How Do I Stop Lending Money To My Family?

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[anya]

My sister stopped lending me by moving away, so I helped myself by working more, now I'm in a very good place.

[mikewright]

I get so tired that people think that they have a right to what you have earned.

[PInkW]

I got divorced
I called my rich brother to ask him for
$2000 to help me get an aprt.
He said no
As I hung up the phone
I told myself
Now either u sink or swim
Now 30yrs later I’m doing great

[dorisdepinar]

Someone stopped me from doing this. He explained if I kept doing this, they would never try to help themselves. And I was contributing to harm them instead of helping. It was hard but I stopped.

[TroubleActual]

My uncle simplified this for me years ago. You can't help somebody who's contributing zero! Zero times any number is still zero.

[Whatorwellsaid]

There is a phrase in Spanish that says, “to one who lacks shame, you respond without shame.”

[breevestal]

I loaned my brother $1000 once and he never paid us back. Now he can never ask us for money again.

[lyndaprice]

Helping people isn't always about money.
It could be encouraging people to live a healthy lifestyle, Educating them about finance, emotional support or doing the lawns for an elderly neighbor.
You can't help fill a bucket if it has a big hole in it.
These people probably aren't wanting any true help

[Sheryl]

Wow Dave is so right about how we end up being doormats so many times when we try to be nice and help others financially. That is SO true! (As I've found out myself).

[Josh_Morales]

When it comes to family, it’s best to live by the phrase, give a man a fish 🐠 he will eat for a day but teach a man to fish 🎣 and he will eat for a lifetime!

[warrentrout]

Just say no. If they hate you for it, they are not worth having anyway.

[LASKANDUDE]

My mom does this all of the time. She an enabler with two adults in our family. They are 48 and 32.

[ytr]

They have learned to depend on you. Help them in other ways.

[mrcrowleyoz]

When people who owe you money are spending money in unnecessary things, it’s time to ask for your money back. If they aren’t good with money, don’t lend them in the first place:

[Rashaadthegr]

The hardest is when you had a good parent.

[BarelyNoticedADD]

Nice to know that Dave is still making mistakes and owning them.

[nema]

John and Dave are on FIRE with this one!

[phillipneufeld]

If you wanna get rid of people in Your THEM MONEY 💰 💰 💰 💰 💰

[lyndaslocs]

My guess is that part of the caller's culture dictates "helping" family members. Then, to seal the deal, his parents made him promise to help. I have helped a sibling out, but it didn't harm me financially. I would try very hard not to do it again, however. If I were in a position to do it, I would help her pay down her student loans. These days, even people with health conditions can work fro home.

[rinistephenson]

I was a dialysis technician for years, and we had patients who had jobs. They couldn't work every job but they could work some jobs, and medical counseling can help people find them.