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[offirlemos]

I was hyper independent for 20 yrs..Once I worked in my trauma and was able to healed myself I realized I had no one to blame but myself for staying single so long. I thank God I’m now a better, healthier, happier version of me who has given herself the opportunity to love once again

[donaldcash]

My God. Such complication. I'm getting a puppy tomorrow.

[fishunit]

I’m definitely one of those people. Grew up in an extremely emotionally abusive environment. First two major relationships completely pushed both partners away. You do it because your brain is fundamentally terrified of connection: it’s a protective mechanism from being hurt. The only thing I’d add to her insight is that all of it is entirely subconscious, you are completely unaware of the fact you are doing it (at least I was).

[SquidDesign]

I went through a relationship like this and it left me drained and feeling so gaslit… still recovering from it

[TheHoodfamous]

She described my X

My advice is leave as soon as it happens rather than waste 20yrs

[danwilliamson]

Trust issues, communication issues, fears itimacy, being vunrable, liked being independent over a relationship. Lacks self awareness, empthy. Ive been their its emotionally draining they never let you in. That wall is set so high to prtect themselves. No matter what you do its not going to be enough. SELF SABOTAGE is inevitable

[SimoneClaude_]

The on-again, off-again relationship is exactly this.

[johnrsherwood]

Had a girl like this, I never knew if we were going or coming.

Finally told her to go kick rocks...

[PanethGian]

Needing some personal space is different from the tendency to not fully commit to your partner. I love being alone and do things creatively alone from time to time and not always with my partner directly involved also not giving a report to every single thing that I do to my partner is really essential to me. It is not secretive I just do things spontaneously without feeling the need to tell my partner all the time and that is called trust . So people need to differentiate between freedom and commitment. Commitment is linking yourself to your significant other in a way that you go through life together and evolve together. The way this bond forms is expressed how the couple defines it and if that thing involves respecting the need to do things on your own sometimes if your other half resonates with that then the bond will strengthen if it doesn’t then you might want to look for another more suited partner to you

[witchywisdom]

I do this 😢. It’s not just men, women do it too and I’m in therapy for this.

[jubenysmartinez]

Saudia is absolutely gorgeous articulate and intelligent

[robertyou]

When I was dating and met an Avoidant attachment style woman, I immediately let her go. I tried a few times in the beginning, 10 months one time, but it's simply not worth it. The damage goes so deep that it takes years, even decades, to fix. And many times it's not even fixable. Avoidant attachment is a *huge* red flag for me. Not worth it.

[Pyappers]

This is me. I've never heard it described before. I could never understand why when I met a girl I liked I'd start to connect with other women.

[anonplussedhuman]

Sounds like hell. I've mostly recovered from anxious but to be avoidant and always feel like you can't breathe for long must feel awful.

[Hypnotyz]

She’s such a queen look at her hair omg

[MichelleSummerDiiva]

I’m seeing a guy like this it’s so stressful because I’m have an anxious attachment style and I get anxiety attacks

[gordonsutter]

Space is good in any relationship, especially after being with someone for any length of time.

[tonitv]

what a headache! So hard to remain chemically balanced with those unusually weird people!

[lillianpilto]

For a long time I was avoidant, I’ve had to work out my attachment to better bond with my husband. ❤ I never cheated (in any relationship) but depending on someone else and asking for help took a toll on me.

[desertdog]

Articulate, insightful compassionate and useful. Thankyou.