If you feel alone, watch this.

Are you feeling alone lately? Do you feel isolated from everyone else? Even though the feelings of loneliness and being alone are different, they could mean the same thing. In the context of this video, you feel alone when you feel you have no one you can depend on. For example, living alone, or not having any friends. However, you might not be as alone as you think! Sometimes, the feelings of loneliness is only when we don't realize what we already have.

Writer: Chloe Avenasa
Script Editor: Vanessa Tao
Script Manager: Kelly Soong
YouTube Manager: Cindy Cheong

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[Psychgo]

Comment below what time it is there right now as you watch this.

[fiercenfluffy]

"you don't want to burden people with your problems"

that hit really close to home

[dendroslime]

This is depressing. I clicked on the video to find hope that I am not actually lonely but got a dose of reality instead. I do not have a good friend or two mainly because I prioritize quality relationships over quantity so for 18 years I have failed to form deep, inseverable bonds from countless people I've met. The only "people" I could get help from are the voices in my head, sometimes they say really encouraging things or downright painful and they even give me life-changing advice from time to time, most notably when I am feeling defeated. I have no one to talk to about my hobbies and interests that has a physical form. While I enjoy talking "to myself", it gets dull eventually because you know what they say, variety is the spice of life. I don't have any people to check in nor do they check in on me because screw them. As a member of an extended family, all of them don't give an eye on me despite them numbering more or less fifty. Everytime I open up about my hobbies and interests, it's painful to see their reactions and responses. To be fair, they also do not talk about their hobbies or interests but I see them getting along pretty well in a conversation. The problem is me, I just can't squeeze myself in their topics as its too shallow. I could go on autopilot and not miss a beat on what they're talking about. My family does not engage in deeper and meaningful conversations. I once tried opening a topic and what did I get in return? Bloody crickets that's what. I mean could have responded with curious eyes and asked me questions about it but no, they had to give me non-verbal "oK nErD". I met someone smarter than me and much wiser but most of the time when I question him he responds me in a really angry tone and doesn't even answer my question or explains his point. So whenever he tell me something, I just blindly follow it to avoid conflict and for the sake of my skin. I hope this comment gets to someone I've been looking for, please.

[CammyTheSportsEntertainer]

Man, I needed to watch this. In my darkest times I lose perspective and think nobody cares for me because I feel so awful about myself. It's cost me some friends. Videos like this puts things into perspective. You do an amazing job as always. This channel has helped me, so much in some difficult times. Depression has almost got the best of me twice. Luckily I'm still here. 🌻

[ives]

Food For Thought: Sometimes, loneliness is not being alone, but that sad feeling that no one loves you and cares about you.

[psychgomandarin]

0:00 Intro
0:33 1. You have a good friend or two
1:08 2. You have people you can get help from
1:40 3. You have people who can give you advice
2:08 4. You can talk about your hobbies and interests
2:42 5. You have people you regularly check in with
3:21 6. You're careful about who you let in
3:55 Outro

[lennylink]

Gosh this made me realized how lonely i am, literally none of these applies to me, i literally have no one, like zero, nothing.. and its been a couple of years and im just 21
Even online and its not helpful, imean i definitely meet interesting people, but it never lasts, always temporary and they all happen to have friends either online or irl, and i always end up alone..

[ScarletWFire]

1. I haven't spoken with any friends of mine in weeks that wasn't just sending the occasional funny meme. I can't trust them to help me when I'm down

2. If I asked, I'm pretty certain they'd help. Again, no emotional problems. Everyone i know is normally pretty bad at comforting me

3. Yeah, I suppose. Again, no emotional advice.

4. No. Nobody I know shares my interests or really seems to care to hear more. I just think I'm confusing them so they smile and nod.

5. I tell my gf good morning, or make sure she's doing okay that day, as a good partner should

6. Not me. I'll unhealthily let anyone in who bothers to show emotion or interest towards me. Special to that person who is so excited to talk to me again.

I'm lonely, but not alone. Honestly, it kinda hurts a bit more because there are more people around

[bestiewestie]

This has made me realise I really am alone 🧍‍♀️

[sayaakami]

That was really helpful especially cause i was feeling all alone with my problems and thinking i have no one to tell but i realized it's me not opening up and asking for help 😭💙

[Vivid.imagination]

“I was glad when the friendship started but every book must tell it’s end”
When I mean this is when you find out how many toxic friendships you have held I have had many of that. So it’s gonna be hard to actually find a friend who understands you more then your “friends”

[renmarie]

How do you always post the exact video I need at the right moments?

[grapeisking]

I definitely needed this. As my life was slowly going better, I'm now reassured that I can definitely reach the goal of being happy again. Thank you.

[lonewolfnergiganos]

Having two friends are enough for me in my opinion, because it's best to have a few friends than having a lot of them, especially if most of them are extremely toxic.

[improvementspace]

“You are blessed, You are great. You are not alone. You are powerful.” ― Amit Ray

[gamerftw]

No, i am truly alone. No one to talk to or even play some games with. That all disappeared years ago.

[augustistiredasf]

lmfaaooo after watching this I'm like "damn man, I surely am lonely" lol

[byonty]

i have few friends but i have my family that i love so much, i just wish to have some friend to talk about my hobbies because my current friends and i have different interests and sometimes i feel so lonely. To all the lonely ppl out here, we will find someone someday, just keep it up and love yourself ❤

[khalilahd.]

Even though I know a lot of people can relate to loneliness videos like this remind us to be grateful for the small things and change our mindset 💛

[pandabytes]

This just made me feel even lonier... I can't say that any of these things are true for me. My parents are gone, my "siblings" never even say hi, and I don't have anyone that I talk to at any point in any given month. I'm to busy hiding from the world and I don't know how to overcome my anxiety to change that.