Is this your real personality? 5 Childhood Trauma Personalities

In this video, I cover what I believe to be five trauma based personality types that are not our true personality. I cover the behaviors, intimacy problems, social problems, where it comes from, and how to work on it by being more real.

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Chapters:
0:00 Intro
4:50 Personality #1 - The Doer (Gotta Do Something!)
7:48 Personality #1 - The Doer (Gotta Do Something!) - How It's Formed in Childhood Trauma
8:47 Personality #1 - The Doer (Gotta Do Something!) - How They Struggle in Intimacy
9:28 Personality #1 - The Doer (Gotta Do Something!) - Isn't This Just Who I Am?
10:06 Personality #1 - The Doer (Gotta Do Something!) - How to Become More Real
11:33 Personality #2 - The Hostile (Hey, Listen to Me!)
14:36 Personality #2 - The Hostile (Hey, Listen to Me!) - How It's Formed in Childhood Trauma
16:33 Personality #2 - The Hostile (Hey, Listen to Me!) - How They Struggle in Intimacy
17:23 Personality #2 - The Hostile (Hey, Listen to Me!) - Isn't This Just Who I Am?
18:24 Personality #2 - The Hostile (Hey, Listen to Me!) - How to Become More Real
20:24 Personality #3 - The Darkness (What Do I Do?! or What’s the Point?)
22:52 Personality #3 - The Darkness (What Do I Do?! or What’s the Point?) - How It's Formed in Childhood Trauma
24:05 Personality #3 - The Darkness (What Do I Do?! or What’s the Point?) - How They Struggle in Intimacy
25:25 Personality #3 - The Darkness (What Do I Do?! or What’s the Point?) - Isn't This Just Who I Am?
27:00 Personality #3 - The Darkness (What Do I Do?! or What’s the Point?) - How to Become More Real
27:33 Personality #4 - The Ghost (How Do I Get Out of Here?)
30:05 Personality #4 - The Ghost (How Do I Get Out of Here?) - How It's Formed in Childhood Trauma
31:26 Personality #4 - The Ghost (How Do I Get Out of Here?) - How They Struggle in Intimacy
32:46 Personality #4 - The Ghost (How Do I Get Out of Here?) - Isn't This Just Who I Am?
33:21 Personality #4 - The Ghost (How Do I Get Out of Here?) - How to Become More Real
34:37 Personality #5 - The Are We Good? (We’re Ok Right?)
38:14 Personality #5 - The Are We Good? (We’re Ok Right?) - How It's Formed in Childhood Trauma
39:27 Personality #5 - The Are We Good? (We’re Ok Right?) - How They Struggle in Intimacy
40:34 Personality #5 - The Are We Good? (We’re Ok Right?) - Isn't This Just Who I Am?
41:26 Personality #5 - The Are We Good? (We’re Ok Right?) - How to Become More Real
42:53 Final Thoughts
45:34 Connect With Me
46:49 Outro

[Eric.T.Cartman]

I heard someone once say “healing can be so hard when your inner child wants love, your teenage self wants revenge, and your current self only wants peace”

[Ouldoll]

My mum always said, as a criticism, “you were always so happy as a child, I don’t know what happened to you”. You mum, you happened. You sucked the life outta me and at 54, I’m still trying to figure out what I’m really like!!

[Monaster]

This video made me realize something. When I was a kid, I spent every moment either terrified of getting screamed at, shutting down, or hating myself and wanting to die. Then one day, out of the blue, I became angry. I get upset easily and lash out at everything. But ever since I became angry, I stopped feeling suicidal. I never realized it, but my anger issues must have developed to keep me alive.

[Hmmtsk]

"Those who have a happy childhood embrace their life with their childhood.
Those who have unfortunate childhood use their whole life to heal their wounds"

[budbud]

1. Wow that sounds like me
2. Wow that sounds like me
3. Wow that sounds like me
4. Wow that sounds like me
5. Wow that sounds like me

A big shout out to all those wonderful adults who influenced and impacted my childhood.

[feurigerStern]

I often wonder what I would have been like without my childhood trauma.

[mueykyr]

If you have one parent toxic, the other parent is disturbed, too.

[XanVicious]

Growing up as a hostile and seeing how functional families behave is truly one of the most heartbreaking things you can go through. You feel like you’ve been robbed of something that everyone is “entitled” to… nothing hurts more than realizing your s/o is a normal person and you’re just damaged goods…

[tomaskey]

A counselor told me I was hostile and it pissed me off. 😂

[ashleypg]

I'm a Ghost. It's really lonely. People have said about me, "She's hard to know." I'm most comfortable in isolation.

[vickil]

I was such a cute little girl. I’ll never understand how my parents could treat such a cute little girl so badly.

[DebHell]

the not dressing the kids according to the weather really got me because one of my strongest childhood memories are me feeling so cold during weekend afternoons.

[PinkElfHSP]

"Being the focus is usually interpreted as being in trouble, or being shameful." Thank you for explaining why attention feels unsafe.

[charlieleseman]

I'm a doer with ADHD. Which means I'm always distracting myself and trying to solve problems, but I'm not accomplishing shit.

[NotAnExtraterrestrial]

“Don’t take this as ‘just be positive’ it’s obnoxious.” Thank you for pointing that out. Trauma and depression as well as anxiety is hard to work around and it’s not just a ‘pull yourself up by the bootstraps’ moment, it’s that you have no more bootstraps to pull on, and you need time and a professional guiding you through your issues.

[PaulMercedes]

I didn’t know the “Are we Good” is a thing…I’ve just always been told I’m “way to nice for my own good”. My insomnia is riddled with racing thoughts of every conversation I’ve had and will have over the week. This causes bi monthly exhaustion from the anxiety and i become a ghost for at least 2-3 days every month or so. The two very much go hand in hand.

[hejshari]

This reminds me how shocked I am (when I think about it) that there are many people…literally just walking around, having lives…who weren’t raised in abuse. It’s unfathomable.

[IIcorrinthians]

Unfortunately, in a narcissistic family, they they start chipping away at the authentic child the moment the child begins to exhibit any signs of independence or thinking for themselves.

[TMichelle]

Before puberty and before the worst of my trauma i was bubbly and made friends with everyone - puberty hit and i completely did a 180 in my personality and became introverted and painfully self conscious