How To Deal With a Bully

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[Blake.]

I was bullied a lot in my growing years. My parents were very stern with me on never fighting back whether verbally or physically. Looking back, I wish I did retaliate.

[geekerella]

I'm a girl. My Dad taught me to fight back harder. Teachers can't help you. A show of strength works.

[setbyyah]

One of the main motives for bullying is competition I feel like. You try to dominate a peer physically to show how strong you are to all of your classmates. Sure you might be young now, sure the teachers might be in charge right now; but in the future that's not going to be the case. You need to show how strong you are to your peers before it's your turn to be an adult, to be a leader.
The better way to compete is academically, athletically, socially, etc. But an insecure person in those areas who feels like they can rely on there fighting ability will pick on a weaker classmate to demonstrate strength to their classmates.

This is why I feel like it's so important to fight back if someone picks on you. It's an opportunity to prepare yourself for what adult life will be like. You need to be able to stand up for yourself and out-compete your peers once you all become adults. You need to prove that to yourself and your peers that you are not the type of person to back down or give up when challenged. The teacher or your parent is not always going to be there for you when someone is mean to you. It's better to be prepared for that early in life compared to being blindsided by it in adulthood.

[coltonconnor]

My dad told me never start a fight but if someone puts their hands on you, finish it. Worked out great. I'll never understand letting yourself get beat up.

[gritgreed]

In my opinion. Kids (mainly boys) should be taught these sort of things

[Tornadospeed]

“If someone hits you don’t hit back” is by far one of the worst things the school system taught us. What do they expect kids to do? Get the crap beat out of them and just let it happen and tell a teacher after they got beat up? It’s genuinely an awful thing

[juliancain]

My dad taught me this, "Never start a fight, but If he hits you once, tell him to stop, if he hits twice, tell him to stop again, if he keeps going? You will punch, and you will keep punching until the the teacher comes. Now you're probably going to get suspended, but I won't punish you for it." Unfortunately one of his other points was "Never hit a woman." So when it was a girl who put her hands on me I hadn't the slightest idea what to do.

[Dean-je]

I was bullied growing up, that pushed me to do kick-boxing and then eventually boxing, but unfortunately after all the threats died down I kinda got complacent and didn’t really bother with training, I’m still young so I am planning to get back with the flow, sometimes unfortunate situations, force you to fight your way to a fortunate situation

[vxti_cxn]

As a kid I wasn't fighting back because i was more afraid of going to the principal's office than getting hit, that's fucked up.

[BokagaUJT]

1000% agree with him. Defending yourself under any circumstances (esp against bullies) builds confidence. Confidence that serves you well in all areas of your life!!!

[mattgibney]

Telling a teacher is the dumbest thing to do, they don’t do nothing & if this kid out here trying to bully kids it’s cause most likely their parents don’t give af. Teach ya kids to defend themselves people, knowing how to fight teaches you discipline & control. My big brother is a U.S. marines for 15years, he taught me to get in the gym, he’s the reason I’ve been in top shape my entire life, I’ve done jijutsu & I still do it till today. I take my little brother to the gym and he does jijutsu with me as well. Brought him as a freshman and I plan on continuing.

[ronniemartillo]

My parents told me growing up, “if someone hits you, you hit them back and you hit them back harder” “but if I find out that you started that fight, ima kick your ass” lmao

[seasong]

This will never work for everyone. Society has to take responsibility and has to punish the bullies.

[djtoxicdhg]

My mom always taught me don't ever throw the first punch. But if you get hit you better defend yourself..

[HOTSHTMAN]

Was bullied when i was a kid. One thing I never forget is that Bullys learn with fear. Got bullied by 3 unrelated people. To each of them i gave a punch, the moment I did, never got bullied again

[RafaelOrtiz-zq]

My moms exact words “they hit u, hit back with twice the force”😂😂😂

[Karda_Nava]

I grew up being taught not to start the fight, but to certainly finish it.

[FalloutUrMum]

When I was in school, winning a fight just encouraged more people to want to fight me because they wanted to be the tough guy while I just wanted to be left alone

[ajb]

People try to push me around and bully, but I stand my ground. I'm only 5 foot 4 guy. I never let a bully or anyone mistreat me. No way that's not going to fly.

[MrShabz]

When you get bullied, pull guard. Great advice