VLOG: He doesn't come to baby appointments with me...

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[melanieh]

Every doctor's appointment is important, especially when you are high risk. For my last baby, during the last trimester, I was going twice a week, once for MFM and once for my regular OBGYN. I know it's annoying and kind of seems like overkill, but they are just trying to make sure your baby makes it earth side safely. Also my partner only came to ultrasound appointments. It didn't make sense for him to take PTO for every single appointment.

[allieg]

I’m currently 29 weeks pregnant and having my husband there was a big support and relief. The times he couldn’t come my mother came. Having support at my appointments especially being my first baby gives me comfort. Also when I forget something my husband reminds me what the doctors said. It’s really helpful to have an extra set of ears and eyes at my prenatal appointments.

[TA-npmc]

My husband didn't come to any appointments and I'm totally fine. I just gave him the recaps when he gets home. I much rather have him save any PTO for after baby is here and his OT pay is amazing. I get to buy whatever for baby and not be stressed about money 😂

[michellebraddock]

I worked in OB-GYN for almost 15 years and honestly I only saw hubby's come to appointments very very rarely. LOL. I think it's wicked normal, especially since so many OB's never run on time.... AND girl your hair has gotten so LONG! Its gorgeous!! :)

[Katherinegarciab]

Don’t feel bad! My husband has only come with me to our ultrasound appointments since he wants to see baby but I told him he doesn’t have to come to follow ups! They’re super short anyway

[eh]

So I’m 36 weeks at present and considered a high risk pregnancy ivf, deivf, over40. I’ve got the same attitude as yourself. My husband couldn’t make the transfer appt so I happily went myself. He came to the 12 week 20 week 32week and will be at the 36week but all the other midwife appts of which I’ve had 5 so far he doesn’t attend. These are just check in appts- listen to baby check my bump BP and urine. I think after having so many ivf appts it does change your view on certain things. You guys do you ❤ and utterly delighted for you ❤

[laveep]

The discussion in the car low key was about to stir an argument 😂😂😂😂 but I think we all know you guys are way more aligned with your mindset and goals ❤

[SunshineDaisy]

I think it’s totally up to the couple and their circumstances and there is absolutely no shame in the man/father not attending. My husband tried to attend every apt because he does get to work from home. But towards the end, I drove myself because I didn’t care at that point, all I cared about was getting to 38 weeks 😂 you two do what works best for your family, as not everyone has the same time accommodations. ❤

[mariemiller]

We had a high risk pregnancy and were at MFM 2-3x a week, so I never knew what I was walking into, so he definitely came with me. but that’s because of his flexible schedule and my own anxious heart 😅

[simplyellenxo]

I may not be able to relate to anyone who’s in a relationship and getting pregnant but it’s always interesting to see these type of videos…😊

[Mbaumgartner]

Up until like the last couple weeks or so of my pregnancy my husband did come to every appointment, but it was because he wanted to. I didn’t tell him that he needed to, but he was so excited for the baby that he wanted to be there and would make it work with his work schedule. Towards the end of my pregnancy I had several appointments during the week, so that was harder for my hubby to come with his work schedule and would only want to go to the important OB/ultrasound ones

[laurajoyn]

My husband came to every appointment with me, but we both had very flexible work schedules during my pregnancy. He didn’t need to, but it turned into a fun time for us and we’d always get lunch together after. He also really got to know my OB very well which was nice too! Next time around I know he won’t be able to come with as much and will likely only come to the big ultrasounds!

[HannieBannie]

To each their own, for me as someone who went through infertility and pregnancy loss, I just couldn’t bring myself to go to appointments without my husband until maybe the last trimester with my rainbow boy. I couldn’t handle the possibility of getting bad news alone, it was also so nice to enjoy those times with my partner 🥰

[gigilulu]

The MDM and your regular doc won’t always be in constant communication, you’ll hav appointments scheduled for the MFM and your regular pregnancy doc. MFM checks for different, specific things. It protects them from any potential litigation but it also ensures that you and the baby are as safe as possible! Especially since you’re high risk and IVF!

[stephaniequintanar]

My husband comes with me to every appointment but we both have pretty flexible schedules as well… but the thought that I could get bad news and be alone terrifies me. But yall do you! Full support to whatever works for you.💕

[CrystalCazassus]

I asked my husband to save his PTO for when I’m in labor and baby arrives. Most appointments are super quick and you don’t always get a sonogram so I don’t think it’s worth it for him to miss time at work.

[KWilliams]

A few years ago my partner and i made a pact to go to every single doctors appointment together. Its happened at least 90% of the time and its been phenomenal having that moral support and closeness...especially during the pregnancy ones...we are in everything together ❤️

[TateJohnson]

I threw up or gagged violently when brushing my teeth every time!! I started only using mouthwash first thing in the morning and brushing after I eat breakfast, I felt like it helped me a lot 😊

During IVF and early pregnancy my husband obv came to the major appointments, egg retrieval, implantation, first ultrasound & our 20 week ultrasound this Friday. But otherwise he has to work and we’re totally fine with it!

[HarryThomasPictures]

Happy Mothers Day for yesterday Rachel, mother's day this year is particularly special❤!

[KitKat-veem]

My husband only went to ultrasounds! But regular OB where they just ask you if you’re doing ok and measure your stomach are not necessary for them to take time off work. Although I was always very nervous and my heart rate and BP were always elevated so the nurse asked if my husband could come with me to help me be calm 😂