The Two Post-Divorce Milestones You MUST Reach to Move On

Are you wondering why you don't feel like you've on from your divorce? It may be that you haven't yet reached these milestones. Learn more!

[baileybug]

Hi. I am in the process of a divorce after my husband of 40 years just left me 2 months ago. He just told me on a Sunday morning that he no longer loved me and moved out the next day. I can never forgive him for this hurt after so many years and never knowing that he felt this way. I am still in shock as are our adult children and extended family. I want to move on and do not want to see him ever again. I cry everyday

[jjjakeee]

I’m still denying that she’s really gone. There was so much love for so long, I don’t understand how it can be over. This hurts to hear, but your advice is sound. Thank you.

[satriani]

Its been six years since we divorced after a traumatic short marriage. 3 kids...
The last 3 years has been no contact, only texting, emailin... verbal communication would have triggered deep toxicity form the mariiage...
It worked for me and I was getting better. neither of us had anybody in our lives. I am not able to trust anybody to risk another such emotionally traumatic episode in my life...
Last week I got the info that my ex wife has moved on with another man.
The grief cycle has started again... I fucking hate this shit. I wanna die... It will never be over...

[MarvinRWard]

That second milestone is near impossible. Especially when they've cheated. You almost want them to pay.

[PierTampa]

The most important relationship is the one we have with ourselves. Without becoming intimately vulnerable with who we are, our history, our victories and losses, and accepting the fullness of our being, we can’t move on and be open and real with anyone else, nor can we be open to accept someone else as they are. Accepting oneself is not a goal but a journey built on small daily steps.

[baddiegabbie]

I'll never understand or comprehend how we failed. Goodbye Kristopher 🥀🥀

[vbarberful]

Thank you! My first post divorce intimate relationship was a female platonic friendship. We were both healing post divorce. It was everything you could be vulnerable, we went on lots of adventures together like learning to golf, Salsa dance, and tango. We still have so much fun together and I'm sure we'll be lifelong friends. Thank you for pointing that out.

[lacygorman]

After 30+ years, I am totally free to do whatever I want without having to consider anyone else.
My divorce was a bloody mess due to the new child gf sticking her nose 👃 where it certainly did not belong.
Right up to getting a restraining order against her.
In the end, I got what I needed and most of what I asked for.
It has to be enough, which is plenty.
I don't care what he does or who he does it with.
Get to that phase and you're golden.
Start a new life from scratch.
Find a job you like. Find new people to be friends with.
Lean on your tribe when you need them because that's what friends are for.
Clear the old baggage of your life because something better than mediocre is on the way if you're not stuck in quicksand.

[jjcoll]

It's been close to 4 years since we separated. This year we stopped all communication. It's this year that slowly I've allowed someone to get close to me and it's unlocking so much grief I've had hidden. It's surprising how much one can still have after so many years have passed

[jimmynebula]

The reason I am still suffering is because I had faith in God to restore my marriage rather than cope with the loss. I kept praying to God for my young daughters sake and I would feel in my heart to read verses and they would be of faith and hope. Or ask and you shall receive. To me this is God putting hope, all I’m getting is hate from the ex and hopelessness. I just got a request for trial in the mail today and now I feel broken and defeated. I’m just angry at God that he would allow this in my life at my age and knowing what I’ve been through previous to meeting my wife 7 years ago. The one stability I had was my family and now they are gone. I don’t know what lesson is being taught but this is the type of thing that creates atheists. Im sorry people I needed to vent, don’t judge me just pray for me. Thank you.

[divorcedevilyoutubechannel]

I've seen those triggers can raise their ugly head years later. A song, a place, a thing and/or a person can all be triggers where you thought your were healed and then you weren't. I finally found out that was ok. It was just part of the process....Thanks

[christinec.]

good news is I dove deep into my self spirituality & I learned how to shed toxic thinking & living. I turned tragedy into living in a higher sputirual vibration. I'm not the same person I was 3 yrs ago

[johnmaxwell]

Thanks for that. I'm single forever now. I won't do this ever again.

[JillyBeann]

I did this after my first marriage and ended up marrying my safe person- he just walked out this week. And the pain is nothing like I EVER experienced. I feel like I’m dying! I have 3 kids - he told his therapist —-he never wanted to be with me to begin with…. I don’t want to love anymore

[evenshine]

Thank you for this! You have no idea how much I needed to hear this right now.

[bloodthirsty]

My ex and I weren’t happy for many years. Then finally she asked for the divorce. This experience is the absolute most challenging and painful that I have ever tried to deal with. I’m finally starting therapy and getting help because I now realize that I will eventually give up on life completely if I don’t get help. After months of struggling and deep depression I’m hopeful that treatment and therapy will bring me back to life.

[DaughterOfLove]

I am slowly accepting that he has moved on. My heart longs for someone I can be vulnerable with because at the moment I cannot afford therapy. I just have everything killing me inside

[kirtisoma]

After everything I have been through on all levels, in a space of ten years I feel like I rather be alone for the rest of my life😢im so done

[shadowtempest]

Its been 3 years since my wife left me, Im doing a lot better but it still hurts a lot still. I still get stuck in my head a lot and can't focus on things and still think about her.

[SecondLittlePig]

#2 -- As the one who initiated the divorce, 😂😂😂 SO happy when they found someone. But trusting? Not sure. Lots of broken promises, deflection, and blaming. So toxic.