2 ways to deal with an INTENSE boss

DISCLAIMER: This isn't always advised and it depends on context such as the authority level you have in the situation!

Have you been in a situation like this before? And what did you do to resolve it?

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[wile]

If a boss has low EQ, they are unworthy of the position

[FancyFitnics]

I support this message😌
If either of these dont work for you, that company/boss aint for you

[littleripper]

The biggest mistake I see people make is trying to deal with conflicts in the moment when emotions are high. This is great advice. Leaving the discussion for the next day is often the best approach for topics like this.

[jasperdalesamaniego]

My gosh! I'd rather find another company/boss to work with than to endure uncomfortable behaviour because I know what it will bring to my own health in the long run.

[readingbug]

I am in this situation now. I will try this technique at the right time, thanks vinh! My new boss is like that, and for the first time I felt like I wanted to change a job I love just because of my intense boss. But then I read a book called “Surrounded by Idiots” (it is a sarcastic title obv) and realised my boss is a RED personality type. The RED personality type glares at you and raise their voice in front of others. The book says RED type sometimes genuinely doesn’t realise that they scare people. The book tells a real story from a RED’s perspective and she says “I only raise my voice because I want to emphasize how important it is, why can’t we talk like grown-ups?” Anyways interesting overall.

[rtzqjvx]

Maybe it works for somebody. But not for me.
If someone talk with you aggressivle, intense you should stay straight, shoulders wide, head up, both your hands slightly bent, left leg in front of you. It says "I ready for action. I am not afraid of you, mfkr". You replaying or saying something a bit louder than normal. Dont give answer emidietly, open your mouth after 2 or 3 second after question. Look in the eyes. Your replicks should be short, definitely (monosemantic?univocal?) - "No, you dont" or "I already did this" or "I dont see any point in this". Imagine... boss like your drunk dad. You respect him. But if he cross the line you kick his drunk ass.

[beulah-]

It's best to always assume they have low EQ

[AlexandraaaIst]

This is great advice. I have experienced this all my life with certain people. But many times I forget to adjust myself at their low EQ, and give time and space. I just immediately removed this toxic behaviour. It is too much courting and pretending, in order to get what you need or want. Especially when they have low IQ and IQ. 💩🤣

[FithriyaaniRashidi]

Note technique to deal :
1. Mirror them and check the level of authority u have before trying this :
-I can see what you’re saying, (name) and i know it is frustrating you
-I can feel everything what you said, (name)

2. Talk to them after (time and space), later or tomorrow coz sometimes they can be irrational :
When you were talking to me before yesterday, just during lunch, i noticed you were full on and it felt pretty intense. Were there any underlying messages? Were you angry /sad at me?

[anevabay]

Not negating what you are saying.. but most of my bosses who resort to yelling at their subordinates do not care to EVER listen or change

[razielt]

Hey love your work Vinh!
I’d appreciate if anyone could share their wisdom on what’s EQ?
🙏

[emilyb]

Great video, really appreciate your content! Smart to waot for them to cool down. Also neat to phrase enquiry like you yourself might have done something to trigger it rather than that you want to tell them they are an idiot and need to sort their behavior 😅.

Request - could you do some content on online job interviews? I can't see it in your videos and aure it would help a lot of people - the whole look at camera to make (fake) eye contact thing for example - then you miss their actual fscial expressions!?

[nobodys]

what if I as the one in charge, use low tone to explain over and over because the employee rejects and keep avoiding with reasons.

is it wrong to use intense tone?

Context:
- the employee was at fault for creating an accident that can be prevented easily.
- thus I explain kindly and politely, how and what can my employee improve in the future
- the employee keep avoiding by telling me reasons that is unrelated and unnecessaries

[NeerajSingh-gnhu]

Hey vinh, i am really intrested on the Topic of "hooking people " teach us about that, plz

[jpdoc]

that “Boss” is probably the business owner😞
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[adityasood.]

hey man, i just wanna know your opinion on this thought, whenever im talking to someone, maybe telling them some story or anything, i tend to talk fast thinking i might be wasting time of the other person. i know i shouldnt be talking fast so how do i think in such a situation ?

[normal]

Tell them to stop drinking tons of coffee or Red Bull

[orangepacker]

Maybe luke should have tried this

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[CA_]

Hey Vinh! Can you tell how to descalate a fight? I mean, the best way in a fight or in similar situation is to talk and try to calm the other guy down rather than hurting them and going to jail, so I was wondering, how to descalate and calm the other person down?

[geophysics_gamer]

One day, my angry boss was yelling at me furiously, so whipped out my pocket mirror and 'mirrored' him. He questioned my sanity and asked me, "what are you doing?" I responded swiftly with, "I'll talk to you after..."
I've never spoken to him ever since.