafe, but it's ultimately my decision. I'm sick of NTs telling me how to live my life as an autistic person.

[Sunnys..grxvve]

I was riding my horse in a lesson i wasn't usually in a couple of months ago. This girl, who is around 4 years younger than me, asked me why i was flapping my arms when i got off my horse. I explained it was called stimming, and it was because i was super happy with my horse (a 6** year old - accidentally pressed 5) doing something for the first time, and he didn't spook or anything. She proceeded to ask why AGAIN, so i said, "i have autism, so i can't really control it much."

And she had the uneducated audacity to say, "You dont look autistic though."

I literally FROZE. i asked her what she meant, and she then proceeded to explain what she thought autism "looked" like. Turns out she'd been taught autism "looks" like people that are paralyzed. When their faces are stuck in one position, same for their body, and that their words are slurred and you can barely understand them

I. Could. Have. Screamed. It's so far off, and for no reason!? People NEED to be educated that some peoples disablities arent always visible.

Somethind else i want to point out, relating to the first one, i believe many (but not all) autistic people easily forget that none of us are exactly the same. The spectrum varies widely. So if one autistic person struggles to communicate, that does NOT mean every other autistic person does too. Same for the other way around. My nephew who is getting diagnosed with autism will literally go up to ANYONE in the shops and go "hi im (name) im (age) and im shopping with my mummy." Then walks off. He LOVES to sociolise but doesn't understand exactly how to donit properly, and therefore, he ALSO forgets to ask people things like "whats your name?"

Where as I don't like sociolising, but when forced to, I 95% of the time remember to reciprocate the questions. For example

Person: "Hey, how are you?"
Me: "I'm good thanks, how are you?"

But then I try my hardest to end the conversation as quickly as possible, which could result in me seeming "rude"

Another polar opposite between me and my nephew is understanding sarcasm. I struggle to understand it, even when it's the same phrase used by the same person over and over. I also struggle sarcasm via text too, especially if there is no punctuation or emojis or clear, full capitals, bold letters to reassure me it's sarcastic. My nephew understands any and all sarcasm at this point and uses it a lot himself.

[Fallofthenights]

You cant joke about your own autism or adhd without being accused of generlizing or making a mockery

[inhop]

This subreddit *needs* to learn the difference between 'stereotypes' and 'archetypes'.

[coolchameleon]

the irony of this subreddit is that their whole thing is saying people can’t diagnose themselves, but they can diagnose someone else after a 30 second video. like how does that make any sense??

[FeyBunny]

12:40 I'm diagnosed with cptsd, major depression, anxiety and eating disorder and this is so frustrating. On the one hand you have to be sick and miserable 24/7 to get treatment and accommodations from the government and being happy even for a second can harm your benefits, but on the other hand there ARE good days and not showing them is also harmful and stigmatizing. It's a constant battle. You're either dying or in top health, there is no other option.