Ep. 5: How Do You Cope With Grief And Loss? | Attaching to Allah

While grief is inevitable, it’s never easy. Losing loved ones, whether through death, disbelief, divorce, or other means, can send us spinning into deep spirals of sorrow. We can and should acknowledge our grief, and while we do, we can take heart in the story of Prophet Ibrahim (as), whose life was defined by the loss of everyone he loved—but who looked forward to his ultimate reunion with his Lord.

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[aslimtaslam]

Don't avoid the grief
Don't deny the grief
Accept the grief
Live the grief
Express the grief
There is no shame to live the grief.
We are not supposed to act like braves in front of our grief.

[zazamonkey]

Assalam alaikum. My nephew passed away just 3 days ago. He was 24, will be 25 in October. He was kind, always helping others, he had the biggest heart I ever saw in someone, and was a very good Muslim. He never missed prayer, always make sure to tell everyone it was time to pray. This level of kindness is extremely rare and alhamdoulilah he was a very good Muslim. He was older than me but still respected me as an aunt yet was my best friend. He was my other half and now that he's gone I'm telling myself I should have appreciated more than I did, because he was so wonderful. I should've done that and that. I still feel like he just went on vacation and will comeback. But Allah is the one who decide and he's Almighty. He took him from us and he know why. It hurts so much but I respect Allah's décision. I'm trying to concentrate more on the positive and all the goods deeds he did in his life. Allah took him because it was the best for him and that lessens the pain of his loss. He died on a Friday and on the 1st day of Dhul hijja. Mashallah. I hope and pray he has it easier in the tomb and that he will acceed to Aljanna. Please everyone make a lot of Douah for him. That's the only thing we who are left on earth can do to our deceased. Please pray that he has it easy on his way. Thank you all.

[zhussain]

We can never truly appreciate the loss of others..I always felt complete when people often spoke of Thier loss untill last week when my father passed away..such a beautiful humble yet wise and a very knowledgeable man..
When we our born to our parents we are a gift from Allah to them..now i feel incomplete and that he was my gift in my life...
I had an unfinished chapter in life with my father...I now get up everyday to do him proud and insha'Allah continue for my kids..
Father's are the backbone and the bond of the family.
My dua's goes out to all that grive a loss..
It's hard... 😢

[fatimaabdullahi]

I wish this series existed years back, we need 10 more exactly like this. The mental health perspective along with the story telling component is really therapeutic and makes me reflect on my own life experiences ehile connecting them to the prophets’ lives!

[ammaar]

Assalam u alaikum. So I wanted to share a moment in my life that I think is the reason I came close to Allah, and the reason I feel Allah has a special eye on me. It's sort of long, so bear with me.

I was 16 years old when my father passed away. It was the most difficult part of my life because of the closeness I had with my father. He was a mentor to me, would often teach me the sunnah of rasulullah and the ways of life the way he learnt them. He was the strongest person I knew. And for me, he was the only person I've ever loved.

A year before he passed away. In Ramadan, I would get dreams of a funeral happening, and people mourning my dad. I used to wake up in the middle of the night and run to him saying, "abba what will I do without you?" And he would often tell me that I've taught you well. Before going to bed, I would make a prayer to Allah saying, "ya Allah, please take me before my father, because he can see my death but I cannot see his." This happened for a week, and every night I would make the same prayer and go to sleep. After a week everything was back to normal.

A year later. On December 31st. I was out playing and came home after maghrib, which was not allowed in my household, so my father was not happy with me. I would usually refrain from addressing a conflict and apologising, rather I'd just wait for the next day and my father would be good and happy with me again. But that night I just felt like I should apologise. So I did. And I rested my head on his lap and I cried because I felt sorry for disappointing him, and he kept telling me, you're doing great, you're going to do great.

After that it was bed time so my father told me to go sleep, because I had school tomorrow. So I went. And I slept. I'm the middle of the night my phone rang and I woke up, it was 1:45am. It was my aunt asking about my father, I got out of bed and roamed the house, no one was home. I told her I don't know and hung up. My other aunt then called me and asked me to come outside. As I went I saw an ambulance and my father was being carried out. He had passed away. I remember that sharp and painful grief I felt. And I just started crying recklessly.

After crying for an hour or so, it was fajr time. And I remembered my dua. So I went to pray alone in my home, and I started crying and saying, "I asked you to not let me see this, but if this is what you want, then give me the strength."

The next day, after the burial, my uncle gave me my father's hospital death certificate. I saw the time. And it was 1:45 Am.

Allah put me to sleep in the time my father was dying, he didn't show me his death. He heard my prayer. He heard me.

I look back and think of that fajr, the pain I had in me and still praised Allah. I think that's why I came so close to him again. That's why he didn't just let me fall astray, he pulled me back.

[aliyuraheenat]

My husband passed away early this year. May Allah make it easy on all of us left behind.

[zurinasaville]

I lost my 9yr old only child, a beautiful daughter to cancer 6 yes ago, my life was never the same again 😢. Can't wait to see her again at the doors of Janna.Azraa I miss you so much, it's hard, tough.I have beautiful memories of you.💔

[verucasalt]

I’m a revert and my sister and I are not close and have a lot of issues since I accepted Islam. I want to keep the lines of communication open, but won’t tolerate toxic or gaslighting behavior in my life anymore. The prophets (PBUT) are such amazing examples of dealing with hurtful family and other betrayals, I know I will fall short because I cannot easily forgive and forget. If you’re reading this, please make du’a for me and my sister. May Allah guide her to Islam, that would solve most of the issues. InshaAllah

[ibrahimrashida]

I lost my mum in July and since then my life has not been the same. I pray that Allah (SWT) forgive her shortcomings, grants her his mercy and forgive every Muslim who has passed away Ameen ya Hayyu ya qayyum

[bruceparker]

My father passed away last week on Tuesday. It was sudden. Please make Duas for him. I’m so hurt…

[cookwithxee]

To my mother Nana Aisha bint Muhammad and all the members of the ummah that have passed away. Ya Allah, Please Forgive them and grant them the highest rank in Jannah.
Ya Allah pls make their qabr a peaceful home. Ya Allah expand and illuminate their grave with light. May we all be Sadaqatul Jariya for our parents. Allahumma Ameen.

I lost my mum on Friday 25th of Dhul Qadah.
She was really looking forward to the first 10 days of dhul hijjah so she makes good use of them😭, but you plan and Allah plans and he’s the best of planners Alhamdulillah.

[marianisse]

My father passed away when I was young and my mother just passed away 2 months ego my Allah grant them both jannatul fardows🤲

[mohomedmurshid]

I lost my mom my heart beat my everything.. i dont knw how to live a life without her inshallah i will go through this pain and test. I wanna see that innocent face again. Make dua to give me sabr. I am just 22 and all my siblings are unmarried and my father also passed away. Its just soo hard bcs of her loss

[jomanarabah]

My husband passed away 1 month ago after 5 months of our wedding and that broke my whole heart as his loss came out of a sudden, the feeling is horribly difficult. But Subhan Allah the thing that keep me calm is dua and azthkar Alhamdullah May Allah grant us the Fardus with our loved ones

[nelineli]

I'm the only Muslim in my family and I'm very familiar to loss. I lost my mum when I was 19 and it was such a difficult time of my life. Allah helped me to deal with it in such a miraculous way that till now I don't understand how I was able to cope with it. However, the most shocking for me was my aunt (my mum's sister) who once came to me and told me that I had handled my mum's death the best out of our family. I was so surprised she said that, but I think the main reason I was able to handle it the way I did is because of Allah's mercy.

[Mmplayermayahh]

Asalaamu aleykum this video really Put my soul and my self to gather I really don’t want talk about it the worst thing is when nobody knows what happened to you and people try to call names the pain that you have and you’re struggling to find myself because I had a lost too but the Quran is the best friend that I have

[Sara-rtmq]

JazakAllah Khair for mentioning that grief can be in many forms, not just the death of a loved one. One can grieve over loss of unfulfilled dreams, loss of health, loss of time, loss of missed opportunities, etc. Ya Allah, please give us barakah in our health, wealth, time, sleep, and rizq, Allahumma Ameen.

[hasnamuhammad]

I couldn't say anything more than thank you Yaqeen Institute for making this series. What a wonderful one!

[ayshanasidi]

Alhamdulillah. Alhamdulillah ala ni’eematul Islam🥺. lost my husband on eid day through car accident. Pls include him in your prayers. It’s not easy living without him, but knowing we have Allah, nd Allah is always there for us and he’s the most known.

[arinalim]

My beloved father passed away last year due to COVID-19. My whole family tested positive for COVID-19 too. It was really hard to endure it, especially when you can't give a proper goodbye, couldn't kiss your father for the last time, and most tragically, you couldn't attend the funeral. The pain is excruciating. But I know Allah loves him more than us. May Allah reunited us in Jannah, Allahuma Aamiin 🤲🏻🤍